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historyteach · 11-07-2006, 01:44 PM

Hmmm....this is weird...
My old counselor called me yesterday. She called again today. She wants me to come in and see her next week!

Now, we stopped seeing each other months ago. She "released" me? I guess you would say. We had nothing left to work on about.

Why the hell is she calling me?

I did have my physical a few weeks ago. And I had signed a release for my doc and her to speak. They never had that I'm aware of. I even asked once, and they hadn't. So, while it's possible the doc contacted her, I'd be VERY surprised.

First, he would have let me know, I'm sure. Second, it's been weeks since my appointment, so, why wait?

What the hell is going on? Can anyone figure?

I called back and left a message saying I would come. But, I DID ask what's up? I stated that she's never called *me* for me to come in, before, lol!

Am I crazy? Or more crazy than I thought? :andy:

Shalom!

wandergrrl777 · 11-07-2006, 02:08 PM

Maybe your counselor just wants to check in with you? Just as a follow up??

Maybe they just really like you and miss you...LOL (that's what I would assume if it were me..lol)

-moni

historyteach · 11-07-2006, 02:15 PM

Has it ever happened to anyone whe's been to counseling?

Shalom!

stefanie · 11-07-2006, 06:04 PM

Yes Teach, a therapist called me to chat, and
see how I was. I think about three months
after we had stopped our sessions, all of
my issues resolved at that point. I went
back to see him for a follow-up. It was
very nice.

historyteach · 11-07-2006, 06:10 PM

Thank you, Stefanie;
That's good to hear. I've seen this woman a few different times, and this has never happened before.
Strange...

I appreciate your input.

Shalom!

Bozo · 11-08-2006, 03:48 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by historyteach

Has it ever happened to anyone whe's been to counseling?

Shalom!

That does seem strange, low on money perhaps!!!

historyteach · 11-08-2006, 04:14 AM

Could be, bozo; could be!

Shalom!

reikihelps · 11-11-2006, 04:53 PM

Yes, I got a call once but just she to check in beacause I had a family member who was very ill. She wasn't calling to tell me to come in for an appt. What does your gut say? fishy?? or not??

historyteach · 11-12-2006, 05:33 AM

The only thing my gut says is confused.
This has never occured with her.
I called back, saying I would come, but, specifically asked what was up. She never called back and that was last week. She's had plenty of time to call, so, I can only imagine that she doens't want to talk on the phone.
WTF?

Shalom!

reikihelps · 11-19-2006, 01:10 AM

let us know what happens.
Hope it's helpful : )

historyteach · 11-19-2006, 05:34 AM

Hi, Reiki;

I met with her this past week. She said she thought we had an appointment -- on Yom Kippur day!
Not even a chance! I'm in services ALL DAY on Yom Kippur. I would never schedule anything that day! It's the most important Holy Day of the Jewish faith!
So, there's somehting, I don't know.
But, I'm back there talking to her.
Maybe she talked to my career counselor, and decided she wanted me to be able to come and talk things out. But, why not just say that?
I don't know...

Thanks for asking.

Shalom!

Ten Chips Down · 11-19-2006, 09:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by historyteach

I met with her this past week. She said she thought we had an appointment -- on Yom Kippur day! Not even a chance!

Maybe she talked to my career counselor [...] But, why not just say that? I don't know...

Hi Teach,

Nah, sounds weird to me too. It's not unheard of to conduct follow-ups if the client-counselor relationship was many months long or more, but see, I look at this thread and wonder why all the mystery on both ends. LOL

You could just ask! Radical I know, I know!

Also, for me I couldn't stand being kept in such suspense.

Ten
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historyteach · 11-20-2006, 02:40 AM

Ten,
I DID ask. That's when she said she thought we had an appointment on Yom Kippur. I am not into games. '

Shalom!

reikihelps · 11-25-2006, 05:46 PM

Hi Teach,
(by the way, I'm a teacher,too. high school English)
Feels funny to me. My therapist is so straightforward and clear. I can really let down and relax with her. Sounds odd to me....
-hope your holiday was pleasant
Reikihelps

historyteach · 11-25-2006, 06:15 PM

Hi, Reiki;
My holiday was very pleasant, thanks. We gathered with the family. My mom was in the hospital, so, she couldn't be with us, unfortunately. I spoke to her on the phone, cuz, I had a cold and didn't want to bring in my germs to her in the hospital. She's got enough going on without added problems!

I do hope you had a pleasant day too! Thanks for asking!

I teach high school history. Could ya tell? lol!

