i cut

[helpwanted101]

i don't know how to stop

[123bubblegum123]

definitely seek professional help! a counselor will most likely be able to help you get to the bottom of why you are being destructive to yourself. Also, the chats on this website offer a great way for you to talk to other people/ask for help/connect!

take care and stay strong!!
Rachel

[tommygnosis]

It's tough, but hang in there. I rarely cut anymore, but it took a while to replace that with a better coping mechanism. I haven't posted enough to be allowed to post links in a message, but google secret shame (self-injury information and support) it has a lot of great information. Also, the sites in the self-injury sticky post at the top of this forum.

[jessie82]

God will help those that help themseleves.

[aasharon90]

Hi and welcome to SR.

Im Sharon and Im an alcoholic.

I used alcohol as my escape to
numb many problems I had.
Back in my day I dont think
there was cutting or at least
I wasnt aware of it.

To be honest I was pretty
nieve to lots of things happening
around me.

Just like when i went into
rehab back in Aug. 90, i
found about all those drugs
people were using around
me and had no idea.

I suppose i thought alcohol
was safe enough...however
it became poison to me an
almost took my life.

Once i recieved the tools and
knowledge of my disease then
I was set on the path of
recovery learning to live one
day at a time with out
Alcohol.

So can you with your situation.

Ive seen a number of movies
on tv which was a good way
to let people like me be aware
of other ways people can harm
themselves other than with
drugs or alcohol.

Whatever you are dealing with
there is a solution for it....a
healthier solution that will
unlock all those closed doors
with fears, anxiety,depression,
low self-esteem.

There is hope ....something
I didnt believe in until the key
of willingness was turned.

I was willing along with help
from others to do what it takes
to get to that peace and
serenity.

We r here to listen to you and
suggest things to help but u
have to be willing to grab
someones hand and hold on
tight till u r strong enough
to stand on ur own.

Hang on. We're here to help.

[Done_With_It]

Originally Posted by jessie82

God will help those that help themseleves.

Yes, and that is probably why she is here asking for help.



As was posted before there are a lot of great links in

THIS POST (Self Injury)

Keep posting a lot of us have been in your shoes before, there is help
out there and you can recover from self harm.

:ghug

[helpwanted101]

i'm 16.....



what is a sticky`¿?

[Done_With_It]

Originally Posted by helpwanted101

i'm 16.....



what is a sticky`¿?

It's the link I just posted.

The posts at the top of each forum.

Usually the post that we deem the most important for each forum.

[aasharon90]

Hi and welcome to SR.

Shared above. Thanks

[Jrock75]

I hope coming to this forum and talking about your problem has taken a burden off your back,while I have never pesonally self-cut or anything I was suicidal at one point in my life (18-19 yrs old),so I know that dark place you're in well. Just know that by talking about your problems/feelings with others will show you that you're not alone,no matter how isolated you feel you are,there are others feeling exactly the same as you. And even though there seems to be no light at the end of the tunnel...... there is trust me.

And on a final note if you can't keep yourself from doing self-harm then please get help, You said you were 16 right? Well then you have your whole life ahead of you,please get help.

[OzSandy]

I have self-cut. To transpose the pain. I think it was from bottling things up a great deal - finally I was able to release it by talking to a good counsellor. Definitely, seek a professional.

I also find that doing something physical when I feel like self-cutting can be a good outlet, like doing some cleaning, going for a quick run, etc.

Last year I cut a few times when I'd been drinking and can't even remember.

[helpwanted101]

i have professional help thats not helping

[Done_With_It]

Did you look at those links at all?

the impulse control log is really helpful for a lot of people,
a lot of other useful info. in their aas well.

[mle-sober]

Honey,

Coming from a person who spent over a decade trying to manage and control my cutting, let me tell you that I am sorry your are facing this fight. It can be very difficult, I know. And it's so hard to explain and understand.

I found myself cutting myself at times of extreme stress. I have some pretty bad scars. The worst times were when I was also drinking. So, if you're drinking or using drugs, part of getting your cutting under control might be linked to getting your drinking and using under control.

