Sometimes I Grow So Weary - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

Bozo · 12-18-2007, 06:58 PM

I was working on a soda machine today. My hands were full of parts and I was right in the middle of doing something and some guy shows up out of nowhere and goes, "Hey! That machine is not giving out Coke." I looked over my shoulder at him as I walked towards my van and said, "I know. Thats why I am here."

I turn around and the guy calls me an effin ahole!! I spun around and said, "what did you say?", but the guy keeps mumbling and walks off.

Well I am pissed, I go in the place of business and tell the receptionist one of the employees of this business just called me an effin ahole. I want to see him or his boss right now, I said it is unacceptable for someone to talk to me that way. Especially in light of I really didnt do anything wrong that I know of.

So she goes, "That was the boss. And there is no one above him to talk to."

I demanded the guy come out and talk to me face to face, but he refused to leave his office. And then I worked on the coke machine for another 45 minutes, hoping to see him, or at least get an apology, but nothing else happened.

My god!! Why does something like this upset me so and why am I so incapable of handling the uneasy feelings that I dealt with the rest of the day into the night??

Sure hope counseling therapy helps me. I dont like feeling this way. Mike

frankly · 12-19-2007, 04:43 PM

Bozo - I'm pretty sure I would have been POed. It's one thing to be verbally attacked when you've done something, it's another to take the brunt of someone elses bad attitude when you were there to do your job.

Letting go of something like that would be hard for me too. Actually, I would probably go over it and over it in my mind for days. And be POed for days. I probably would have even considered sabataging the machine, wouldn't have, but would have thought about it.

If it helps any, he is probably a miserable person. Anyone who acts like that can't be happy. I hope you find a way to vent your frustration over it.

B

historyteach · 12-20-2007, 02:44 AM

(((Mike)))

You were verbally abused, and it had nothing to do with you. It was all about him.

You do have recourse, though. If it was a corporation, write a letter to corporate headquarters. The board of directors, the CEO or anyone else above the moron who verbally assaulted you needs to hear of the incident. He is the "face of the company," and doing the company an injustice. They will want to know.

If he is the president of his own company, you should write him anyway, and let him know what a jackass he is. Let him know you will never purchase his product and you will let others know of his unprofessional conduct. He will fully understand the cost his ill will to his company as a result of his boorish behavior.

Again, *you* did nothing wrong. Try to let it go, knowing that. And take action. It will help you feel better.

Shalom!

barb dwyer · 12-20-2007, 05:59 AM

" I know you are: but what am I?"

Remember that?

Good thing I'm not a guy -
I'd have probably sneaked in his office and peed in his desk drawer or something.

LOOL

sometimes just thinking about creative ways to ... I dunno ' get even?' get justice - is there really much difference? ... keeps me from acting on emotions I don't need to be acting on.

I think you did fine not buying into the power trip ...
and .. you move on ...
while this guy is doomed to ask "you want fries with that?"

*shrug*

Alive · 12-21-2007, 03:51 AM

Sick people can smell good people from at distance...

I am glad you did not let it affect you...Remember you can always Rise above it, because your spirit is already beautiful, that's their problem, don't let them break your spirit, that's your strength.

tennchick9598 · 12-23-2007, 08:05 PM

(((((( Bozo)))))))) I would have flipped my lid, you handled yourself great!! I just wanted to say Merry Christmas to you, you were one of my rocks when I was grasping for sobriety, but just couldnt get there, now I have 18 days!!!! You are a wonderful person, and I wish all the best for you and yours!!! Happy Holidays Bozo!

If you ever get a chance, let me know how you are doing, I know we had a similar DOC. I enjoyed talking with you and miss over in Substance Abuse...... Hope to talk to you soon!!

Bozo · 12-24-2007, 03:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Karim

Sick people can smell good people from at distance...

Thanks for the message, true, so true.

shutterbug · 12-24-2007, 05:02 PM

hugs to you

Wolfstarr · 12-24-2007, 06:03 PM

Ya did good, kid!

A person like that needs lotsa prayers and kindness...sounds like his jar is empty....
poor wretch.

Hugs,
Wolfie

caraway · 12-24-2007, 06:04 PM

Hope you're feeling better now Bozo. I'm not very good at handling those kind of situations either so I can't give any advice. Sounds like you handled it well though and I really like what Karim said!

Cindi R · 12-24-2007, 09:26 PM

I'd take all the coke outta the machine and only leave orange soda...
hohoho...
merry x-mas!

Bozo · 12-26-2007, 04:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by caraway

Hope you're feeling better now Bozo. I'm not very good at handling those kind of situations either so I can't give any advice. Sounds like you handled it well though and I really like what Karim said!

Me too!!

Bozo · 12-26-2007, 04:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cindi R

I'd take all the coke outta the machine and only leave orange soda...
hohoho...
merry x-mas!

Heh, heh. Now THATS what Im talking about!!!

Bozo · 12-26-2007, 04:38 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cindi R

I'd take all the coke outta the machine and only leave orange soda...
hohoho...
merry x-mas!

NO SOUP(SODA) FOR YOU!!!!

