sober and i could do better

[yeahgr8]

My exgf and I were still friends after we broke up, i continued drinking for a few years more. Anyway she has always been around for phone calls, and to meet up when i went to the country i was drinking in. I always thought that a guy and a girl could not just be friends and whether it was unspoken or not one or the other would have at least some feelings for the other, more than friendship and i was right...again!

Anyways turns out she is still carrying the torch. Ok so now i am sober for just under 5 months, and as you know things change and I have changed in that short period. My exgf is great and is a lovely person but i met her whilst i was drinking and then i felt like no-one would want me and i felt like crap all the time, thought i would be alone forever etc. Now i don't not feel that way and can tell that i have only come a fraction of the way to be the person i am.

She is coming up tomorrow for 4 days, and because i have been leaning on her and spending time with her when i go down to see her she is really getting the impression that we will be getting back together and i have to say i have probably not helped disuade this illusion.

I stopped socialising with normal people when i was drinking, what's the point? But this last week or so i have been out several times with work colleagues and there is this one girl who is so cute it is amazing and has a decent job etc. She is married so im not going to do anything but she has kind of inspired me to want to take an interest in decent women again. She is 32 and I am 37. As i said im not going there just am being friendly no more.

So this brings me back to my exgf who has 2 kids grown up and is 5 years older than me, has anyone else felt like they not could do better but would rather go out in the future and find their soul mate rather than settle for what could be ok but not soul mate material anymore?

It would be so easier after this year, i want to stay single for that long anyway, to be with someone on a fresh start. I am so glad i am not married with kids and in this situation though, i can totally see how guys sober up and **** off out of the marriage...

Any experiences, thoughts?

[sailorjohn]

Originally Posted by yeahgr8

My exgf and I were still friends after we broke up, i continued drinking for a few years more. Anyway she has always been around for phone calls, and to meet up when i went to the country i was drinking in. I always thought that a guy and a girl could not just be friends and whether it was unspoken or not one or the other would have at least some feelings for the other, more than friendship and i was right...again!

Anyways turns out she is still carrying the torch. Ok so now i am sober for just under 5 months, and as you know things change and I have changed in that short period. My exgf is great and is a lovely person but i met her whilst i was drinking and then i felt like no-one would want me and i felt like crap all the time, thought i would be alone forever etc. Now i don't not feel that way and can tell that i have only come a fraction of the way to be the person i am.

She is coming up tomorrow for 4 days, and because i have been leaning on her and spending time with her when i go down to see her she is really getting the impression that we will be getting back together and i have to say i have probably not helped disuade this illusion.

I stopped socialising with normal people when i was drinking, what's the point? But this last week or so i have been out several times with work colleagues and there is this one girl who is so cute it is amazing and has a decent job etc. She is married so im not going to do anything but she has kind of inspired me to want to take an interest in decent women again. She is 32 and I am 37. As i said im not going there just am being friendly no more.

So this brings me back to my exgf who has 2 kids grown up and is 5 years older than me, has anyone else felt like they not could do better but would rather go out in the future and find their soul mate rather than settle for what could be ok but not soul mate material anymore?

It would be so easier after this year, i want to stay single for that long anyway, to be with someone on a fresh start. I am so glad i am not married with kids and in this situation though, i can totally see how guys sober up and **** off out of the marriage...

Any experiences, thoughts?

Uh, let me get this right. You wanna get laid, and you want us to validate you?

[yeahgr8]

Lol

Made my day, thanks!