i cut - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

helpwanted101 · 03-05-2009, 01:24 PM

i don't know how to stop

123bubblegum123 · 03-05-2009, 01:36 PM

definitely seek professional help! a counselor will most likely be able to help you get to the bottom of why you are being destructive to yourself. Also, the chats on this website offer a great way for you to talk to other people/ask for help/connect!

take care and stay strong!!
Rachel

tommygnosis · 03-05-2009, 01:52 PM

It's tough, but hang in there. I rarely cut anymore, but it took a while to replace that with a better coping mechanism. I haven't posted enough to be allowed to post links in a message, but google secret shame (self-injury information and support) it has a lot of great information. Also, the sites in the self-injury sticky post at the top of this forum.

jessie82 · 03-05-2009, 02:04 PM

God will help those that help themseleves.

aasharon90 · 03-05-2009, 02:09 PM

Hi and welcome to SR.

Im Sharon and Im an alcoholic.

I used alcohol as my escape to
numb many problems I had.
Back in my day I dont think
there was cutting or at least
I wasnt aware of it.

To be honest I was pretty
nieve to lots of things happening
around me.

Just like when i went into
rehab back in Aug. 90, i
found about all those drugs
people were using around
me and had no idea.

I suppose i thought alcohol
was safe enough...however
it became poison to me an
almost took my life.

Once i recieved the tools and
knowledge of my disease then
I was set on the path of
recovery learning to live one
day at a time with out
Alcohol.

So can you with your situation.

Ive seen a number of movies
on tv which was a good way
to let people like me be aware
of other ways people can harm
themselves other than with
drugs or alcohol.

Whatever you are dealing with
there is a solution for it....a
healthier solution that will
unlock all those closed doors
with fears, anxiety,depression,
low self-esteem.

There is hope ....something
I didnt believe in until the key
of willingness was turned.

I was willing along with help
from others to do what it takes
to get to that peace and
serenity.

We r here to listen to you and
suggest things to help but u
have to be willing to grab
someones hand and hold on
tight till u r strong enough
to stand on ur own.

Hang on. We're here to help.

***Done_With_It*** · 03-05-2009, 02:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jessie82

God will help those that help themseleves.

Yes, and that is probably why she is here asking for help.

As was posted before there are a lot of great links in

THIS POST (Self Injury)

Keep posting a lot of us have been in your shoes before, there is help
out there and you can recover from self harm.

:ghug

helpwanted101 · 03-05-2009, 02:39 PM

i'm 16.....

what is a sticky`¿?:ghug3

***Done_With_It*** · 03-05-2009, 02:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by helpwanted101

i'm 16.....

what is a sticky`¿?:ghug3

It's the link I just posted.

The posts at the top of each forum.

Usually the post that we deem the most important for each forum.

:ghug3

aasharon90 · 03-05-2009, 02:48 PM

Hi and welcome to SR.

Shared above. Thanks

Jrock75 · 03-05-2009, 03:40 PM

I hope coming to this forum and talking about your problem has taken a burden off your back,while I have never pesonally self-cut or anything I was suicidal at one point in my life (18-19 yrs old),so I know that dark place you're in well. Just know that by talking about your problems/feelings with others will show you that you're not alone,no matter how isolated you feel you are,there are others feeling exactly the same as you. And even though there seems to be no light at the end of the tunnel...... there is trust me.

And on a final note if you can't keep yourself from doing self-harm then please get help, You said you were 16 right? Well then you have your whole life ahead of you,please get help.:praying

helpwanted101 · 03-07-2009, 10:23 AM

i have professional help thats not helping

***Done_With_It*** · 03-07-2009, 10:41 AM

Did you look at those links at all?

the impulse control log is really helpful for a lot of people,
a lot of other useful info. in their aas well.

mle-sober · 03-07-2009, 10:56 AM

Honey,

Coming from a person who spent over a decade trying to manage and control my cutting, let me tell you that I am sorry your are facing this fight. It can be very difficult, I know. And it's so hard to explain and understand.

I found myself cutting myself at times of extreme stress. I have some pretty bad scars. The worst times were when I was also drinking. So, if you're drinking or using drugs, part of getting your cutting under control might be linked to getting your drinking and using under control.

Besides the alcohol issue, the biggest fact that helped me stop cutting was to really address the abuse issues in my past. I had a very neglectful and abusive childhood and then was raped as a young woman. I tried to pretend that none of that hurt me and that I was so strong. But in order to keep up the veneer, I drank heavily and cut myself. When I stopped trying to keep up the appearance of being "just fine" and began to work with someone who could carefully help me sort through my feelings surrounding the trauma in my childhood and the rape, then I was able to slowly (very slowly) find some balance in my life and stop cutting.

