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unbroken · 03-16-2008, 12:08 AM

I am 46 years old and my husband is bipolar, we have been together for 20 years and have two teenage boys. My Therapist suggested Al-anon but I feel funny about that since he gave up drinking and is just suffering from a brain illness. I feel like I don't belong anywhere but maybe here?

Nice to find this place : )

ANGELINA243 · 03-16-2008, 12:19 AM

Welcome! Glad you are here!

barb dwyer · 03-16-2008, 12:21 AM

welcome unbroken - nice handle.

feel free to read the stickies at the top of the forum ...
have a look around ... invite your husband to join us as well?

Don W · 03-16-2008, 12:33 AM

Welcome. When you're sharing you're always in the right place. I suffer from PTSD and am recovering from alcholism. My wife has started alonon over this past year. All the family is affected by mental illness and alcoholism. Each must form their own recovery program. Alanon is for you. You deserve to feel better. Feeling alone is from isolating. Like my wife, along with help you'll meet others. From others you learn how to live. Don W

**nandm** · 03-16-2008, 12:42 AM

Welcome to SR.

I can understand why the therapist recommended ALANON. Many times even when an alcoholic quits drinking they still have many of the behaviors that were present when they drank. This can be difficult for their spouse to deal with and maintian boundaries around. You might be surprised at how well you fit in if you went to a meeting. Might be worth going to a couple just to see what they have to offer.

Another place that you might check into is CODA (Co-dependents Anonymous). I only say this because many times people that have lived with a person who has abused drugs or alcohol will wind up developing some co-dependent issues. These groups help those people find solutions to that problem.

Either way please keep posting and once again welcome to SR.

Latte · 03-16-2008, 12:43 AM

One of my dear friends started going to a meeting that she found through here NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illness. This may be in the stickies. Her husband suffers from depression and he has chosen not to get help but she knew she needed help. They deal with mental illness, including addiction.

unbroken · 03-16-2008, 12:57 AM

Wow Guys Thanks for the great welcome! Nice to know I have someplace to go when I can't sleep : ) To say the very least!!!!!!

I look forward to getting to know all of you, the last couple of years have been too much for me to handle and I am sooo happy to find people that are like me....sometimes truth is stranger than fiction, ya know?

barb dwyer · 03-16-2008, 01:17 AM

boy do we ever - LOL

(the whole truth ~ fiction thing, I mean)

historyteach · 03-16-2008, 07:59 AM

Welcome, unbroken!

I look forward to getting to know you!

Shalom!

TiredMama · 03-16-2008, 08:54 AM

Welcome welcome! I don't know much about al anon but I am glad you have found us.

I have bipolar II.

knittinggal · 03-17-2008, 12:42 PM

HI!! Welcome! It's really nice to find support, especially non-judgmental support.

BUTTERFLY-7 · 03-24-2008, 11:13 AM

WELCOME,UNBROKEN U ARE IN THE RIGHT TRACK,WEATHER IS THIS OR ANY SITE,4'R GOD THERE IS NO COENCEDINCE THAT U FOUND US U ARE IN THE RIGHT PLACE STICK AROUND,I WAS ALSO DIAGNOST WITH THE SYMDROME OF BIPOLAR 4'R YEAR'S AGO AND IT HASN'T BEEN AND EAZY RIDE BUT IT COULD OF BEEN WORST TAKE TIME 4'R U 2 DISCOVER U AND LEAVE THE REST 2 G.O.D(GOOD,ORDERLY, DIRECTION.):ghug

adore79 · 03-24-2008, 11:21 AM

Welcome unbroken!!

unbroken · 03-25-2008, 12:23 AM

Thank you all : )

felly 79 I like your sig, It takes COURAGE to enoy it-no doubt!

I'm going to see t-doc tomorrow and I hope she can get more creative than the usual, "let's commit him" or "you should leave him" B.S.-----WTF, These people get a degree for this advice???????

Sorry to vent.....it's the anticipatory anxiety <3

YouTube - Jessica Sierra's Deepest Secret
Unbroken

tonys76 · 03-25-2008, 02:11 PM

Welcome and good luck with your husband!

03-16-2008, 12:08 AM	#1 (permalink)
unbroken Unbroken Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Florida Posts: 19	Hi, I'm new I am 46 years old and my husband is bipolar, we have been together for 20 years and have two teenage boys. My Therapist suggested Al-anon but I feel funny about that since he gave up drinking and is just suffering from a brain illness. I feel like I don't belong anywhere but maybe here? Nice to find this place : )

03-16-2008, 12:21 AM	#3 (permalink)
barb dwyer same planet...different world Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: butte mt Posts: 7,973 Blog Entries: 3	welcome unbroken - nice handle. feel free to read the stickies at the top of the forum ... have a look around ... invite your husband to join us as well? __________________ Menopause ~ puberty with experience.

