Psycho Chick

[frstnm]

Hello All
Im not king of the dating crowd or anything so I could use a little advise, feedback and or input.....

Has anyone out there ever dated someone no matter what the length is and they turned psycho at the end or during and made everyone's life miserable ? More miserable than it already may have been.....
Examples are:
Leaving thousands of dollars in property stating they dont want to deal w it ?
Is this punishment making the left person to sit and look at it, or they cant stand to look at the stuff or is it just as they say and they just dont want to deal w it ?

Giving / leaving behind away a loved pet (or something else) that was a gift given to them out of love, stating they dont have a place for it and dont know what is happening in their future.
Again Punishment ? Dont have a pllace for it ? Are they really being transferred or moving out west ?

Dragging their feet on getting everything switched over to one person as (in my opinion) it signifies the last step ?
Promising to pay rent even though they are not there.....even if they are able to break the lease w/o getting a substantial fee ?

How have you handled it ? Am I going crazy ?

Do I just miss that person ?
Im starting to not miss her as she has dragged her feet and refuses to communicate. Not a call or a card for the holidays. Work number changed / getting blocked / or just simply not working ?

I know I made alot of bad decisions and have a major role.....
But is she doing this conciously ? Intentionally to be mean and make me suffer ? Is she doubting her decision to walk out of my life after 8 years on the sunday before Thanksgiving ? And hasnt been by for more than one visit for about 5 minutes. Just busy ? Doesnt realize it ?
Says there is nothing else going on.......I some how dont believe that and have told her I just dont want to know. After detox and becoming sober (and all the fun that this holds) that would simply be the straw that broke the alcoholic's will to abstain from the drink !
Looking forward to your replies !

[hotwingeatter]

Take it upon yourself to get her out of your life if you want her out. If she is dragging her feet you do it and get it out of the way. If she is promising to pay rent or any bills don't rely on it be self sufficient and show that you don't need her. If you are mopping around you are showing she is the prize and she will move on and dangle herself every step of the way.Get her out transfer the bills pay them and get to finding your new life. Show her you're strong and that you are the man. You don't need her, you won't mention this but you will show it to her in every aspect of life. Right now it doesn't look to me she is psycho it appears to me you are to needy and she just don't care that much. like the deodorant people say never let em see ya sweat.

[frstnm]

well paying all of the rent is out of the question but you do have a point about never let em see ya sweat
thanks

[Time2Surrender]

Time to move on dude. Wish her the best. And mean it. Most important above all, its not worth drinking over. Nothing is.

[Signal30]

The first and most important thing out of all of this is that you don't let her or the situation effect your sobreity. This is where the practice of acceptance needs to be used, as well as prayer.

And second...


I don't want any women to take offense to this because this is not an insult to women but, but all women are crazy.
Have you ever heard the motto, women are crazy and men are stupid? There's some truth to that. The best thing to do when dating is pick the least craziest one of the bunch. Women do the same thing with us.

[t-bear]

I have yet to hear of any man who has figured out a woman. I have been happily married for 18 years, but that does not mean I understand my wife. It does mean that I accept her as she is.
God Grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
Each situation is different, all you can do is the next right thing.