Unable to share at Meetings

[jasonl82]

Hi my name's Jason and I'm an Addict. I've got about a hundred days goin right now and things have been moving along smoothly. I go to like 5 meetings a week and recently I've been having this constant problem where I just can't raise my hand and share. It's really strange cause earlier in my recovery I would share every chance I got. I don't know if it's just that I don't have any serious problems right now, maybe that I don't have a real desire to use so I feel I should let other people share. I just don't know anymore. If anyone else can relate to this I'd love to get some feedback, thanks.
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Jason L
jl4150@stu.aii.edu

[Gooch]

Hi Jason.

Welcome.

Whether we are having a good day or a bad day, we all have something to share.

Sometimes the quietest person who shows up, never says a word, but smiles and hugs other addicts shares the most powerful message.

Thanks for sharing.

[Recoveree]

Originally Posted by jasonl82

. I've got about a hundred days goin right now

so I feel I should let other people share.jl4150@stu.aii.edu

Jason, why don't you raise your hand and share that you have 100 days clean to give hope to other addicts who need to hear that staying clean is possible a day at a time. You never know what else will come out of your mouth once it is open.

Help someone else like you were helped.

Richie

[splendra]

Jason-

Congrats on the 100 days that is just wonderful. IMO if we have nothing to say it is a good time to listen. I learn a lot when I keep my mouth shut....

[Gooch]

I learn a lot when I keep my mouth shut....

great idea Splen ! my turn lol

[splendra]

Another good one is I try not to talk when I don't have anything to say....

[godsonmyside]

Active listening is where the miracle happens. Also its not just about having problems, its about how to stay clean and recover. We are after all visions of hope!!!

[Shakur T.]

Peace,
Congratulations Jason, you are a miracle. For me, it's ok to just sit back and listen...The most important information I've gotten in this process is when I am an active listener. I like to talk to people after the meeting about what I related to when I heard them share. Recovery is a journey and along this path what worked for me today maybe different a week from now...I just roll with the punches, work on what I can and keep coming back.

So far, so good. Peace, my man....

[ohsotired]

hi- congratulations on your time- although it's just for the day. i had seven months, and was calling my sponsor every day- 5 to 10 times a day- going to millions of meetings and i wasn't sharing regularly- and when i did share, i was not sharing from the heart. i picked up 22 days ago. i am only suggested to share at beginner meetings now, and i got into the habbit of raising my hand as soon as the floor opens up. if i have nothing to say i share that i have nothing to say. for me, putting my hand up regularly even when i have nothing to say will make it easier when i DO have something to say- not that sitting and listening is bad- i do that too, i personlly thnk it is a good habit to get into to share at beginner meeings- it's doing something differently from before i picked up- and my cravings have diminished severly.
hope this helped a little,
an addict named nicole

[abtchonamission]

My addict fiance shares sometimes, doesn't others. He tells me about this - sometimes he gets more out of listening than he does sharing, especially if sharing makes him feel like he's whining.

[jasonl82]

Thank you everyone for your advice it means a lot to me. I've been actively listening all the time and I feel like I should probably just share at meetings that I have trouble sharing. One of the things I feel very strongly about is sharing honestly and from the heart, I'm not one to share because I like to hear myself talk. Thanks again to everyone :veryhappy