It IS weird, and I'm not sure how I want to handle this. Seems like she's playing a game, and as I said, I'm not into games. :nono:
I am CERTAIN she said we didn't need to meet anymore. Then she says we had a non-existent meeting on the most holy day of my faith.
It's definately NOT kosher, lol!
and I'm disappointed in this behavior.
But, not sure what I want to do about it. Sometimes, it's best to pick your battles, ya know what I mean?

Shalom!

reikihelps · 11-30-2006, 03:40 PM

True we do have to pick our battles; however, therapists sometimes have boundary issues, too. This would bug me too much not to ask.
Asking may deepen the honesty level of your sessions, too.

Ten Chips Down · 12-01-2006, 06:32 PM

Ayup. Takes us right back to the communication aspect: You're not into games - so (again) - ask. *???* I don't understand the big mystery over all this. (Obviously.)

historyteach · 12-07-2006, 07:12 PM

I really don't know how to say this more clearly.
I DID ask.

Shalom!

Ten Chips Down · 12-07-2006, 10:03 PM

Yeah but why don't you just ask, for cryng out loud?

LOL j/k
Ok, Teach. Very sorry to have irritated you, it just seems to us that if you'd asked "why on Yom Kippur?" then you'd have been given an answer and there would be no head-scratching or wondering why.

Ten Chips Down · 12-07-2006, 10:15 PM

Looks like the joke is on us for our lapse of attention. Reiki, I give to you... THIS:

"I met with her this past week. She said she thought we had an appointment...."

Now, I suppose it could be that Teach's counselor simply forgot all about the Jewish faith dealy. Dunno - but I'm sorry for drilling you, HistoryTeach.

Shalom indeed,
Ten

historyteach · 12-11-2006, 07:00 PM

Well, to be honest, I said to her, "I would NEVER have booked an appt on Yom Kippur."
She said nothing afterwards.

I'm going to see her tomorrow. I have some other things I want to ask about anyway, so, I'll ask again about this.

And I'm not irritated, ten.

Shalom!

reader · 12-12-2006, 01:14 AM

My sons counselor will call me to check on how Tucker is doing!!! No harm in a phone call.

11-07-2006, 01:44 PM	#1 (permalink)
historyteach To Life! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Rhode Island Posts: 9,303	What's this about? Hmmm....this is weird... My old counselor called me yesterday. She called again today. She wants me to come in and see her next week! Now, we stopped seeing each other months ago. She "released" me? I guess you would say. We had nothing left to work on about. Why the hell is she calling me? I did have my physical a few weeks ago. And I had signed a release for my doc and her to speak. They never had that I'm aware of. I even asked once, and they hadn't. So, while it's possible the doc contacted her, I'd be VERY surprised. First, he would have let me know, I'm sure. Second, it's been weeks since my appointment, so, why wait? What the hell is going on? Can anyone figure? I called back and left a message saying I would come. But, I DID ask what's up? I stated that she's never called me for me to come in, before, lol! Am I crazy? Or more crazy than I thought? :andy: Shalom! __________________ IMAGINE

11-07-2006, 02:15 PM	#3 (permalink)
historyteach To Life! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Rhode Island Posts: 9,303	Has it ever happened to anyone whe's been to counseling? Shalom! __________________ IMAGINE

11-07-2006, 06:10 PM	#5 (permalink)
historyteach To Life! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Rhode Island Posts: 9,303	Thank you, Stefanie; That's good to hear. I've seen this woman a few different times, and this has never happened before. Strange... I appreciate your input. Shalom! __________________ IMAGINE

11-08-2006, 04:14 AM	#7 (permalink)
historyteach To Life! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Rhode Island Posts: 9,303	Could be, bozo; could be! Shalom! __________________ IMAGINE

11-12-2006, 05:33 AM	#9 (permalink)
historyteach To Life! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Rhode Island Posts: 9,303	The only thing my gut says is confused. This has never occured with her. I called back, saying I would come, but, specifically asked what was up. She never called back and that was last week. She's had plenty of time to call, so, I can only imagine that she doens't want to talk on the phone. WTF? Shalom! __________________ IMAGINE

11-07-2006, 02:08 PM	#2 (permalink)
wandergrrl777 Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Burlington, VT Posts: 63	Maybe your counselor just wants to check in with you? Just as a follow up?? Maybe they just really like you and miss you...LOL (that's what I would assume if it were me..lol) -moni

11-07-2006, 06:04 PM	#4 (permalink)
stefanie Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Home Posts: 179	Yes Teach, a therapist called me to chat, and see how I was. I think about three months after we had stopped our sessions, all of my issues resolved at that point. I went back to see him for a follow-up. It was very nice.

11-11-2006, 04:53 PM	#8 (permalink)
reikihelps Reikihelps Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: PA Posts: 221	Yes, I got a call once but just she to check in beacause I had a family member who was very ill. She wasn't calling to tell me to come in for an appt. What does your gut say? fishy?? or not??

