GFwasted

[ElegantlyWasted]

GF went out last night for business w room mate. Called me to come over, said she was at home. Was obviously drunk. I was thinking of just staying home and letting her sleep it off. During phone conversation, she cut out. I was a little worried as she has asthma, and periodic attacks that are pretty severe. Went over to her place. Tried calling both her and her room mate. Neither answered. This was at 12. Noticed back door was open and no one seemed to be there and her car was gone. Went inside; GF is passed out in bed upstairs. No trace of room mate. Next, some guy pulls up in a car rings the doorbell and hands me my gf's cell phone (not a cab or towncar driver). GF claims to not remember how she got home. But that whoever took them home was probably a friend of the bar's owner. Roomate texted me back at 2:30 basically saying were home; what's the problem? Don't quite know what to make of it. I don't know if she is snowing me or playing it straight up. Regardless I don't like it. Any similar experiences and how did you deal w it? She drinks to this extent usually once a week, but is otherwise highly
functional.

[Overman]

My gut feeling is that she's covering something up.

I was dating a girl that lied to me about the extent of her drinking, presumably because she was ashamed (knowing that I was an alcoholic).

I always thought she drank socially once or twice a week. Later, I found out she was partying until 3am with her friends several nights per week, and snorting Adderall to keep herself from passing out.

Once I found out (she was passed out in her car one morning), I dumped her like the trash.

I think it's a good rule of thumb to ask ourselves the question "Why am I inviting this person into my life?" anytime we enter into a relationship during recovery.

[sailorjohn]

Originally Posted by ElegantlyWasted

Any similar experiences and how did you deal w it? She drinks to this extent usually once a week, but is otherwise highly
functional.

How I dealt with it was I followed advice and I walked away from it.

And then later, proceeded to ignore the advice I was given, I was different, she was different, my situation was different.

The thing that bothers me still, I also ignored advice I had been given way back during my first trip through AA, when you make this journey, you're going to have to leave some people behind.

You might try to post this up in the F&F section.

Good luck.

[Spawn]

personally I couldn't be with some one that drinks,.....I have a no booze rule in my life,............including the people I allow into my life.

[Spawn]

Originally Posted by ElegantlyWasted

GF went out last night for business w room mate. Called me to come over, said she was at home. Was obviously drunk. I was thinking of just staying home and letting her sleep it off. During phone conversation, she cut out. I was a little worried as she has asthma, and periodic attacks that are pretty severe. Went over to her place. Tried calling both her and her room mate. Neither answered. This was at 12. Noticed back door was open and no one seemed to be there and her car was gone. Went inside; GF is passed out in bed upstairs. No trace of room mate. Next, some guy pulls up in a car rings the doorbell and hands me my gf's cell phone (not a cab or towncar driver). GF claims to not remember how she got home. But that whoever took them home was probably a friend of the bar's owner. Roomate texted me back at 2:30 basically saying were home; what's the problem? Don't quite know what to make of it. I don't know if she is snowing me or playing it straight up. Regardless I don't like it. Any similar experiences and how did you deal w it? She drinks to this extent usually once a week, but is otherwise highly
functional.

The first woman I was involved with in recovery swore to me she didn't drink
Then one visit to her place I found her totally plowed,...I dumped her like a bad habit.
My recovery is number one and I'm not willing to put it in any kind of risk