THC +Paxel+xanax what will it =

[guitarzan]

Hello all ,my girl friend has a drinking problem that she has been working on for several months ( no drinking now for 4 month but she in prescribed paxel and xanax the part i wonder is what effect will her smoking pot have on these drugs she is a alcholic,she knows it and I feel she is subbing the pot for the booze, she dont feel that way .I have asked questions here in the past and everyone said the same thing drop her but i do love her and it is very hard to just walk away. when she smokes she gets very distant she wont do it around me but sometimes when I get to her she is already buzzed..this is killing me , she has a girl friend that i belive she is smoking with I dont want my life to be lived in a cloud of smoke. If there is a void in her life in my mind i should be able to fill it guess thats just not true. she has a doctor's, apointment tomorrow and i wonder if i should encourage her to tell the doc about the pot. damm this is confusing.any sugestions? and let me thank you all for having such a great site guitarzan

[Chy]

Hi and welcome guitarzan. Though I don't know about mixing the meds and pot.. your right it can't be good. Often alcoholics and addicts switch from one addiction to another and find a way to justify it. She has a problem and needs help. She won't seek out help because of you for you or even herself until she is completly ready to quit. I know it must be hard watching her obliviate herself over and over, but your hands are tied.

Sure she should tell her doctor.. but I'm betting she won't, I sure didn't. She get's distant because she has become dependant on dealing with feeling and emotins via her drug(s), don't blame yourself this all about her and her disease or addiction.

In the meantime I do hope you visit the Nar-Anon forum and seek out support and friendship there. You have to take care of you and you won't be her knight in shining armour until she is ready. Glad you found us and again, welcome!

[LuPac]

Unfortunety I know to well the side affects of smoking pot and mixing prescription pills. Basically its not good. She is using three different kinds of depressants. Now all that it is going to do is make her really really relaxed. Now I don't know how many pills she is taking but if she is taking more than 2 of each you need to tell her to not smoke pot with the pills. If she is taking less than too there is a good chance that nothing will happen to her but it's not a good idea to mix prescription pills and marijuana together.

[guitarzan]

Thank you for the replys she tells me it is one paxel a day and some times 1 or 2 xanax only when she feels anxious. I am getting very tired of pretending she in not stoned it is not like she gets wild or crazy just distant and I dont think it is a everyday thing but It seems to be getting more often here lately. I have put my head in the sand for the past 2 months and now with the holidays here I just dont think it would be good to end it( I just read what i wrote and i think I am afraid if i do end it she may go off the deep end and that would make me feel worse than i do now) that sounds to me to be very codependent. we have been thru some ruff times this past year she had a dui and i have tried to tell her if she got stoped or in a accident and they tested her it would a sec dui guess you can justify anything if you really want to. maybe i have caused a lot of this because i paid for all of it maded it to easy altho she had to do 10 days in jail and that seemed to change her plus the counsling for about 6 months during that time she did not smoke( during that time she was the most loving and wonderful person you could ever want to be with) because of drug testing after that was over guess she got the green light to start again. now all they look for is drinking. with a breath test. she has a new job and it looked like we were heading for a great new year hell i even thought about asking her to marry me boy did that scare me .I got to go to ohio next to see my folks and i hate to leave guess i think if i'm here maybe i can interfer with her smoking but i truly know that won't work my biggest worry is that the smoking will lead back to drinking the way i see it is the addicition is the buzz and how you get it really dont matter.thank you all so much and have a very safe and happy holiday guitarzan

[Illcat]

Man, I feel your pain. What you are doing is called enabling, I too am guilty. I kept taking my woman back mistake after mistake. She is a problem drinker and replaces one subtsance for another. She is anxious, depressed, with repressed feelings of her past, all of this makes for a bad mix. I am not sure of your situation but whatever the reason it can't be that great. We love our mates and hate to see them spiral out of control. It's just so hard to let go for the very same resons that you have expressed.

[bobbyd]

The one thing we want to give addicts but we can't is the desire to stop using.
No matter how hard you try she will keep going until she is ready, if she is ever ready.
Most addicts don't get recovery because the desease is too strong or they are not willing to do the work it takes.
The only question you need to ask yourself is if you are willing to live with someone who is unwilling to change.
Good luck and God Bless,
bobbyd

[guitarzan]

Hello all I trust you had a safe and very happy holiday well I asked my questions and got the answers I expected ,when she got home from work today i wanted to talk but she wanted to get high first,well we talked first i told her how I felt the fact that I was being but behind her first love (the buzz) I told her i was tired of trying to protect her and asked her to go see a(srink) cant spell the proper name wont even try and maybe we could get some help and maybe get her on the right prescribed drugs for her depression, she did not like that very well she has it justified in her mind and i guess that is the only place it can be changed. anyway I got sick to my stomach and told her i had to leave and i would be back latertonight** well I really dont want to go I know there will be no change and i hope she don't fall off the wagon because of my leaving .... such a waste of a real good lady , anyway i guess my question is now what? do i wait to see if she changes her mind and seeks help to keep from loosing me or just close the book and move on I truly love her just cant live like i have for the past 6 months.Thank you all for the replys and the open heart felt welcome you have shown me. guitarzan

[mylove]

been there just recently. though my girlfriend chose coke, and not the soda.

i would read and post here, and then talk to her that night, and everything i was told she did like clock work. even got sick to my stomach..threw up. the best defense is a good offence. be ready for that. i used to take paxil. 30mg, never really had much of any sort of "reaction" from it mixing it with pot or booze. xanax on the other hand.. mix it with pot or booze and it was nap time.

drugs are bad news. all of them, mix it with emotional issues, even worse. but thier isnt to much to worry about with paxil, except that when you stop taking them there are pretty bad withdrawl effects. gotta taper off. dont know much about xanax. though in my uneducated oppinon, xanax and paxil are re-uptake medicaions dealing with serotonin, and dopamine, pot deals with the thc, blood stream, ect. so thier probably isnt a really "physicaly harmful" effect. pot leads to lazyness and depression, paxil and xanax fight anxiety and depression, so she will deffinitly end up lazy.

but something that has helped me is reading the things that others go through, i see how bad it can get, keeps me a lil more relaxed, and i can see how important it is now to keep a handle on the situation.

hope this helps...

[guitarzan]

well still hanging in there and it is taken a big toll on me.probly should check in here a bit more often ,my mom is very sick and I wish I had some support from the woman i love but guess that would be asking too much no buzz there, I am planning to go see a shrink and get info from them on the long term effects from mixing all the meds with thc but the bottom line is no quit till she is ready i guess any way just wanted to say hi and hope all is going as well as you all want it to be your friend in hell fla. guitarzan

[Gooch]

hey again guitarzan! sorry to hear not much has changed.. Havw you checked out the posts on the Naranon and Alanon forums? You'll find others there dealing with living with an addict. They may have a slightly different perspective on the situation over there.

prayers for your mom.

[phoenixfalling]

I know from experience that mixing sucks. I was on Effexor, seroquel, ritalin, ativan, zanaflex, and abusing fentanyl patches at the same time - believe me - NOT GOOD. From what I know ativan or xanax (benzodiapines) act much in the same way as alcohol. I've done my stint with that one too. I could lie to myself and say that I've only been an addict for 3 years, but I know it's a lot more than that, and I have lost a lot of pride and friends (among other things) that meant a lot. i really hope that your girlfriend cares enough about herself to get better.

Phoenix.

[guitarzan]

thanks for the replys I will check out the other fourms you all have a great one day at a time guitatzan