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[liveweyerd]

hi.
By the time I get done reading around to try to catch up I usually find I have nothing to say.

I am really ambivalent about new meds and seem to be extra resistant to taking them.

Staying where I am at right now with the inner child.
I have a photo of hubs about 4 years old all done up in a cowboy outfit. He's really cute...I should send him a note asking if he likes me just check the box? And then I would chase him in the schoolyard and give him a kiss.!
LOL
That and I have a good book. Pulitzer history but so alive it is time travel!
Really I am sharing some of the inner child and his photo with him to help him understand what I am doing and hope he uses some of these tools as well....because he is way too wonderful to have the guilt/shame issues he has!

No manipulatating etc tho'

After my last experiments with that I felt far worse than Imus.
That's healthy earned guilt. And I didn't even mean any of it, I was just up to something. How to be as offensive as possible 101

Teach, you have been on my mind all day, as educators are my real heroes. And I also keep thinking you would love this book. If you would like me to mail it to you when I am finished you can pm me your address. The title is Common Ground By Anthony Lukas, it is about civil rights....and DAMN, I am so much not a bigot but that is exactly what I was acting like in my game. But it is so vivid with its setting in our childhood. I am wanting to sit down and make a list of questions for my dad. I must have been about 4 years old, was in on the first trial of headstart, one of two white kids while dad was getting his 2d master's in Little Rock Ark. And I want to ask him if what I am remembering is "Were those civil rights meetings?" Then Teach I thought of you and remembered the still ongoing sexism and discrimination. And then, Jenna of getting your take on it as being the next generation.

Teach, I feel like feminists paved and opened the doors and have forever changed our society but it is still unfinished business, side-tracked and lost awareness of.
Would you agree with that?

I read some posts this morning that left me sad and shocked. At how little woman in general are settling for. I could not think of a diplomatic way to draw attention to what I was seeing so I said nothing, but still shaking my head, this is not right!
There was also discussion of the makeup etc and meeting men's standard's of beauty. Which viewpoint has this no bra, hairy legged woman of no makeup unless I am paid for it or specifically want to....wondering about what our standards are??????

I put in my personal ads that I was looking for integrity and courage LMAO!!!

I got short, blonde and chunky....but this is my rodeo!!!

hugs to all!

[shutterbug]

glad to get to read your new thread post. I've still been wondering how you are doing.

i don't know that i have a specific take on sexism and where the role of "women" is headed...although i just realized that there seems to be 3 main roads traveled by most women these days. 1. we're severe codies who'll put up with damn near anything b/c of the giant inner fears we have of being unloved and alone...so we end up working our butts off while our significant others stay home, be lazy and cheat on us while we pay the bills. 2. The women who are complete opposites and had a go at marriage, didn't fit and they seem to not want anything to do with committed relationships with men, but rather devote themselves to their work and family/friends/cat. 3. somewhere in the middle.

Either way...most are working full-time jobs while still having traditional roles and expectations put on them/us. Probably, if you looked at the number of employed women in the 40s or 50s...that number would probably resemble the current day number of women who ARN'T employed, but are rather stay-at-home moms/wives. It's all done a 180, in my opinion only of course.

Honestly...it all makes me a little furious. I wish i'd been born back then when women were only expected to be 2 people (mom and wife) as opposed to 3+ now (as the addition of the role of employee has changed things). And forget about people like my sister raising twin boys, finishing her master's degree, AND working full-time with a daily 1/2 commute, one way!!!

And people wonder WHY mental illness is becoming more prevelant these days!!!! Ummm, duh....superwoman is a ficticious character! None of us can ever actually be a superwoman even tho the world thinks we should and we sure try awfully hard to be.

hugs,
jenna

[historyteach]

Teach, I feel like feminists paved and opened the doors and have forever changed our society but it is still unfinished business, side-tracked and lost awareness of. Would you agree with that?

I think that, like every progressive movement in history, we come so far, then, back off as the conservatives think we've gone too far. Time passes and we begin anew.
And, I think we are our own worst enemies, willing to conceed the rights of others when we are comfortable enough.

I read some posts this morning that left me sad and shocked. At how little woman in general are settling for.

This has multiple reasons. Some are based in age and maturity; others in ethnic expectations of the "norm." And some, just in plain old fear.
It is sad, indeed.
We aren't going to change it.
A young girl still hears fairy tales of Prince Charming and dreams of her prince taking her away. She wants her 2.4 kids and the white picket fence, the modern day version of "happily ever after." Nothing wrong with it, but, it doen't give her a realistic view of what her life will be. She will one day end up with the frustrations as did the women in the 60s - with the "problem that has no name."
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Cultural expectations of norms is a more difficult issue to address, especially in today's highly charged "politically correct" world. Fact is, women in some other cultures, especially those south of the border, are treated as "less than.'' It's what they know. They come here, legally or not, and bring that ideology with them. *IF* they become citizens, they tend to vote conservative. (One reason why the republican president wants to grant amnisty; he knows his party is doomed because he screwed up so badly, if he cannot get the illegals in to vote, according to one analysis I recently read.) This behavior, of course, retards progress for the rest of American women. But, even if they never become citizens, they teach those values to their own children who perpetuate it; those children are citizens who will grow up to vote. It is what they know.

Finally, fear. It's easy to let others make every decision for you. I know such women. It's sad, but, it's real. Jenna's point is valid. So much is expected today. Work, raise the kids, do the house, volunteer, commute, shop, be the perfect hostess....no one person can do it all. So, it's overwhelming. And how safe it is to give up the self for security. Just let someone else make the decisions, especially when the political culture is leaning that way.

Just some rambling thoughts prior to my first cup of coffee. I have got to go get some now. But, Live, do ask your dad about the meetings, for sure! And yes, I'd be interested in the book. I'll send you my address later, or just send me the info, and I'll get it at amazon.

Shalom!

[shutterbug]

I know you are resting...so just check back in whenever you feel up to it..no rush...just wanted you to know you are in my thoughts daily.

Love and hugs,
Jenna