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CAAW · 08-19-2009, 10:09 AM

I am tring to find some support and info from people who have been or are married to a narcissist.

least · 08-20-2009, 03:51 PM

I'm not married to one but both my youngest kids are that way. does that count?

spittake · 08-22-2009, 12:57 PM

Try this board: Narcissistic Personality Disorder Forum

I believe both NPD sufferers and family members post there. Check out the board index, there are tons of different forums, probably some for family support.

suki44883 · 08-22-2009, 01:20 PM

Oh yeah...I was married to one for about 10 months. Didn't take me long to get the heck out of there.

Jason448 · 08-31-2009, 12:05 PM

I have been married to one for 14 years and she is addicted to Vicodin, 10 + day habit. Everything gets turned into my fault and nothing is caused by her wreckless decisions. She will admit what she did was wrong if backed in the corner, but then try to justify it by either making up something I did or comparing it to something so petty it doesn't even compare. She has been cheating on me and then gets mad if a she thinks I am talking to someone else. She exaults herself above all others and believes that everyones faults are worse than hers. Nobody knows how to dress but her, and only she has a clue and everbody else is clueless. She kind of acts like she is Royalty. She was always like this, but not so sever that it was a huge problem when we married. Since she has been hooked on Vicodin, the natural need to lie to support her addiction mixed with her being narcisstic makes her out of control. I sympathize with anyone who has dealt with this.

Overman · 08-31-2009, 04:18 PM

Almost everyone is a 'narcissist' to a degree. Especially addicts.

Many will tell you that subjugating one's ego and keeping it in check via humility is one of the key practices in remaining sober.

@ spit
NPD forum

LOL, I can't bear to read the posts there. I can only imagine 40-page threads about trivial issues like choosing an appropriate shirt color. Me, me, me...

Genuine narcissists think everyone around them is an idiot (if they aren't of some use), and that everyone else is the cause of their problems.

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least bona fido dog-lover Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: eastern USA Posts: 23,513 Blog Entries: 31	I'm not married to one but both my youngest kids are that way. does that count? __________________ I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them. Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole. Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley

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suki44883 Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Somewhere Out There Posts: 9,092	Oh yeah...I was married to one for about 10 months. Didn't take me long to get the heck out of there. __________________ We call them dumb animals, and so they are, for they cannot tell us how they feel, but they do not suffer less because they have no words. - Anna Sewell - So oftentimes it happens that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key. - The Eagles

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Overman 9/15/08 Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: midwest Posts: 257	Almost everyone is a 'narcissist' to a degree. Especially addicts. Many will tell you that subjugating one's ego and keeping it in check via humility is one of the key practices in remaining sober. @ spit NPD forum LOL, I can't bear to read the posts there. I can only imagine 40-page threads about trivial issues like choosing an appropriate shirt color. Me, me, me... Genuine narcissists think everyone around them is an idiot (if they aren't of some use), and that everyone else is the cause of their problems. __________________ "If you can smile whenever anything goes wrong, you are either an idiot or a repairman." (or sober!) ~ Anon

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08-22-2009, 12:57 PM	#3 (permalink)
spittake Zen Nihilist Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Left Coast Posts: 147	Try this board: Narcissistic Personality Disorder Forum I believe both NPD sufferers and family members post there. Check out the board index, there are tons of different forums, probably some for family support.

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Jason448 Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 17	I have been married to one for 14 years and she is addicted to Vicodin, 10 + day habit. Everything gets turned into my fault and nothing is caused by her wreckless decisions. She will admit what she did was wrong if backed in the corner, but then try to justify it by either making up something I did or comparing it to something so petty it doesn't even compare. She has been cheating on me and then gets mad if a she thinks I am talking to someone else. She exaults herself above all others and believes that everyones faults are worse than hers. Nobody knows how to dress but her, and only she has a clue and everbody else is clueless. She kind of acts like she is Royalty. She was always like this, but not so sever that it was a huge problem when we married. Since she has been hooked on Vicodin, the natural need to lie to support her addiction mixed with her being narcisstic makes her out of control. I sympathize with anyone who has dealt with this.

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