small problem

[stud0134]

Hi everyone Ok here's my problem.I went to a meeting last night and we were discussing making an amens and when I came to me,Iwas was sharing on how I wasnt that far yet and that the only amens I could think of right now was my family and Ive made those amens already.And the only other people I could think of Ive wronged was other addicts that was seling or people I stole drugs off of and how it would not be smart to go to them and put myself into danger.Ialso mentioned that my higher power whom i call god would put the other people I cant think off in my path when he feels Im ready.well a few mor people shared and this guy start saying he would have to be a ******* idiot not to know who he had to make amens to and just basicaly tryed to put everything I said right through the wall.I didnt say anything but I just wanted to go mid evil on his ass :AR15firin you know but I prayed and let it go but I like going to this meetingand I feel like hes going to keep ******* with me there and Im not going to want to share or me and him are going to have words so Im not sure what to do.anyways theres my problem.

[Paulie]

You did the right thing, pray for him. Remember Principles not Personalities. I know it is easier said than done. I have had that kinda thing happen to me in meetings before where someone shares after me and it feels like they are just ripping on everything I said. Sometimes it may be true and sometimes it may not. You dont' know maybe you just triggered something in this guy about himself.

Stick to your program, and worry about your amends when you get there.
God Bless.

[godsonmyside]

Just words out of someone elses mouth. Take what works and leave the rest. As I'm sure what this person said may of had nothing to do with you, could have just hit home somehow. Just be yourself and the rest will blend in, of course with some step work.

[Shakur T.]

Peace,
Stud that's called cross sharing where I come from and in a lot of meetings that's not allowed (stated in the format). I can remember being that same guy, thought I was the NA Correction Squad or something. Thank God for the steps and some quality clean time. I am no longer the same a**hole I was when I got here. You did the right thing by practicing some principle and not getting midevil on him...
Who knows why we (addicts) do some of the crazy stuff we do. Most of the time with me it's E (asing) G (od) O (ut)...I've learned that the quality of my recovery improves everytime I practice spiritual principles.
Pray for the brother and keep sharing.
BTW - The 9th step says that timing is essential and those of us who have worked this step know how God will put people in our path who we owe amends but may have forgotten. The steps are written in order, before I can work 9, I have to work the previous steps with a sponsor, so that I can become willing to make those amends.
Don't sweat it.
Peace.

[junem]

I agree. The best thing you can do is pray for him and if he says anything else to you in the future just tell him that you respect his right to his own opinion and leave it at that. Principle not personality is one of the greatest traditions for it helps us to be tolerant of others so that we don't feel we need to compromise our own sobriety by letting someone get under our skin. I figure I am too important and my sobriety is to imprtant to let anyone intimidate me at meetings. I choose not to bothered by any such person. Keep on sharing. It is what keeps us clean and sober, sane and alive!!!!

[stud0134]

thanks guys,I think he does have problems becouse He just cant stay clean so Ill keep praying for him and the next time I see him Instead of getting upset Ill go up and give him a hug ang tell him i love em. and you guys are right if it wasnt for me working those simple spiritual principals in my life I might have done something stupid but I dont have to live insane anymore I love you guys

[Gooch]

Wow what an ass!

Really thats what my first reaction would have been. And there was a time I might have had to point it out to him.

You did great.

You allready made an ammend to him and he doesn't even know it. It was covered under "such people"

Ammends is about change. You prayed for him instead of beating the daylights out of him! See he's got gratitude for things he doesn't even know about. lol

We caused many people great harm but most of all we harmed ourselves

The greatest ammend we can make to others and ourselves is to stay clean and stay active in the process.

[junem]

Well said Gooch!

[bobbyd]

I call it competitive sharing. Sometimes people have to do this to try to make themselves look good. An opinion is just another person's perspective, which by the way, you don't have to agree with. Just smile and nod.
Keep going to meetings.
Your HP loves you.
bobbyd