Wants to help my boyfriend get off his addiction!
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Wants to help my boyfriend get off his addiction!
I'm really against any drugs. I've known my boyfriend for 16 years (friendship before). We currently just started dating 4 months ago. Out of the 16 yrs, I haven't talked to him for 6 yrs because we were busy with school and working. Finally got in touch and I found out he does marijuana. I thought "oh no big deal he probably doesn't do it as often." He is 21 yrs old and has been doing it since 14 or 15. When he is sober, he's totally sweet. When he's high, well it depends on how much he takes. If he smokes a few tokes, he's not to bad but has his little moments where he gets mad at stupid things or he smokes a lot and gets pissed off at everything and takes things out on me. I started to realize how often he does it which is pretty much everyday. I've tried convincing him to help him to quit which he wants to but I think he rather smoke it. I don't want our relationship and friendship to end over this out of 16 years. I prefer if he stops. Can someone please help me convince him to quit? It makes me upset everyday and I just can't find a way of how to talk to him about it.
Welcome to SR. Keep reading and you will find out that he's not going to quit until he wants to quit. If you've talked to him about it, then he knows how you feel about it but chooses to continue. Since you cannot change him, you have to decide what you will and will not put up with in a relationship.
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I've talked to him various of times. I should of mentioned that he has said that he will try to quit or I want to quit but I don't want to. He says I'm more important than the marijuana. I'm sick of his excuses.
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We are all special and no one deserves to be treated unfair regardless of partner using or not using mind altering drugs, mind altering. What is the motive in continuing in this relationship
If a person is in denial, I too should take precautions, because I am or could be just as bad
as the person abusing, without my using, need to take care of #1 . If the person is not willing to be open minded about solutions, believe me it will get worst before it gets better.
If a person is in denial, I too should take precautions, because I am or could be just as bad
as the person abusing, without my using, need to take care of #1 . If the person is not willing to be open minded about solutions, believe me it will get worst before it gets better.
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Chicklit: I understand your frusteration. My friend of 11 years and boyfriend of 2 has a weed problem. Yes I know it relaxes people and people think it is odd to hear about it making some one angry. I feel first hand the effects of his ussage. The mood swings are for me terrible. Vitamin B helps him but he develops a fear that I am trying to control him by giving him Vitamins so he stops taking them. It is hard at times to reconcile the man I know and the man he is when he is smoking weed.
I have no answers on how you can help him. I am here looking for them as well.
I have no answers on how you can help him. I am here looking for them as well.
Maybe the moderators might want to consider getting rid of this forum altogether. It seems like all the new members post in the Step Study Forum things that have NOTHING to do with the steps anyway...and very few others post about the steps here.
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It will be good for him...
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