11-19-2006, 01:10 AM	#10 (permalink)
reikihelps Reikihelps Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: PA Posts: 221	let us know what happens. Hope it's helpful : )

11-19-2006, 05:34 AM	#11 (permalink)
historyteach To Life! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Rhode Island Posts: 9,303	Hi, Reiki; I met with her this past week. She said she thought we had an appointment -- on Yom Kippur day! Not even a chance! I'm in services ALL DAY on Yom Kippur. I would never schedule anything that day! It's the most important Holy Day of the Jewish faith! So, there's somehting, I don't know. But, I'm back there talking to her. Maybe she talked to my career counselor, and decided she wanted me to be able to come and talk things out. But, why not just say that? I don't know... Thanks for asking. Shalom! __________________ IMAGINE

11-20-2006, 02:40 AM	#13 (permalink)
historyteach To Life! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Rhode Island Posts: 9,303	Ten, I DID ask. That's when she said she thought we had an appointment on Yom Kippur. I am not into games. ' Shalom! __________________ IMAGINE

11-25-2006, 05:46 PM	#14 (permalink)
reikihelps Reikihelps Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: PA Posts: 221	Hi Teach, (by the way, I'm a teacher,too. high school English) Feels funny to me. My therapist is so straightforward and clear. I can really let down and relax with her. Sounds odd to me.... -hope your holiday was pleasant Reikihelps

11-25-2006, 06:15 PM	#15 (permalink)
historyteach To Life! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Rhode Island Posts: 9,303	Hi, Reiki; My holiday was very pleasant, thanks. We gathered with the family. My mom was in the hospital, so, she couldn't be with us, unfortunately. I spoke to her on the phone, cuz, I had a cold and didn't want to bring in my germs to her in the hospital. She's got enough going on without added problems! I do hope you had a pleasant day too! Thanks for asking! I teach high school history. Could ya tell? lol! It IS weird, and I'm not sure how I want to handle this. Seems like she's playing a game, and as I said, I'm not into games. :nono: I am CERTAIN she said we didn't need to meet anymore. Then she says we had a non-existent meeting on the most holy day of my faith. It's definately NOT kosher, lol! and I'm disappointed in this behavior. But, not sure what I want to do about it. Sometimes, it's best to pick your battles, ya know what I mean? Shalom! __________________ IMAGINE

11-30-2006, 03:40 PM	#16 (permalink)
reikihelps Reikihelps Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: PA Posts: 221	True we do have to pick our battles; however, therapists sometimes have boundary issues, too. This would bug me too much not to ask. Asking may deepen the honesty level of your sessions, too.

12-01-2006, 06:32 PM	#17 (permalink)
Ten Chips Down Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Virginia, U.S.A. Posts: 847	Ayup. Takes us right back to the communication aspect: You're not into games - so (again) - ask. ??? I don't understand the big mystery over all this. (Obviously.)

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reader Alcohol is a cruel mistress!!! Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: crownpoint newyork Posts: 814	My sons counselor will call me to check on how Tucker is doing!!! No harm in a phone call. __________________ Kerry __________Don't Tread On Me______________________ To Thine Own Self Be True!!!!

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12-07-2006, 07:12 PM	#18 (permalink)
historyteach To Life! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Rhode Island Posts: 9,303	I really don't know how to say this more clearly. I DID ask. Shalom! __________________ IMAGINE

12-07-2006, 10:03 PM	#19 (permalink)
Ten Chips Down Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Virginia, U.S.A. Posts: 847	Yeah but why don't you just ask, for cryng out loud? LOL j/k Ok, Teach. Very sorry to have irritated you, it just seems to us that if you'd asked "why on Yom Kippur?" then you'd have been given an answer and there would be no head-scratching or wondering why.

12-07-2006, 10:15 PM	#20 (permalink)
Ten Chips Down Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Virginia, U.S.A. Posts: 847	o o p s i e :p Looks like the joke is on us for our lapse of attention. Reiki, I give to you... THIS: "I met with her this past week. She said she thought we had an appointment...." Now, I suppose it could be that Teach's counselor simply forgot all about the Jewish faith dealy. Dunno - but I'm sorry for drilling you, HistoryTeach. Shalom indeed, Ten

12-11-2006, 07:00 PM	#21 (permalink)
historyteach To Life! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Rhode Island Posts: 9,303	Well, to be honest, I said to her, "I would NEVER have booked an appt on Yom Kippur." She said nothing afterwards. I'm going to see her tomorrow. I have some other things I want to ask about anyway, so, I'll ask again about this. And I'm not irritated, ten. Shalom! __________________ IMAGINE

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