12-18-2007, 06:58 PM	#1 (permalink)
Bozo On The Bus Join Date: May 2004 Location: Brattleboro, Vt. Posts: 475	Sometimes I Grow So Weary I was working on a soda machine today. My hands were full of parts and I was right in the middle of doing something and some guy shows up out of nowhere and goes, "Hey! That machine is not giving out Coke." I looked over my shoulder at him as I walked towards my van and said, "I know. Thats why I am here." I turn around and the guy calls me an effin ahole!! I spun around and said, "what did you say?", but the guy keeps mumbling and walks off. Well I am pissed, I go in the place of business and tell the receptionist one of the employees of this business just called me an effin ahole. I want to see him or his boss right now, I said it is unacceptable for someone to talk to me that way. Especially in light of I really didnt do anything wrong that I know of. So she goes, "That was the boss. And there is no one above him to talk to." I demanded the guy come out and talk to me face to face, but he refused to leave his office. And then I worked on the coke machine for another 45 minutes, hoping to see him, or at least get an apology, but nothing else happened. My god!! Why does something like this upset me so and why am I so incapable of handling the uneasy feelings that I dealt with the rest of the day into the night?? Sure hope counseling therapy helps me. I dont like feeling this way. Mike __________________ Signature made by my son Alex.

12-19-2007, 04:43 PM	#2 (permalink)
frankly Living Life Again RIP Brett Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Florida, Tennessee Posts: 835 Blog Entries: 1	Bozo - I'm pretty sure I would have been POed. It's one thing to be verbally attacked when you've done something, it's another to take the brunt of someone elses bad attitude when you were there to do your job. Letting go of something like that would be hard for me too. Actually, I would probably go over it and over it in my mind for days. And be POed for days. I probably would have even considered sabataging the machine, wouldn't have, but would have thought about it. If it helps any, he is probably a miserable person. Anyone who acts like that can't be happy. I hope you find a way to vent your frustration over it. B __________________ Without Rain and Sunshine, there would be no Rainbows.

12-20-2007, 02:44 AM	#3 (permalink)
historyteach To Life! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Rhode Island Posts: 9,303	(((Mike))) You were verbally abused, and it had nothing to do with you. It was all about him. You do have recourse, though. If it was a corporation, write a letter to corporate headquarters. The board of directors, the CEO or anyone else above the moron who verbally assaulted you needs to hear of the incident. He is the "face of the company," and doing the company an injustice. They will want to know. If he is the president of his own company, you should write him anyway, and let him know what a jackass he is. Let him know you will never purchase his product and you will let others know of his unprofessional conduct. He will fully understand the cost his ill will to his company as a result of his boorish behavior. Again, you did nothing wrong. Try to let it go, knowing that. And take action. It will help you feel better. Shalom! __________________ IMAGINE

12-20-2007, 05:59 AM	#4 (permalink)
barb dwyer same planet...different world Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: butte mt Posts: 10,933 Blog Entries: 7	" I know you are: but what am I?" Remember that? Good thing I'm not a guy - I'd have probably sneaked in his office and peed in his desk drawer or something. LOOL sometimes just thinking about creative ways to ... I dunno ' get even?' get justice - is there really much difference? ... keeps me from acting on emotions I don't need to be acting on. I think you did fine not buying into the power trip ... and .. you move on ... while this guy is doomed to ask "you want fries with that?" shrug __________________ Knowledge is knowing that tomato is a fruit. Wisdom is not putting it in fruit salad.

12-23-2007, 08:05 PM	#6 (permalink)
tennchick9598 Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: TN Posts: 1,372 Blog Entries: 10	(((((( Bozo)))))))) I would have flipped my lid, you handled yourself great!! I just wanted to say Merry Christmas to you, you were one of my rocks when I was grasping for sobriety, but just couldnt get there, now I have 18 days!!!! You are a wonderful person, and I wish all the best for you and yours!!! Happy Holidays Bozo! If you ever get a chance, let me know how you are doing, I know we had a similar DOC. I enjoyed talking with you and miss over in Substance Abuse...... Hope to talk to you soon!! __________________ Its Better To Have Loved and Lost Then Never To Have Loved At All........

12-21-2007, 03:51 AM	#5 (permalink)
Alive believer Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Europe Posts: 2,411 Blog Entries: 1	Sick people can smell good people from at distance... I am glad you did not let it affect you...Remember you can always Rise above it, because your spirit is already beautiful, that's their problem, don't let them break your spirit, that's your strength.

12-24-2007, 05:02 PM	#8 (permalink)
shutterbug A picture's worth a 1000 words Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: With any luck, I'm lost in a view finder Posts: 2,947 Blog Entries: 5	hugs to you __________________ I'M FINE!! Fanatically Insecure Neuratic & Emotional Bipolar/Depression support: 1-800-950-NAMI(6264).

12-24-2007, 06:03 PM	#9 (permalink)
Wolfstarr Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Deeeep South Posts: 767	Ya did good, kid! A person like that needs lotsa prayers and kindness...sounds like his jar is empty.... poor wretch. Hugs, Wolfie __________________

12-24-2007, 06:04 PM	#10 (permalink)
caraway Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 559	Hope you're feeling better now Bozo. I'm not very good at handling those kind of situations either so I can't give any advice. Sounds like you handled it well though and I really like what Karim said! __________________ "I've learned from my mistakes and I'm sure I can repeat them exactly." Peter Cook

12-24-2007, 09:26 PM	#11 (permalink)
Cindi R Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Anywhere,USA Posts: 511	I'd take all the coke outta the machine and only leave orange soda... hohoho... merry x-mas! __________________ There's no gram like the program

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