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| How do you deal with the anger?
Ever have one of those days where nothing goes right, and all you want to do is freaking scream and break things and yell at someone, anyone? Yeah, that's me today. My usual coping skills are not working tonight. I feel so consumed by anger, like I can literly feel my blood boiling, the rage just pumping through my veins. I honestly don't know why I feel this angry, this hateful towards anyone and everyone. I am home for the night, and thankfully don't have to be around anyone because honestly I don't think I could be nice to anyone. But when I feel this angry is when the urges to self harm are the hardest to ignore. It's very very hard tonight. Anyone else have times when you feel like a hateful person and don't give a f*** you are that way? How do you cope with that, get through that??
__________________ Jessica "You can have a perfectly normal life..... if you accept the fact that your life will never be perfectly normal" You laugh because I am different...I laugh because you are all the same |
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Jess, hey. First sorry you're having a crap night. Really. :ghug2 Second.. yes. I don't feel anger (the really livid type)- at everyone, just ...a lot of people!.. I get that a lot because of the way I see Society.. the way they are so flippin' dead to what's going on around them... so dead that they just push and shove you out the way ...and don't apologise (happened to me today, twice, actually...). Why do you feel so angry today/night? What happened? How to deal with it.. many ways, suggestions: Meditation (put on a relaxing tune and chill out); Take it out on a pillow; buy a punchbag and take it out on that and then breathe....; write it all out in a journal; go for a long walk..... Sorry couldn't be of more help. take care. me |
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I agree with eoghanacht....that's why god invented pillows! You can throw pillows, you can beat pillows, you can scream at and into pillows! You should let your anger out, even if you have to go sit inside your car and roll up the windows and just scream until you can't scream anymore. Exercise is another good way to release the anger. Anger is a natural emotion. We all feel it and keeping it stuffed down inside can cause all kinds of problems. Let it out, but do it in a healthy way.
__________________ We call them dumb animals, and so they are, for they cannot tell us how they feel, but they do not suffer less because they have no words. - Anna Sewell - So oftentimes it happens that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key. - The Eagles |
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Ohhh my yes. I have this unexplainable rage that just comes on sometimes (usually when I'm getting manic-y). Some bad days I can cope with...I may cry a little or want to take a nap when I get home to "reset." But sometimes, when everything just seems to go to hell, I'm like whichever of Jekyll and Hyde was the mean one I actually got a bunch of dollar store plates once (just for such an occasion), put them in a pillow case and smashed them to bits on my brick patio. won't lie...it felt REALLY good. ![]() How I TRY to cope...I turn off all the lights, sounds--as much sensory deprivation as possible--lie down and count backwards from 1,000 (or 100 or 500...depends on just how angry I really am), controlling my breaths with each number (in and out for each one...not quickly) and focusing (as best I can) on only the counting. I usually fall asleep. Which is not necessarily a bad thing...
__________________ "The less I seek my source for some definitive, the closer I am to fine." --Closer to Fine, Indigo Girls |
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My way of dealing with anger isn't very healthy: I turn it inward and hate myself for anything and everything. I'm working on changing this unhealthy approach with my counselor.
__________________ I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them. Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole. Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley |
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Well I ended up surviving the night without giving in to any of the behaviors my doc would be mad about. I took my night meds early and was able to sleep it off. There really wasn't any one thing that set me off, and usually there isn't. It starts with a lot of stupid little irriations and then just all of a sudden explodes and all I can see is red. Today has been much better. It helped that with work, I saw 3 of my fave clients, who are so sweet and kind and appreciative of the help they get. Then I came home and grandma and I got in to it a bit and I am now trying to remain calm. She's very much in denial about her abusing medications and upset that her doc now demands I manage her medications, but that's another topic. Thank you for all the tips, and I am going to remember those the next time I have a day like yesterday.
__________________ Jessica "You can have a perfectly normal life..... if you accept the fact that your life will never be perfectly normal" You laugh because I am different...I laugh because you are all the same |
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That's ok Jessica, glad to hear that you were able to sleep it off. Sorry about the situation with your grandma. Wish I knew what to say for that one.. perhaps (if she doesn't already know this)- tell her that it's only because you care about her, that you want the best for her (and yourself), that's why you have to take care of her meds for her? Anyways take care me |
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