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Don W · 10-11-2005, 06:19 PM

I'd like to share some coping skills I recieved at the V A Hospital. If they apply use them. There are a number of them so I'll be putting a sticky and post some each day. I understand they got them from Seeking Safety, by Lisa Najavits
10/11/05
#1 - Ask for help-------- Reach out to someone safe
#2 - Inspire yourself-----Carry something positive, poem or negitive, photo of friend that overdosed or died from alcoholism.
#3 - Leave a bad scene-- When things go wrong, get out
#4 - Persist--------------never,never, never, never, never,give up
#5 - Honesty------------Secrets and lies are at the core of PTSD and substance abuse. Honesty heals them

Don W · 10-29-2005, 11:40 AM

#6-Cry-------------------------Let yourself cry, it will not last forever
#7-Choose self respect---------Choose whatever will make you like yourself tomorrow
#8-Take good care of your body-Healthy eating,excercise, and safe sex
#9-List your options-------------In any situation you have choices
#10-Do the best you can with what you have-Make the most of available opportunities

The seeker · 10-29-2005, 09:13 PM

Thank's for the reminder's Don. They do help.

Grimnar · 11-30-2005, 03:10 PM

Good list.

(heh, at this point I'd settle for any sex!

)

Keep 'em coming.

Yaroslav · 02-11-2006, 10:50 AM

Good list.
Thanks Don!

jcade · 05-13-2006, 08:08 AM

good list thanks for sharing it,
thks,
jcade

Hope · 05-13-2006, 01:18 PM

I'm glad that you posted that list!

A very good post to often take a look at.

Pepsifreek007 · 05-15-2006, 02:05 PM

Thanks Don I'll try to remember.

hionlife · 06-08-2006, 07:53 AM

AWESOME!! I needed this this am

Lilya · 06-24-2006, 01:54 PM

Thanks Don,

I needed to read this.

meli2005 · 10-17-2006, 04:28 PM

Don, those are good reminders!!!

ladygarrison · 11-27-2006, 10:01 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The seeker

Thank's for the reminder's Don. They do help.

Thank YOU things most of us know but in the middle of our misery forget.

soul_searchn · 12-21-2006, 02:27 PM

thanks! those are great!

BeautifulChaos7 · 02-02-2007, 05:45 PM

I'll try that! thanks

Don W · 08-28-2007, 12:00 AM

Today, Take a moment and find something that you like about yourself. Then dwell on it. I like the fact that I'm here with you today.
Let's take today on together.

Don W · 09-01-2007, 10:59 AM

If things are not working out, sometimes we need to change the only thing we can.

OURSELF

Don W · 09-05-2007, 02:52 AM

Today I will not allow other people to rule my thoughts. I will keep my head clear and on target. Today, I will have a good day.

Don W · 09-10-2007, 02:48 PM

Don't always focus on what we did wrong during the day. We've all have done things right and need to give ourselves credit. Even if it's simply the fact that you're on SR.

Don W · 09-12-2007, 07:25 AM

Doing the right thing, even if nobody is watching, is difficult but, helps in recovery so much. You can almost feel the self esteem growing when you do.

Don W · 09-15-2007, 08:14 AM

Pay attention to your breathing. Many times our breathing measures the level of our
stress. There are many relaxation excercises, on line, to help control our breathing. Sit down and count the number of breaths you take per min. I was surprised at how many I take when upset. Then relax and try to reduce these breaths by taking deep breaths and holding it. Then let it slowly out. I am able to reduce about 50 breaths a min. down to a hand full. Try it.

candystripper · 11-22-2008, 11:52 AM

Hi,
Your #5 really struck home because all my lies have ruined my life lately. Wish I could take back all my mistakes!!! Thanks for the words of wisdom!!

Flame · 12-01-2008, 02:27 PM

Awesome list. I'm going to share it.

Sid · 03-28-2010, 05:04 AM

Thanks for sharing these thoughts. All great suggestions.

10-11-2005, 06:19 PM	#1 (permalink)
Don W Member Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Charleston S.C. Posts: 1,463	Coping Skills I'd like to share some coping skills I recieved at the V A Hospital. If they apply use them. There are a number of them so I'll be putting a sticky and post some each day. I understand they got them from Seeking Safety, by Lisa Najavits 10/11/05 #1 - Ask for help-------- Reach out to someone safe #2 - Inspire yourself-----Carry something positive, poem or negitive, photo of friend that overdosed or died from alcoholism. #3 - Leave a bad scene-- When things go wrong, get out #4 - Persist--------------never,never, never, never, never,give up #5 - Honesty------------Secrets and lies are at the core of PTSD and substance abuse. Honesty heals them __________________ Captain America - On the side of good

