stressed out...

[innamorata]

I admit, I don't handle stress well...

Many things in my life have contributed to this...I stress out about how others will react to my stress or to the stressful situation...which causes me more stress...I don't like to be hollered at or even questioned as to what I'm going to do to fix it...it makes me feel cornered and even MORE stressed...I guess I'm a loner, or some kind of weirdo.

Things in my life right now are VERY STRESSFUL and this is not the cause of my depression, but it sure isn't helping....

How am I supposed to handle stress? Something in me tells me I never learned how...

[Live]

I am very sorry I did not respond sooner.
MG has alot of wonderful posts in the mental health forums that I feel sure you will find very calming and healing.
Take some time, read through them.
Keep coming back, we are all in this together.

[nodope]

Originally Posted by innamorata

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How am I supposed to handle stress? Something in me tells me I never learned how...

That is so true. I'm just now finding that out. There's plenty of help out there.

Hope you are feeling better.

[KelKel]

((((Innamorata)))



meditation and breathing truly helps me to deal with stress.
So does Yoga and coming here to SR...

I do my yoga and meditation at home...

here is a very good introduction to meditation...

Opening to Meditation
A Gentle, Guided Approach
Diana Lang
This is a small book and CD set...

I have gotten alot out of this set, the readings are practical and useful.
The CD contains a nice introduction and two different guided meditations

Nomaste'

[innamorata]

Thanks, everybody...

I'm interested to know how others handle stress. I am being honest in that I don't really know how...or, at least, how to do it properly.

I know that is a person is stressing me out, I often don't say anything or respond in anger or stress, but I'll take it out later in other ways (such as depression or self-destructive behavior). Sometimes I will start crying or something during the confrontation or stressful situation, and that is embarrassing, so that creates more stress...

I try to mediate or just find a little quiet place within myself (thanks, Kel!) but I can't always find it. Lots of noise in there...the quiet place gets drowned out a lot.

Does anyone know what I'm talking about?

[Evanna]

I think i do Innamorata.

I am totally unassertive so i shut up and put up a lot of the time when i really need to speak out for myself. I then feel all horrid inside and this comes out sideways both at myself and people close to me. I let situations build up in my head and i find that i am unable to get my point across and often end up in tears when i try to deal with outstanding situations. I also explode in anger sometimes which generally leads to my tears too.

My head is seldom quiet because all those undealt with situations are nipping away at me. All the situations where i need to be saying something and i dont. Some of them go back years too! They can range from very minor...like my neighbour's builders leaving dust on my doorstep to quite major like my garage owing me 2 grand or disputes with my dad other my mum's will.

I think some basic assertiveness training might help me.