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Clean4ever · 01-15-2011, 11:06 AM

Well, This Step Says it all..."MADE A LIST" of all those Ive had harmed...These people were fresh in my mind. I really didnt need to look over my 4th Step, but did..Writing this list seemed very simple and it was. And..."BECAME WILLING" to make amends to them ALL..This Step Is about my WILLINGNESS....NOT about me making amends...Thats Step 9..My sponsor helped me see that..As I Wrote down these people I realized I hurt alot of people and I was overwhelmed. My Sponsor and I went over each Person and institute. He shared that by putting them down on paper showed how willing I was. I put everyone that came to mind...even if I didnt make amends..So, We went over each one...I was scared but WILLING...I was now at Step 9...Thanks, Clean

Clean4ever · 01-15-2011, 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Clean4ever

As I Wrote down these people I realized I hurt alot of people and I was overwhelmed.

After we went over the LIST my Sponsor said I forgot one person.....I understood what he meant...It was me he was talking about ...I had hurt alot of people in my addiction...But I hurt myself the most..So, on top of the list he said I need to make amends to myself..Ive come along way. It doesnt stop now. There is more action to be taken. Clean

Clean4ever · 01-16-2011, 10:53 AM

"We do this Step as if there were no 9th Step"..Says the Basic Text..This program has allowed me to stay clean one day at a time...But that is only a beginning. I believe that working these Steps are a gift to myself. For a long time I was just staying clean and talking about "HOW I FEEL" Lol...Thats important but...The Basic Text Says in...HOW It WORKS page 17..These are the Principles that made "OUR RECOVERY" Possible...Steps 1-12..This isnt a 3 Step Program...We deserve the best..."We are WILLING to do anything possible to REPAIR the DAMAGE we've done"....."By CHANGING OUR BEHAVIOR" Step 8 of It Works How & Why Page 81..and further down it says...."We can start to make amends by not repeating the same behavior"...Thanks, Peter F

Gmoney · 01-16-2011, 11:04 AM

"We did many people great harm, but most of all we harmed ourselves." - BT, pg. 13

A lot of us overlook that part.

G

Rashelle17 · 04-05-2011, 08:04 AM

help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Taking5 · 04-05-2011, 08:28 AM

Rashelle,

Whats up? Maybe you can start a new thread and let us know how we can help?

01-15-2011, 11:06 AM	#1 (permalink)
Clean4ever Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Posts: 207 Blog Entries: 35	Willingness..The List of Harms.. Well, This Step Says it all..."MADE A LIST" of all those Ive had harmed...These people were fresh in my mind. I really didnt need to look over my 4th Step, but did..Writing this list seemed very simple and it was. And..."BECAME WILLING" to make amends to them ALL..This Step Is about my WILLINGNESS....NOT about me making amends...Thats Step 9..My sponsor helped me see that..As I Wrote down these people I realized I hurt alot of people and I was overwhelmed. My Sponsor and I went over each Person and institute. He shared that by putting them down on paper showed how willing I was. I put everyone that came to mind...even if I didnt make amends..So, We went over each one...I was scared but WILLING...I was now at Step 9...Thanks, Clean

01-16-2011, 10:53 AM	#3 (permalink)
Clean4ever Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Posts: 207 Blog Entries: 35	We Are Never Finished..Basic Text Page 38 "We do this Step as if there were no 9th Step"..Says the Basic Text..This program has allowed me to stay clean one day at a time...But that is only a beginning. I believe that working these Steps are a gift to myself. For a long time I was just staying clean and talking about "HOW I FEEL" Lol...Thats important but...The Basic Text Says in...HOW It WORKS page 17..These are the Principles that made "OUR RECOVERY" Possible...Steps 1-12..This isnt a 3 Step Program...We deserve the best..."We are WILLING to do anything possible to REPAIR the DAMAGE we've done"....."By CHANGING OUR BEHAVIOR" Step 8 of It Works How & Why Page 81..and further down it says...."We can start to make amends by not repeating the same behavior"...Thanks, Peter F

01-16-2011, 11:04 AM	#4 (permalink)
Gmoney Evolving Addict Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: New York State Posts: 2,927	"We did many people great harm, but most of all we harmed ourselves." - BT, pg. 13 A lot of us overlook that part. G __________________ "We are never forced into relapse. We are given a choice. Relapse is never an accident." - Basic Text, 5th Ed.

04-05-2011, 08:04 AM	#5 (permalink)
Rashelle17 Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: clearwater, florida Posts: 5 Blog Entries: 2	help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! __________________ Rashelle r.:rotfxko

04-05-2011, 08:28 AM	#6 (permalink)
Taking5 Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: LA - Lower Alabama Posts: 4,264	Rashelle, Whats up? Maybe you can start a new thread and let us know how we can help? __________________ It is easier to practice total abstinence than perfect moderation _______________________________________ Any quotes from the big book of AA are from the first edition, or are otherwise exempt from copyright infringement under the "fair use doctrine".

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