10-29-2005, 11:40 AM	#2 (permalink)
Don W Member Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Charleston S.C. Posts: 1,463	#6-Cry-------------------------Let yourself cry, it will not last forever #7-Choose self respect---------Choose whatever will make you like yourself tomorrow #8-Take good care of your body-Healthy eating,excercise, and safe sex #9-List your options-------------In any situation you have choices #10-Do the best you can with what you have-Make the most of available opportunities __________________ Captain America - On the side of good

10-29-2005, 09:13 PM	#3 (permalink)
The seeker Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Oxford, Mi. Posts: 21	Thank's for the reminder's Don. They do help. __________________ Steady as she go's

05-13-2006, 08:08 AM	#6 (permalink)
jcade Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Down South Posts: 60	good list thanks for sharing it, thks, jcade __________________ Someone once asked me was I from the North or the South? I said I don't know I am Bi-Polar

06-08-2006, 07:53 AM	#9 (permalink)
hionlife Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Carson, WA Posts: 16	AWESOME!! I needed this this am __________________ HI-ON-LIFE

11-30-2005, 03:10 PM	#4 (permalink)
Grimnar I bite. Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: USA Posts: 498	Good list. (heh, at this point I'd settle for any sex! ) Keep 'em coming.

02-11-2006, 10:50 AM	#5 (permalink)
Yaroslav Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Ukraine Posts: 6	Good list. Thanks Don!

05-13-2006, 01:18 PM	#7 (permalink)
Hope Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 3,300	I'm glad that you posted that list! A very good post to often take a look at.

05-15-2006, 02:05 PM	#8 (permalink)
Pepsifreek007 Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Noah's Ark Posts: 99	Thanks Don I'll try to remember.

06-24-2006, 01:54 PM	#10 (permalink)
Lilya Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: Northen Europe and France Posts: 1,658	Thanks Don, I needed to read this. __________________ Use adversity Declare Independance Lilya

10-17-2006, 04:28 PM	#11 (permalink)
meli2005 Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Parker, CO Posts: 495	Don, those are good reminders!!!

12-21-2006, 02:27 PM	#13 (permalink)
soul_searchn Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Ky Posts: 6	thanks! those are great! __________________ "If you do not tell the truth about yourself you cannot tell it about other people"

02-02-2007, 05:45 PM	#14 (permalink)
BeautifulChaos7 BeautifulChaos7 Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: New York Posts: 8	I'll try that! thanks

08-28-2007, 12:00 AM	#15 (permalink)
Don W Member Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Charleston S.C. Posts: 1,463	Today, Take a moment and find something that you like about yourself. Then dwell on it. I like the fact that I'm here with you today. Let's take today on together. __________________ Captain America - On the side of good

09-01-2007, 10:59 AM	#16 (permalink)
Don W Member Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Charleston S.C. Posts: 1,463	If things are not working out, sometimes we need to change the only thing we can. OURSELF __________________ Captain America - On the side of good

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09-05-2007, 02:52 AM	#17 (permalink)
Don W Member Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Charleston S.C. Posts: 1,463	Today I will not allow other people to rule my thoughts. I will keep my head clear and on target. Today, I will have a good day. __________________ Captain America - On the side of good

09-10-2007, 02:48 PM	#18 (permalink)
Don W Member Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Charleston S.C. Posts: 1,463	Don't always focus on what we did wrong during the day. We've all have done things right and need to give ourselves credit. Even if it's simply the fact that you're on SR. __________________ Captain America - On the side of good

09-12-2007, 07:25 AM	#19 (permalink)
Don W Member Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Charleston S.C. Posts: 1,463	Doing the right thing, even if nobody is watching, is difficult but, helps in recovery so much. You can almost feel the self esteem growing when you do. __________________ Captain America - On the side of good

09-15-2007, 08:14 AM	#20 (permalink)
Don W Member Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Charleston S.C. Posts: 1,463	Pay attention to your breathing. Many times our breathing measures the level of our stress. There are many relaxation excercises, on line, to help control our breathing. Sit down and count the number of breaths you take per min. I was surprised at how many I take when upset. Then relax and try to reduce these breaths by taking deep breaths and holding it. Then let it slowly out. I am able to reduce about 50 breaths a min. down to a hand full. Try it. __________________ Captain America - On the side of good

11-22-2008, 11:52 AM	#21 (permalink)
candystripper Do u have a catch-22? Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Nomansland, New York Posts: 57 Blog Entries: 1	Hi, Your #5 really struck home because all my lies have ruined my life lately. Wish I could take back all my mistakes!!! Thanks for the words of wisdom!! __________________ Happy thoughts to all that listen!!! Praise and blessings to all that reply!!!

12-01-2008, 02:27 PM	#22 (permalink)
Flame Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: WI Posts: 18	Awesome list. I'm going to share it.

03-28-2010, 05:04 AM	#23 (permalink)
Sid Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 26	Thanks for sharing these thoughts. All great suggestions.

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