Ninth Step - Amends - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

Hangnail · 12-20-2006, 11:21 PM

Hey family,

well I'm finally on my step nine and I was hoping for a little ESH. My sponsor suggest a letter and I have no clue where to start and what to write. I'm so ingrained by the old stand by "I’m sorry”. I have been doing a ton of reading, highlighting and praying and would still benefit from a little guidance. I will appreciate any thing you have to offer.

REZ · 12-21-2006, 04:16 PM

Step 9 is definitely one you need to have the guidance of a sponsor. My ESH and hope is that an amend is much more than saying I'm sorry. Timing is also very important. It is better to wait to make some amends to avoid causing more harm. Some amends can be made indirectly rather than directly. I can't offer more advice without knowing your situation in more detail. Good luck!

scootinbabe · 12-21-2006, 05:00 PM

there are threads for each step under alcoholism-12 step. you might get some bites there too. good luck!

12-20-2006, 11:21 PM	#1 (permalink)
Hangnail It's a luxury to be understood Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Washington State Posts: 13	Ninth Step - Amends Hey family, well I'm finally on my step nine and I was hoping for a little ESH. My sponsor suggest a letter and I have no clue where to start and what to write. I'm so ingrained by the old stand by "I’m sorry”. I have been doing a ton of reading, highlighting and praying and would still benefit from a little guidance. I will appreciate any thing you have to offer. __________________ What begins in anger ends in shame. Benjamin Franklin In Loving Service Hangnail

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12-21-2006, 04:16 PM	#2 (permalink)
REZ Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Chapel Hill, NC Posts: 987	Step 9 is definitely one you need to have the guidance of a sponsor. My ESH and hope is that an amend is much more than saying I'm sorry. Timing is also very important. It is better to wait to make some amends to avoid causing more harm. Some amends can be made indirectly rather than directly. I can't offer more advice without knowing your situation in more detail. Good luck!

12-21-2006, 05:00 PM	#3 (permalink)
scootinbabe Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: road to recovery Posts: 1,675	there are threads for each step under alcoholism-12 step. you might get some bites there too. good luck!

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