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1963comet · 12-26-2007, 11:35 AM

Sorry to say this but quitting is easy if you cannot get it. My son is getting out next nov. He says he does not want to do the clubing thing when he gets out. But time will tell.

He grew up watching my drunk but. And he knows I have not touched it for seven years. But I know he has to decide this for himself. I Never listened to anyone that wanted me to stop.

For me the hardest part was saying I had no control. I hated to say that I could not do something. I think that is why some of us take so long to admit we have a problem. Pride

Sugah · 12-26-2007, 11:48 AM

Right or wrong, in your shoes, I might ask him why, if he thinks that alcohol isn't/won't be an issue for him, is it so important?

Peace & Love,
Sugah

sticker · 12-26-2007, 12:22 PM

still blaming others, still wants to be able to party. Yea red flags all over the place. You say hes in a program so I'm sure hes heard that switch drugs (crack to alcohol) doesn't work. Sounds like he still thinks he has the answers. As sugha says if drinking ain't a big deal then it shouldn't be a big deal to not do it, Why take the chance? Hope this all works out for you. remember you need to take care of you. if hes not ready to change there is nothing you can do about that. Glade you are asking questions. Peace

**Phinneas** · 12-26-2007, 12:52 PM

Hi, dogged.

I am sorry you are in this situation. Please do post in the Family & Friends of Substance Abusers here on SR. They have experience all that you have experienced and more - and can offer support and information to help YOU.

12-26-2007, 11:35 AM	#1 (permalink)
1963comet Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Michigan Posts: 1,368	Sorry to say this but quitting is easy if you cannot get it. My son is getting out next nov. He says he does not want to do the clubing thing when he gets out. But time will tell. He grew up watching my drunk but. And he knows I have not touched it for seven years. But I know he has to decide this for himself. I Never listened to anyone that wanted me to stop. For me the hardest part was saying I had no control. I hated to say that I could not do something. I think that is why some of us take so long to admit we have a problem. Pride __________________ Just Maybe... It is true that we do not know what we have until we lose it, But it is also true we do not know what we have been missing until it Arrives.

12-26-2007, 11:48 AM	#2 (permalink)
Sugah Om, Aum, Ohm... Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Punxsutawney/Pittsburgh Posts: 2,326	Right or wrong, in your shoes, I might ask him why, if he thinks that alcohol isn't/won't be an issue for him, is it so important? Peace & Love, Sugah __________________ I don't know what happens when people die Can't seem to grasp it as hard as I try It's like a song I can hear playing right in my ear That I can't sing I can't help listening ~JB

12-26-2007, 12:22 PM	#3 (permalink)
sticker Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Saint Peter MN Posts: 128	still blaming others, still wants to be able to party. Yea red flags all over the place. You say hes in a program so I'm sure hes heard that switch drugs (crack to alcohol) doesn't work. Sounds like he still thinks he has the answers. As sugha says if drinking ain't a big deal then it shouldn't be a big deal to not do it, Why take the chance? Hope this all works out for you. remember you need to take care of you. if hes not ready to change there is nothing you can do about that. Glade you are asking questions. Peace __________________ Clean means never having to say Im sober

12-26-2007, 12:52 PM	#4 (permalink)
Phinneas Forum Leader Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: fumbling towards ecstasy Posts: 2,596	Hi, dogged. I am sorry you are in this situation. Please do post in the Family & Friends of Substance Abusers here on SR. They have experience all that you have experienced and more - and can offer support and information to help YOU. __________________ “The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” ~Marianne Williamson

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