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2stop · 11-04-2003, 10:19 AM

..I am waiting for the heater repair guy to come and am noticing when I think about him coming to fix the heater I secretly wish he will cancel because I am petrified to answer the door and have a strange man come into my house with me being alone. I really get frustrated with myself over this. I just do not function in society anymore. If I can get out of having to leave the house..I simply will not go.. This deal with the heater guy I believe is two-fold..partly just the regular old panic attacks..partly the fear of being alone in the presence of a man..I always feel the fight or flee syndrome kick in....UGGghhhhh..I am frustrated. I am doing deep breathing and stretches this morning to calm my mind..it helps for a minute...and then off I go again.
Anything simialr ya all could share with me? Thanks!!

phoenix · 11-04-2003, 10:48 AM

Yup...happens to me too.I feel safer with my German Shepherd here....but still feel the fear.Sometimes I greet them,show them where things are at,and then take my dog for a walk.I almost always find a way to be ouside,or at least near the door.I never allow them to get between me and the door.Call it paranoia,or whatever,but I have been hurt too often,and too badly to ever be careless about my safety.Do whatever helps you to feel safe.You might consider asking a friend to come over and stay with you.Take care,and know that some of us do understand

phoenix

2stop · 11-04-2003, 10:52 AM

Thank you so much Phoenix! I have been looking for a German Shepherd..it's my favorite dog....I think I will speed up the search for one, it really relaxes me to train a dog. And I would definitely feel safer. I am so blessed to have people like you here to understand....(((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))

LettingGo · 11-04-2003, 11:01 AM

Tammie,

Can your mother be there with you? A friend, a neighbor? Just to set your mind at ease?

2stop · 11-04-2003, 11:30 AM

Gave the company a call...the sevice guy is going to try to be here late this evening. So, my mom will be here and the kids and I. We'll be alright. I gotta get over my fears. I am a bit disturbed that I planned on definitely going to a meeting tonight. This disease doesn't want me to leave it alone does it? That's okay, I am pretty sure the sun won't fail us tomorrow, will try again....

Lilya · 11-04-2003, 01:17 PM

Dear Tammie,

I´ll be with you in spirit. This guy better not do anything, because he´s got me to reckon with - and I know Kung Fu and self-defense! LOL

You´ll be fine. I´m glad you´ll have company. It was a good decision. Isn´t it amazing how the mind works? Up one day, down the other! You should have seen me today, shivering and feeling worthless. Now I´m fine and I am counting down until the end of the week.

Love and light,

Quote:

Use adversity

2stop · 11-04-2003, 02:54 PM

{{{{Lilya}}}}} I'l tell him don't you mess with me buddy, I've got an a**-whoopin comin for you from all the way across the ocean!! LOL!!! You're too sweet.

Rur mortgage broker says she will make it happen with the loan, but we have heard that for weeks. It's not her fault anyways. It's all just a test I reckon in the end...Who is standing and fighting last...I hope I get spend too much to fix something we won't be using much longer...but even then I guess I should consider that it will be that muvh more ready for the next occupants.

Have a good nights sleep Lilya......the week will be over before you know it!! Heck, you're probably so dizzy from all the activity it will be a month from now and you won't even know it!LOL....

2stop · 11-04-2003, 03:57 PM

The heater repair service tech just left..our heat is working..and it cost half the amount I had budgeted!!! Yippee!!! Turns out it was a guy from a town my grandparents lived many years. I actually had a conversation with him, and everything was cool!! that is what is so wicked about these panic attacks..I love talking to people..learning all kinds of things....but those damn attacks...geeeshhh..Well, I am very blessed tonight!!!! I actually handled some other things today too that I could not...Thanks for being there ya all, and understanding.((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))

***51anna*** · 11-04-2003, 04:08 PM

Tammie, you handled that with great finesse. You are on top of things girl! Nothing can stop you - not panic attacks, nothing.

Hugs and love,
Anna

2stop · 11-04-2003, 04:16 PM

(((((((((((((((((((Anna)))))))))))))))))))))

How are you my sister in spirit?

Thanks for the kind words...I just decided to put on my running shoes..and it was easier to run!!!!!LOL!!

((((((((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))))))))

Lilya · 11-04-2003, 04:21 PM

This is so great! My congratulations! You had a panick attaque, but you confronted your demons - in disguise of the repairman - and it turned out great!

I´m proud of you,
Love,

Quote:

Use adversity

2stop · 11-04-2003, 04:26 PM

Thanks for helping me through guys.....(((Hugs)))

Mamabear · 11-05-2003, 04:46 PM

Tammie,

I learn so much from you. I think I'll confront a fear in your honor!
((( love )))
Mamabear

Juls · 11-05-2003, 07:00 PM

((((((((Tammie))))))))

I get fears too, however I've yet to be afraid of being alone in the house with a repair person. Yet, anyway. I'm glad it worked out well, and you were able to deal with your fear.

One of my worst fears was of learning to drive. I don't know why, except that my mother never drove, and perhaps she had a fear that got passed on to me. I learned to drive when I was 21, and my mother signed me up for driving lessons. I would be so afraid that I would literally get sick to my stomach before getting in the car. I was so happy to overcome that fear, and now I have no fear at all when it comes to driving.