03-16-2008, 12:33 AM	#4 (permalink)
Don W Member Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Charleston S.C. Posts: 1,462	Welcome. When you're sharing you're always in the right place. I suffer from PTSD and am recovering from alcholism. My wife has started alonon over this past year. All the family is affected by mental illness and alcoholism. Each must form their own recovery program. Alanon is for you. You deserve to feel better. Feeling alone is from isolating. Like my wife, along with help you'll meet others. From others you learn how to live. Don W __________________ Captain America - On the side of good

03-16-2008, 12:42 AM	#5 (permalink)
nandm Life the gift of recovery! Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Home is where the heart is Posts: 5,310	Welcome to SR. I can understand why the therapist recommended ALANON. Many times even when an alcoholic quits drinking they still have many of the behaviors that were present when they drank. This can be difficult for their spouse to deal with and maintian boundaries around. You might be surprised at how well you fit in if you went to a meeting. Might be worth going to a couple just to see what they have to offer. Another place that you might check into is CODA (Co-dependents Anonymous). I only say this because many times people that have lived with a person who has abused drugs or alcohol will wind up developing some co-dependent issues. These groups help those people find solutions to that problem. Either way please keep posting and once again welcome to SR. __________________ NOTE: All Big Book quotes are from the First Edition of the Big Book WHY DOGS LIVES ARE SO MUCH SHORTER THAN HUMANS: People are born so that they can learn how to live a good life -- like loving everybody all the time and being nice. Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they don't have to stay as long

03-16-2008, 12:43 AM	#6 (permalink)
Latte I love my Coastie and 44 MLB's Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Coos Bay, OR Posts: 1,410	One of my dear friends started going to a meeting that she found through here NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illness. This may be in the stickies. Her husband suffers from depression and he has chosen not to get help but she knew she needed help. They deal with mental illness, including addiction. __________________ I am so thankful for my sobriety I think there are so many people who want to take as many freaks as possible for a ride on the drama train, and I can't afford the ticket, so forget it. Idgie-

03-16-2008, 12:19 AM	#2 (permalink)
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03-16-2008, 12:57 AM	#7 (permalink)
unbroken Unbroken Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Florida Posts: 19	Wow Guys Thanks for the great welcome! Nice to know I have someplace to go when I can't sleep : ) To say the very least!!!!!! I look forward to getting to know all of you, the last couple of years have been too much for me to handle and I am sooo happy to find people that are like me....sometimes truth is stranger than fiction, ya know?

03-16-2008, 01:17 AM	#8 (permalink)
barb dwyer same planet...different world Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: butte mt Posts: 7,973 Blog Entries: 3	boy do we ever - LOL (the whole truth ~ fiction thing, I mean) __________________ Menopause ~ puberty with experience.

03-16-2008, 07:59 AM	#9 (permalink)
historyteach To Life! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Rhode Island Posts: 8,884	Welcome, unbroken! I look forward to getting to know you! Shalom! __________________ IMAGINE

03-16-2008, 08:54 AM	#10 (permalink)
TiredMama Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Birmingham, AL Posts: 536	Welcome welcome! I don't know much about al anon but I am glad you have found us. I have bipolar II. __________________

03-17-2008, 12:42 PM	#11 (permalink)
knittinggal Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: New Jersey Posts: 15	HI!! Welcome! It's really nice to find support, especially non-judgmental support.

03-24-2008, 11:13 AM	#12 (permalink)
BUTTERFLY-7 FreeSpirit Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Inside My Spirit Posts: 1,276 Blog Entries: 2	WELCOME,UNBROKEN U ARE IN THE RIGHT TRACK,WEATHER IS THIS OR ANY SITE,4'R GOD THERE IS NO COENCEDINCE THAT U FOUND US U ARE IN THE RIGHT PLACE STICK AROUND,I WAS ALSO DIAGNOST WITH THE SYMDROME OF BIPOLAR 4'R YEAR'S AGO AND IT HASN'T BEEN AND EAZY RIDE BUT IT COULD OF BEEN WORST TAKE TIME 4'R U 2 DISCOVER U AND LEAVE THE REST 2 G.O.D(GOOD,ORDERLY, DIRECTION.):ghug

03-24-2008, 11:21 AM	#13 (permalink)
adore79 Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: WA, USA Posts: 2,503 Blog Entries: 42	Welcome unbroken!!

03-25-2008, 12:23 AM	#14 (permalink)
unbroken Unbroken Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Florida Posts: 19	Thank you all : ) felly 79 I like your sig, It takes COURAGE to enoy it-no doubt! I'm going to see t-doc tomorrow and I hope she can get more creative than the usual, "let's commit him" or "you should leave him" B.S.-----WTF, These people get a degree for this advice??????? Sorry to vent.....it's the anticipatory anxiety <3 YouTube - Jessica Sierra's Deepest Secret Unbroken

03-25-2008, 02:11 PM	#15 (permalink)
tonys76 Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Aguila, AZ Posts: 17	Welcome and good luck with your husband!

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