Facing some sadness

[steamvessel]

I'll be brief. I talked with my ex girlfriend on Monday and she told me she is getting married to the guy that she started a relationship while we still owned a house together and were sleeping in the same bed. Dealing with this situation was hellacious enough. I didn't anticipate this would be the emotional blow that it was, it has really been affecting me. I think I've logically dealt with this breakup, but this was just a final blow that cut straight to my emotional core. I am merely posting this as a way to get it out of my system. Her nonchalantness about it all is really bothersome to me, Ive decided to ex-communicate with her from now on, I have removed her from a friend on facebook and blocked any more incoming calls. I want her to realize that our relationship is over, not just the romantic part of it. This may seem childish, but I have been too much of a pushover in this situation and I don't like feeling like I am constantly being pushed around. I have had a really hard week and all I can think about is this. We were together for almost seven years until it ended last year.

[Astro]

Detachment and going no-contact can be a good way to handle the end of a relationship. It's not always possible to end with a "can't we just be friends?".
This is something I've had to practice with my ex-wife, I wasn't "OK" with her extramarital affairs and didn't want to send the wrong message. We keep our communications to a minimum, discussing only our children.

I think it's great you're taking this step, please continue to share about it if it helps you to get it out of your system.

[ranae1221]

Originally Posted by steamvessel

I'll be brief. I talked with my ex girlfriend on Monday and she told me she is getting married to the guy that she started a relationship while we still owned a house together and were sleeping in the same bed. Dealing with this situation was hellacious enough. I didn't anticipate this would be the emotional blow that it was, it has really been affecting me. I think I've logically dealt with this breakup, but this was just a final blow that cut straight to my emotional core. I am merely posting this as a way to get it out of my system. Her nonchalantness about it all is really bothersome to me, Ive decided to ex-communicate with her from now on, I have removed her from a friend on facebook and blocked any more incoming calls. I want her to realize that our relationship is over, not just the romantic part of it. This may seem childish, but I have been too much of a pushover in this situation and I don't like feeling like I am constantly being pushed around. I have had a really hard week and all I can think about is this. We were together for almost seven years until it ended last year.

IMO, it doesn't sound childish at all. In fact it sounds like a very healthy, mature and adult way to deal with the situtation. Kudos to you for being able to take that step.

[least]

Please do what's best for your sobriety and mental health. If it means no communication between you and ex gf, so be it. I hope you can come out of this stronger. Being alone is better than being treated badly, in my opinion...