emotions

[edrake]

Hello all, I'm new here. I like what I see so far. I've been sober for a good amount of time, at least in my book. I'm having some issues with some emotions and was looking for fellow drunks to lend some advice.

A little background first: I got sober two years ago the 24th of January. I was working a court ordered program and had a lot of help from a personal therapist at the time. I lived alone at the time and was single. About nine months ago I got into my first "sober relationship."

More recently, we're broken up and I found through the time of the relationship that I was the same drunk acting person I was. Trying to control, not physically or anything, but if she didn't do things that I found just right, I would let her know instead of blowing it off. My emotions were getting the better of me, my inability to let things just go was mind boggling. The relationship ended about two weeks ago officially, but it was really over some time ago. I kept pushing her away one week and crying out for her the next. She ended up, thank goodness, finding someone else and is trying to move on. Even though the new guy is/was someone I used to hang out with (in the drinkin days) and uses drugs and alcohol heavily.

The question: Does anyone have advice for keeping emotions in check? Is there a trick to all of this? I'm meeting with my treatment educated therapist next week, but I thought I would throw the question out there.

Great forum!

[sticker]

for me trying to keep emotions in check doesnt work because that entails not facing them. I have learned to deal with them as they are. Its part of life, Ive dealt with lose, death, pain, sorrow in my recovery and with the help of god and my recovery family have come out the other side stronger with a better understanding of who I am. I dont know if you do mtgs but that is where I met the ppl that have helped me thru all these things. I know today that I dont have to face things alone anymore. THANK GOD AND THE N.A. FELLOWSHP. good luck man

[mikel60]

Emotions ae tough. The most difficult things I've ever had to face have been sober - but I got through. The steps help you cope somewhat, but things still hurt. I think I've come through stronger. I got dumped in sobriety and I was stunned. We actually got back together and are married, but when it happened I could not believe it. Surprisingly, I didn't do what I would have done before but I went to work on myself. She noticed and came back. Now we have two kids!
Before the kids came though, we had a little girl who was stillborn at 6 months. We then went through 4 more losses before our first. That was tough, but things we had learned through recovery got us through.
Just the fact that you're posting about this shows that you're coping. You know that its good to talk. A lot of guys won't do that. I had to talk. The mens groups here in Boston carried me through a long and difficult time. Keep talking and keep coming. Time will heal things and friends will help.
Mike