Dating in the rooms

[Gmoney]

Originally Posted by suki44883

Wouldn't it be more fun to have a date outside the room??

YES! YES!! and YES!!

It would even be more fun to date outside the room with women from outside the room!

An old sponsor asked the question, "Keith, what's the common denominator in all these bad relationships?" When I did a thorough 4th step, I saw the truth.

So maybe it's that the women in the rooms are unworthy of a relationship, or maybe it's something else entirely.

Excellent point, Keith, but IMO, no one is unworthy of a relationship. I believe it has already been mentioned that when we are not healthy we tend to attract those who aren't healthy as well. Most folks believe that once we become healthy, we attract healthy people. So, I totally agree that it is very, very important to look at the part I play in all the harm I receive. Yet, I believe it's also important to note that those of us who have become healthier are still an attraction for those who aren't as healthy. Sometimes you don't know what you don't know, and people can wear a mask pretty well.

[Time2Surrender]

Originally Posted by CAPTAINZING2000

put a title of men only no peeking ladies bet, there would be several women log off to peek at what was written!!

Oh yeah. I'm sure plenty of women have sneaked in here to take a peek at this thread. Maybe we should start a tread with a title the ladies cant resist?

[CAPTAINZING2000]

LOL

Who wants to start the thread?


I even know how to title it too

[Time2Surrender]

I'll start it. Whats the title? "Things we dont tell our women?" "Things women dont know?" We did this a couple years ago and it got carried away. Now I gotta go look for it. _

[CAPTAINZING2000]

(((grin)))

How about, women on S/R you'd like to meet or date???

[Time2Surrender]

Originally Posted by CAPTAINZING2000

(((grin)))

How about, women on S/R you'd like to meet or date???

LMAO I almost choked on my coffee when I read that. Yeah, that one would probably get some attention. LOL Thats funny man.

[Timebuster]

I have to check out this forum more often. Great topic.

A friend at work set me up on a blind date. The first date went just fine. The second date we started talking about life in general. On the third date we went to a red lobster. Out of the blue sky with a serious look on her face, she ask me if I ever drink alcohol. Now here I am with a tall glass of coke in front of me why would she ask me that stupid question like that?

At that moment my recovery antennas went strait up. So joking around my comeback to her was, why, you have a problem with :beerchug: alcohol? As my luck have it, she is a recovering alcoholic in the fellowship of AA. I came clean and told her I was a recovering addict in the fellowship of NA.

There was no forth date, by my choice. End of story.

I seen all the insanity through the years in the rooms and it isn’t pretty. Personally, I stay away from dating others in recovery, just to much drama for me.

Working a 12step recovery, I dont need another person in my life to make me whole. The old me would have been in BIG trouble by now.

Ivan

[marty888]

Captain, if you start a thread with that titled you got bigger balls than me mate !!!! will be hilarious

[Firehazard]

relationships in recovery: the odds are good but the goods are ODD. I know everyones heard that one right.

[rochadad]

The normies have baggage to!

[Firehazard]

I know what I posted before but now it's late summer and I'm not thinking dating but ORGY. The sober women are pheremone machines

I need to get out more

[Gmoney]

Unfortunately I dipped in the well again and got some of the same drama I hoped to avoid. At first she seemed really cool, but as time passed she became overly possessive and controlling. I mean, she even go on Facebook and write crazy stuff directed to female friends of mine that she doesn't even know!! Once the mask came off I had to bail.

[seelivemusic]

This is an interesting topic for me as I am in the first year of my recovery and damn there are some fine looking gals in the meetings I attend. Its a challenge for me not to act on my attraction because I never want to abuse their trust in me and my sobriety is more important than any relationship.

I must tread very carefully because AA is not a dating club, but I have made some very close friendships with females and I enjoy their company.

Plus they smell good.

[tricky164]

one of my sponcees (whos 30 days clean) told me last week that hes met a girl (3 days ago) who hes in love with and wants to marry. and the minute shes out of the rehab there gonna get hitched...............

ha ha ha ha ha ha ha hee hee hee hee hee.

[TheSunAlsoRises]

Thats classic tricky... Yeah forget dating in the meetings. Those woman are freakin' crazy sometimes I have nightmares about what a womens only meeting would be like... I wake up shaking. I have started to avoid certain meetings just because they attract more women. Plenty other fish in da sea...

[yeahgr8]

When i was young i hung around with this bunch of friends who had all been out with each other, and at the very least had brief encounters between themselves...which seemed to be all ok with everyone of them...

Take what you will from that little story;-)

[Overman]

I've NEVER dated a woman from AA or any form of recovery program. That's insanity.

What interests me though is how alcoholics and children of alcoholics are subconsciously attracted to one another. That whole codependency dynamic never ceases to amaze me.

I met a woman last week and after talking to her a couple of times she tells me "I always attract these alcoholic guys, I don't know why". (Mind you, I hadn't yet informed her of my own recovery process!)

I then proceeded to ask her why she thought that was the case. She told me that her father was an alcoholic and has been sober for 20+ years. I then informed her that I was in recovery and she was in shock ("OMFG!"). lol

Addicts and the adult children of addicts just seem to attract each other like magnets.