Juls

11-04-2003, 10:19 AM	#1 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,669	Waiting...... ..I am waiting for the heater repair guy to come and am noticing when I think about him coming to fix the heater I secretly wish he will cancel because I am petrified to answer the door and have a strange man come into my house with me being alone. I really get frustrated with myself over this. I just do not function in society anymore. If I can get out of having to leave the house..I simply will not go.. This deal with the heater guy I believe is two-fold..partly just the regular old panic attacks..partly the fear of being alone in the presence of a man..I always feel the fight or flee syndrome kick in....UGGghhhhh..I am frustrated. I am doing deep breathing and stretches this morning to calm my mind..it helps for a minute...and then off I go again. Anything simialr ya all could share with me? Thanks!! __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

11-04-2003, 10:52 AM	#3 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,669	Thank you so much Phoenix! I have been looking for a German Shepherd..it's my favorite dog....I think I will speed up the search for one, it really relaxes me to train a dog. And I would definitely feel safer. I am so blessed to have people like you here to understand....(((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))) __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

11-04-2003, 11:30 AM	#5 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,669	Gave the company a call...the sevice guy is going to try to be here late this evening. So, my mom will be here and the kids and I. We'll be alright. I gotta get over my fears. I am a bit disturbed that I planned on definitely going to a meeting tonight. This disease doesn't want me to leave it alone does it? That's okay, I am pretty sure the sun won't fail us tomorrow, will try again.... __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

11-04-2003, 02:54 PM	#7 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,669	{{{{Lilya}}}}} I'l tell him don't you mess with me buddy, I've got an a**-whoopin comin for you from all the way across the ocean!! LOL!!! You're too sweet. Rur mortgage broker says she will make it happen with the loan, but we have heard that for weeks. It's not her fault anyways. It's all just a test I reckon in the end...Who is standing and fighting last...I hope I get spend too much to fix something we won't be using much longer...but even then I guess I should consider that it will be that muvh more ready for the next occupants. Have a good nights sleep Lilya......the week will be over before you know it!! Heck, you're probably so dizzy from all the activity it will be a month from now and you won't even know it!LOL.... __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

11-04-2003, 03:57 PM	#8 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,669	The heater repair service tech just left..our heat is working..and it cost half the amount I had budgeted!!! Yippee!!! Turns out it was a guy from a town my grandparents lived many years. I actually had a conversation with him, and everything was cool!! that is what is so wicked about these panic attacks..I love talking to people..learning all kinds of things....but those damn attacks...geeeshhh..Well, I am very blessed tonight!!!! I actually handled some other things today too that I could not...Thanks for being there ya all, and understanding.((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))) __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

11-04-2003, 10:48 AM	#2 (permalink)
phoenix Paused Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Dreaming Summer Posts: 807	Yup...happens to me too.I feel safer with my German Shepherd here....but still feel the fear.Sometimes I greet them,show them where things are at,and then take my dog for a walk.I almost always find a way to be ouside,or at least near the door.I never allow them to get between me and the door.Call it paranoia,or whatever,but I have been hurt too often,and too badly to ever be careless about my safety.Do whatever helps you to feel safe.You might consider asking a friend to come over and stay with you.Take care,and know that some of us do understand phoenix

11-04-2003, 11:01 AM	#4 (permalink)
LettingGo Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Utah Posts: 330	Tammie, Can your mother be there with you? A friend, a neighbor? Just to set your mind at ease?

11-04-2003, 04:08 PM	#9 (permalink)
*51anna* Administrator Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 14,732	Tammie, you handled that with great finesse. You are on top of things girl! Nothing can stop you - not panic attacks, nothing. Hugs and love, Anna

11-04-2003, 04:16 PM	#10 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,669	(((((((((((((((((((Anna))))))))))))))))))))) How are you my sister in spirit? Thanks for the kind words...I just decided to put on my running shoes..and it was easier to run!!!!!LOL!! ((((((((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))))))) __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

11-04-2003, 04:26 PM	#12 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,669	Thanks for helping me through guys.....(((Hugs))) __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

11-05-2003, 04:46 PM	#13 (permalink)
Mamabear Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: phila, pa Posts: 233	Tammie, I learn so much from you. I think I'll confront a fear in your honor! ((( love ))) Mamabear __________________ Mamabear

11-05-2003, 07:00 PM	#14 (permalink)
Juls Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: California, USA Posts: 1,101	((((((((Tammie)))))))) I get fears too, however I've yet to be afraid of being alone in the house with a repair person. Yet, anyway. I'm glad it worked out well, and you were able to deal with your fear. One of my worst fears was of learning to drive. I don't know why, except that my mother never drove, and perhaps she had a fear that got passed on to me. I learned to drive when I was 21, and my mother signed me up for driving lessons. I would be so afraid that I would literally get sick to my stomach before getting in the car. I was so happy to overcome that fear, and now I have no fear at all when it comes to driving. Juls __________________ Think World Peace

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