I also don't think it would have happened if I hadn't been diagnosed Bipolar and given the right medicines.

So - the right diagnosis, the right meds, quitting drinking, and working with a really good counselor - those were the things I had to do to stop cutting. It's been about 2 years since I cut myself now and I rarely have even the slightest glimmer of wanting to do so.

I'm sorry that you're dealing with this issue. I know it's hard. You're doing a good thing by coming here. You are young and brave to start seeking out your own recovery. I give you a lot of credit for that.

Are your parents helpful at all? Can you let them know that the professional you are seeing isn't helping and maybe change counselors? I would be interested if you felt like sharing, what the rest of your life looks like.

- Emilie

helpwanted101 · 03-07-2009, 01:31 PM

i belong to bus:ghug

mle-sober · 03-07-2009, 04:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by helpwanted101

i belong to bus:ghug

I don't know what you mean when you say that. (?) What is bus?

***Done_With_It*** · 03-07-2009, 05:03 PM

It's a self harm board.

(bodies under siege)

helpwanted101 · 03-07-2009, 07:30 PM

and i belong to Teen Hope Line

mle-sober · 03-07-2009, 09:37 PM

HelpWanted101 -

Do you have any older f2f person you can confide in? A therapist? A trusted school teacher? A family member?

Even though you are 16 and I know I felt grown-up at 16, you are still dealing with a lot of stuff that is probably too big for you to handle alone. You still need someone looking out for you. Do you have anyone?

helpwanted101 · 03-08-2009, 07:42 PM

no i do not......i'm alone in this battle

mle-sober · 03-09-2009, 10:46 AM

I'm sorry to hear that. That must be hard. What do you use to cut yourself? What are you feeling/thinking when you cut?

03-05-2009, 01:24 PM	#1 (permalink)
helpwanted101 drop dead gorgeous Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Vincennes, Indiana Posts: 207	i cut i don't know how to stop

03-05-2009, 02:09 PM	#5 (permalink)
aasharon90 Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Baton Rouge, La. Posts: 5,568	Hi and welcome to SR. Im Sharon and Im an alcoholic. I used alcohol as my escape to numb many problems I had. Back in my day I dont think there was cutting or at least I wasnt aware of it. To be honest I was pretty nieve to lots of things happening around me. Just like when i went into rehab back in Aug. 90, i found about all those drugs people were using around me and had no idea. I suppose i thought alcohol was safe enough...however it became poison to me an almost took my life. Once i recieved the tools and knowledge of my disease then I was set on the path of recovery learning to live one day at a time with out Alcohol. So can you with your situation. Ive seen a number of movies on tv which was a good way to let people like me be aware of other ways people can harm themselves other than with drugs or alcohol. Whatever you are dealing with there is a solution for it....a healthier solution that will unlock all those closed doors with fears, anxiety,depression, low self-esteem. There is hope ....something I didnt believe in until the key of willingness was turned. I was willing along with help from others to do what it takes to get to that peace and serenity. We r here to listen to you and suggest things to help but u have to be willing to grab someones hand and hold on tight till u r strong enough to stand on ur own. Hang on. We're here to help. __________________ "A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND INDEED" SHARON B. Baton Rouge, La. 8-11-90 I turn my will and life over to the care of a Power greater than I on a daily bases for guidance, care and protection.

03-05-2009, 02:48 PM	#9 (permalink)
aasharon90 Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Baton Rouge, La. Posts: 5,568	Hi and welcome to SR. Shared above. Thanks __________________ "A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND INDEED" SHARON B. Baton Rouge, La. 8-11-90 I turn my will and life over to the care of a Power greater than I on a daily bases for guidance, care and protection.

03-07-2009, 10:41 AM	#12 (permalink)
*Done_With_It* ~7 YEARS BABY~ Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Hollywood Posts: 9,265 Blog Entries: 15	Did you look at those links at all? the impulse control log is really helpful for a lot of people, a lot of other useful info. in their aas well. __________________ Living in fast forward Hollywood RockStar outta control Need to rewind real slow Always Runin Time to take control Oh yeah ...

03-07-2009, 05:03 PM	#16 (permalink)
*Done_With_It* ~7 YEARS BABY~ Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Hollywood Posts: 9,265 Blog Entries: 15	It's a self harm board. (bodies under siege) __________________ Living in fast forward Hollywood RockStar outta control Need to rewind real slow Always Runin Time to take control Oh yeah ...

