This is a resentment..

[Gooch]

My ex called tonight.. very first words were your daughter has measles, she needs to go to the doctors to get a slip so she can get a refund on her plane tickets to Caliifornia. She has an outstaning balance and that needs to be paid before the dcotor will see her.

Are you getting any kind of unemplyment or disability?


Not hello, how are you doing? Is there anything we can do while your laid up? She would lie to come visit. etc....

I have a hard time not replaying this one over and over thinking there might have beeen somthing I could have done different so that my daughter might have been raised someplace besides in an example of self centerdness, and selfishness. Ironic because if I had fought for custody, she would have had the sam example for nearly the forst 6 or 8 years of my recovery. And even now I know the right thing to do is to pray for my ex. Eventually I will but first I will toy with the knot of spite that I have in my heart.

I'm still pretty sick.

[laurie6781]

Naaaaaawwwwww Gooch, you're not sick you're just showing your "human side" rofl.

We know resentments come from our own expectations. As a human you expected her to at least 'ask' how your are doing, and she didn't, lol. You expected her to be something she's not and may never be, a kind thoughtful human being.

So, you go ahead and toy with it for a bit, and then I know you will start the 14 day prayer method to remove the resentment, lmao.

In the meantime How Are You Doing? I know, I know, I haven't called, but will do so in the next day or so.

Love and hugs,

[Chance]

Originally Posted by laurie6781

In the meantime How Are You Doing? I know, I know, I haven't called, but will do so in the next day or so.

Love and hugs,

Hum I was wondering if I was going to get a call I know it isn't all about me, I haven't been up to talking anyways lately.

(((((Gooch)))))

I can relate to how you are feeling. My kids call me right around the same time every month PAYDAY! They don't mention if Dad has sent the child-support, but I know that is the reason. I never get calls during the month, never asking how Dad is feeling, especially since I have started my interferon treatment. But in reality, I am not that important, I am just one of many, a garden variety addict.

I hope that your doing good Gooch. I wish I could afford to call you I love listening to your wisdom.

Love Vic

[historyteach]

I'm sorry, (((Gooch)))
I do hope you're feeling better.
Take a note from naranon -- you didn't cause it; you can't control it and you can't cure it. But, you can learn to cope with it.
Find the way, and do it.
Remember too, the differnce between a bad day and a good day is about 2 days, as our friend Ann tells us. She's always been right on, where I am standing. So, feel the feelings; just don't stay there too long.
We love you , Gooch. Hope you're doing much better and trust that you will call upon us if you need something....

Shalom!

[BigSis]

When I approach something with fear... it shows itself in a rushed, to-the-point manner.

Perhaps fear was the emotion that was showing in that phone call, Gooch.

When I am on the receiving end... fear is easier to confront than selfishness.

((((hugs)))))

[best]

Originally Posted by Gooch

I'm still pretty sick.

Yes but the leg will heal in a few weeks.

As for the emotional side of things... a sick person wouldn't even see such as a resentment. Let yourself be human, you know what not to do from here.
If you were sick, you wouldn't know what steps not to take from here.