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pegmeister22 · 02-22-2012, 05:45 AM

First timer -

Wife is continuing to gamble - so...after all is said and done, first time we went through this she had gambled 142,000 american dollars - found out while doing our taxes last year she gambled away her 401k of 63,000, found the hidden credit cards in excess of 46,000 and by the way....she max'd out our line of credit on the house of 43,000 - I can't take it any more - still love her....but can't take it.

I am a strong successful professional - lucky to have been able to cover the losses with the exception of the line of credit - savings are gone and now starting over...I am now weak, and just don't care.....and...believe it's time for a divorce - can't stand the though....yet I do not have any other options before she ruins our / my future for retirement. 300,000 dollars pissed away - I'm thinking (a bit late but had to give the opportunity)...I'm outta this marriage - although I can take a lot.....I can't take this anymore.

Thanks for Listening

WhySoSerious · 02-22-2012, 12:16 PM

i cant blame you there. tough situation. i wish you the best.

Ghostly · 02-22-2012, 09:06 PM

That sucks man. I don't blame you either. You gotta do what is right for you.

**Dee74** · 02-22-2012, 09:12 PM

Welcome pegmeister.
I'm really sorry for your situation too.

I have no experience with gambling either first or second hand myself, but I guess it must be the same as any loved one's addiction - you have to make boundaries for yourself and decided what to do once those boundaries are crossed.

I wish there was an easier way to deal with stuff like this.
D

**Astro** · 02-23-2012, 05:17 AM

I'm glad you're here peg, it sounds like you've reached your bottom and are making some decisions about your future.

Here's an organization you might consider for support Gam-Anon: Help for Family & Friends | Gamblers Anonymous

02-22-2012, 05:45 AM	#1 (permalink)
pegmeister22 Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Seattle, WA Posts: 2	wife's gambling....just too much First timer - Wife is continuing to gamble - so...after all is said and done, first time we went through this she had gambled 142,000 american dollars - found out while doing our taxes last year she gambled away her 401k of 63,000, found the hidden credit cards in excess of 46,000 and by the way....she max'd out our line of credit on the house of 43,000 - I can't take it any more - still love her....but can't take it. I am a strong successful professional - lucky to have been able to cover the losses with the exception of the line of credit - savings are gone and now starting over...I am now weak, and just don't care.....and...believe it's time for a divorce - can't stand the though....yet I do not have any other options before she ruins our / my future for retirement. 300,000 dollars pissed away - I'm thinking (a bit late but had to give the opportunity)...I'm outta this marriage - although I can take a lot.....I can't take this anymore. Thanks for Listening

02-22-2012, 09:06 PM	#3 (permalink)
Ghostly Groovy Dancer Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: The States Posts: 3,895	That sucks man. I don't blame you either. You gotta do what is right for you. __________________ Won't you look down upon me Jesus? You've got to help me make a stand. You've just got to see me through another day. My body's aching and my time is at hand, I won't make it any other way. - James Taylor

02-22-2012, 09:12 PM	#4 (permalink)
Dee74 SR Moderator Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Seas Posts: 65,521	Welcome pegmeister. I'm really sorry for your situation too. I have no experience with gambling either first or second hand myself, but I guess it must be the same as any loved one's addiction - you have to make boundaries for yourself and decided what to do once those boundaries are crossed. I wish there was an easier way to deal with stuff like this. D __________________

02-23-2012, 05:17 AM	#5 (permalink)
Astro Forum Leader Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Scottsdale, AZ, one big happy dysfunctional family! Posts: 12,775	I'm glad you're here peg, it sounds like you've reached your bottom and are making some decisions about your future. Here's an organization you might consider for support Gam-Anon: Help for Family & Friends \| Gamblers Anonymous __________________ "Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty, and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming---WOW-What a ride!"

02-22-2012, 12:16 PM	#2 (permalink)
WhySoSerious Sober is Better X-Training Champion! Astro Cave Champion! 3D Highway Champion! Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: FL Posts: 153	i cant blame you there. tough situation. i wish you the best.

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