03-05-2009, 01:36 PM	#2 (permalink)
123bubblegum123 it's a movie, you're the star Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 356	definitely seek professional help! a counselor will most likely be able to help you get to the bottom of why you are being destructive to yourself. Also, the chats on this website offer a great way for you to talk to other people/ask for help/connect! take care and stay strong!! Rachel

03-05-2009, 01:52 PM	#3 (permalink)
tommygnosis A lonely two-legged creature Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: NC Posts: 19 Blog Entries: 6	It's tough, but hang in there. I rarely cut anymore, but it took a while to replace that with a better coping mechanism. I haven't posted enough to be allowed to post links in a message, but google secret shame (self-injury information and support) it has a lot of great information. Also, the sites in the self-injury sticky post at the top of this forum.

03-05-2009, 02:04 PM	#4 (permalink)
jessie82 Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Maple Lake Posts: 1	God will help those that help themseleves.

03-05-2009, 02:39 PM	#7 (permalink)
helpwanted101 drop dead gorgeous Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Vincennes, Indiana Posts: 207	i'm 16..... what is a sticky`¿?:ghug3

03-05-2009, 03:40 PM	#10 (permalink)
Jrock75 Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: I'll let you know when I figure it out Posts: 92	I hope coming to this forum and talking about your problem has taken a burden off your back,while I have never pesonally self-cut or anything I was suicidal at one point in my life (18-19 yrs old),so I know that dark place you're in well. Just know that by talking about your problems/feelings with others will show you that you're not alone,no matter how isolated you feel you are,there are others feeling exactly the same as you. And even though there seems to be no light at the end of the tunnel...... there is trust me. And on a final note if you can't keep yourself from doing self-harm then please get help, You said you were 16 right? Well then you have your whole life ahead of you,please get help.:praying

03-07-2009, 10:23 AM	#11 (permalink)
helpwanted101 drop dead gorgeous Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Vincennes, Indiana Posts: 207	i have professional help thats not helping

03-07-2009, 10:56 AM	#13 (permalink)
mle-sober mle-sober Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Golden, CO Posts: 1,243	Honey, Coming from a person who spent over a decade trying to manage and control my cutting, let me tell you that I am sorry your are facing this fight. It can be very difficult, I know. And it's so hard to explain and understand. I found myself cutting myself at times of extreme stress. I have some pretty bad scars. The worst times were when I was also drinking. So, if you're drinking or using drugs, part of getting your cutting under control might be linked to getting your drinking and using under control. Besides the alcohol issue, the biggest fact that helped me stop cutting was to really address the abuse issues in my past. I had a very neglectful and abusive childhood and then was raped as a young woman. I tried to pretend that none of that hurt me and that I was so strong. But in order to keep up the veneer, I drank heavily and cut myself. When I stopped trying to keep up the appearance of being "just fine" and began to work with someone who could carefully help me sort through my feelings surrounding the trauma in my childhood and the rape, then I was able to slowly (very slowly) find some balance in my life and stop cutting. I also don't think it would have happened if I hadn't been diagnosed Bipolar and given the right medicines. So - the right diagnosis, the right meds, quitting drinking, and working with a really good counselor - those were the things I had to do to stop cutting. It's been about 2 years since I cut myself now and I rarely have even the slightest glimmer of wanting to do so. I'm sorry that you're dealing with this issue. I know it's hard. You're doing a good thing by coming here. You are young and brave to start seeking out your own recovery. I give you a lot of credit for that. Are your parents helpful at all? Can you let them know that the professional you are seeing isn't helping and maybe change counselors? I would be interested if you felt like sharing, what the rest of your life looks like. - Emilie

03-07-2009, 01:31 PM	#14 (permalink)
helpwanted101 drop dead gorgeous Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Vincennes, Indiana Posts: 207	i belong to bus:ghug

03-07-2009, 07:30 PM	#17 (permalink)
helpwanted101 drop dead gorgeous Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Vincennes, Indiana Posts: 207	and i belong to Teen Hope Line

03-07-2009, 09:37 PM	#18 (permalink)
mle-sober mle-sober Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Golden, CO Posts: 1,243	HelpWanted101 - Do you have any older f2f person you can confide in? A therapist? A trusted school teacher? A family member? Even though you are 16 and I know I felt grown-up at 16, you are still dealing with a lot of stuff that is probably too big for you to handle alone. You still need someone looking out for you. Do you have anyone?

03-08-2009, 07:42 PM	#19 (permalink)
helpwanted101 drop dead gorgeous Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Vincennes, Indiana Posts: 207	no i do not......i'm alone in this battle

03-09-2009, 10:46 AM	#20 (permalink)
mle-sober mle-sober Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Golden, CO Posts: 1,243	I'm sorry to hear that. That must be hard. What do you use to cut yourself? What are you feeling/thinking when you cut?

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