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Firehazard · 07-29-2009, 05:58 PM

Alright dudes, I turn a year Aug.2nd and have taken the no sex suggestion to heart. However, while doing my fourth step sex inventory I realized that a lack of assertiveness and honesty about my attraction with women was a cause of much frustration and tension. In other words I have been really missing out in my sex life. I am raring to go now that I have a proper sex ideal lined out. This includes that all sex is good and the more the better as long as I am honest about it at the get go. Any suggestions or warnings or blessings?

**Astro** · 07-29-2009, 07:40 PM

Rather than typing it all out again, here's a couple threads you can read....

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ing-rooms.html (Dating in the rooms)

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-recovery.html (Relationship In Early Recovery)

Sure, you have my blessings and I'll be cheering you on. Just don't drink over it if it doesn't work out like you dreamed

**Dee74** · 07-30-2009, 01:56 AM

^

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marty888 · 07-30-2009, 07:28 AM

Good luck mate, go get em

keithj · 07-30-2009, 11:23 AM

"To sum up about sex: We earnestly pray for the right ideal, for guidance in each questionable situation, for sanity, and for the strength to do the right thing." AA BB, Ch5, 1st Ed.

Ask the question, "Is it selfish or not?" before engaging in any relationship.

Oh, and the byline in your avatar takes on a whole new meaning as regards this.

Firehazard · 09-11-2009, 09:59 PM

Think I lost my gun no kills.

marty888 · 09-12-2009, 04:55 AM

Keep plugging away (so to speak)

mate

shaun00 · 09-13-2009, 04:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by keithj

"To sum up about sex: We earnestly pray for the right ideal, for guidance in each questionable situation, for sanity, and for the strength to do the right thing." AA BB, Ch5, 1st Ed.

Ask the question, "Is it selfish or not?" before engaging in any relationship.

Oh, and the byline in your avatar takes on a whole new meaning as regards this.

.....

AlwaysGrowing · 09-20-2009, 08:16 PM

Some women just want a 'buddy', some want to play the field, some want just to date one person.

Just be honest and yourself!

07-29-2009, 05:58 PM	#1 (permalink)
Firehazard SHARING THE LOAD Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Oregon Posts: 440 Blog Entries: 17	on the hunt Alright dudes, I turn a year Aug.2nd and have taken the no sex suggestion to heart. However, while doing my fourth step sex inventory I realized that a lack of assertiveness and honesty about my attraction with women was a cause of much frustration and tension. In other words I have been really missing out in my sex life. I am raring to go now that I have a proper sex ideal lined out. This includes that all sex is good and the more the better as long as I am honest about it at the get go. Any suggestions or warnings or blessings? __________________ "Your sucess and happiness are forgiven you only if you generously consent to share them"--Albert Camus

07-29-2009, 07:40 PM	#2 (permalink)
Astro Forum Leader Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Scottsdale, AZ, one big happy dysfunctional family! Posts: 11,830	Rather than typing it all out again, here's a couple threads you can read.... http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ing-rooms.html (Dating in the rooms) http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-recovery.html (Relationship In Early Recovery) Sure, you have my blessings and I'll be cheering you on. Just don't drink over it if it doesn't work out like you dreamed __________________ "Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty, and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming---WOW-What a ride!"

07-30-2009, 01:56 AM	#3 (permalink)
Dee74 SR Moderator Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Seas Posts: 42,322	^ D __________________ “When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be”Lao Tzu

07-30-2009, 07:28 AM	#4 (permalink)
marty888 Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 580	Good luck mate, go get em __________________ First the man takes a drink; Then the drink takes a drink; Then the drink takes the man.

09-11-2009, 09:59 PM	#6 (permalink)
Firehazard SHARING THE LOAD Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Oregon Posts: 440 Blog Entries: 17	Think I lost my gun no kills. __________________ "Your sucess and happiness are forgiven you only if you generously consent to share them"--Albert Camus

07-30-2009, 11:23 AM	#5 (permalink)
keithj Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 2,658	"To sum up about sex: We earnestly pray for the right ideal, for guidance in each questionable situation, for sanity, and for the strength to do the right thing." AA BB, Ch5, 1st Ed. Ask the question, "Is it selfish or not?" before engaging in any relationship. Oh, and the byline in your avatar takes on a whole new meaning as regards this.

09-12-2009, 04:55 AM	#7 (permalink)
marty888 Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 580	Keep plugging away (so to speak) mate __________________ First the man takes a drink; Then the drink takes a drink; Then the drink takes the man.

09-20-2009, 08:16 PM	#9 (permalink)
AlwaysGrowing Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Alabama Posts: 265	Some women just want a 'buddy', some want to play the field, some want just to date one person. Just be honest and yourself!

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