Besides the alcohol issue, the biggest fact that helped me stop cutting was to really address the abuse issues in my past. I had a very neglectful and abusive childhood and then was raped as a young woman. I tried to pretend that none of that hurt me and that I was so strong. But in order to keep up the veneer, I drank heavily and cut myself. When I stopped trying to keep up the appearance of being "just fine" and began to work with someone who could carefully help me sort through my feelings surrounding the trauma in my childhood and the rape, then I was able to slowly (very slowly) find some balance in my life and stop cutting.

I also don't think it would have happened if I hadn't been diagnosed Bipolar and given the right medicines.

So - the right diagnosis, the right meds, quitting drinking, and working with a really good counselor - those were the things I had to do to stop cutting. It's been about 2 years since I cut myself now and I rarely have even the slightest glimmer of wanting to do so.

I'm sorry that you're dealing with this issue. I know it's hard. You're doing a good thing by coming here. You are young and brave to start seeking out your own recovery. I give you a lot of credit for that.

Are your parents helpful at all? Can you let them know that the professional you are seeing isn't helping and maybe change counselors? I would be interested if you felt like sharing, what the rest of your life looks like.

- Emilie

[helpwanted101]

i belong to bus:ghug

[mle-sober]

Originally Posted by helpwanted101

i belong to bus:ghug

I don't know what you mean when you say that. (?) What is bus?

[Done_With_It]

It's a self harm board.

(bodies under siege)

[helpwanted101]

and i belong to Teen Hope Line

[mle-sober]

HelpWanted101 -

Do you have any older f2f person you can confide in? A therapist? A trusted school teacher? A family member?

Even though you are 16 and I know I felt grown-up at 16, you are still dealing with a lot of stuff that is probably too big for you to handle alone. You still need someone looking out for you. Do you have anyone?

[helpwanted101]

no i do not......i'm alone in this battle

[mle-sober]

I'm sorry to hear that. That must be hard. What do you use to cut yourself? What are you feeling/thinking when you cut?

[kermit]

Here is a story I have never told, I have been on this site for 3yrs but I post in Family and friends. When I was a youg person I felt alone very alone. I has anorexia, bulima I also tried killing myself many times. I too cut my self, although there was not much known at the time I did it. I was so affraid of help. Because I was affraid of being judged. I still am. My Mom took me to a shrink and he just locked me up in a psyc ward. I was there for 2 weeks when my mom figured out it was not the place for me. As a child I was home alone many times, my parents were working, and even when they were home, i was still alone. So I believe I did these "things" to my self to get attention. I was a very sick little girl. I made so many bad choices.
The place I found help? In my self, I was tired of being tired, sad, lonely. I found help in my church, I has a priest that took a special intrest in me and another kid, whom became a great friend of mine and this priest tought me that it was okay to have these feelings of dispair, he tought me how to belive in myself.
I guess I'm just saying reach out to a minister, priest, school teacher anyone... they will help you. If you are not getting the help you need where you are at, get a different conselor, just reach out please!

[helpwanted101]

i can't...............i would get in trouble...........i was verbally abused in school



spelling error i has should be i have

[kermit]

Maybe a friends parent?

[mle-sober]

Well, Sweetie, you have 3 choices:

1) Continue on the way you are doing.
2) Stop cutting yourself by your own will and with the online resources that you have already found.
3) Look around you and try to identify someone in your world who can help and ask them for help. See where that route takes you.

I think (1) is probably untenable.
I think (2) is almost impossible but at least more acceptable.
I think (3) is your best best.

When I was 16, I'd been sexually abused by multiple people and had been drinking heavily for 2 years. I was cutting myself with exacto blades. It gave me some sort of comfort. My parents were deeply preoccupied with their own game and thought I was out of their reach, emotionally. They had given up on my. They started the process of placing me in foster care. Luckily, a friend of theirs from college got wind of the situation and offered to take me in. I moved into a complete stranger's house in a state half-way across the country. And absolutley everything changed. She got me into therapy and I went on antidepressants. I was "rescued."

I know that your situation is different and that you don't feel like there is anyone around you who can help. But there is. In big cities, there are even teen-help organizations. In smaller cities and rural areas, clergy, teachers, friends of the family, relatives - all of these people are possibilities. You need to look around you and think deeply about who you know.

When you say you would get in trouble, who do you mean would get mad at you?