Oh Bolloc*s! Overconfidence.

[JigOvLife]

Hey gents.
Thought it best to post in here though things are moving quickly and I could use some advice pretty sharpish. We tend to be a bit leisurely in our posting in the Men's Room.
I'm 58 days sober, have only toked on a passing spliff twice (which does NOT affect my recovery) and though it's been a rollercoaster, as it is for everyone, the trend has been definitely upwards. Perhaps too much recently.
I promised myself I'd not date for a year, knowing from experience, that my head's gonna be puggled for that long.
A couple of days ago I found myself checking out a dating site and before I'd paused for thought I'd created a profile, thinking, quite rightly, that a little, sober, flirting practice would be a grand idea for when I'm ready to venture back out.
Well as with much in my life so far, I've found the whole thing addictive, especially now the ladies are so forthcoming with their positive reactions, which I wasn't expecting at all, not realising the numbers game that is at work on these sites.
The only boundaries I've set publically are, no casual sex and that I'm a non drinker. That's not stopped the flirting though, I always used drugs and alcohol to overcome my built in shyness, the net gives me time to compose myself and unleash the charm, I've found that, to my surprise and to the great benefit of my self esteem and I'm not boasting, I'm one charming ******* behind a 'puter screen.
So I've just spent most of the night, in a mutual apprieciation society typing away to a delightful, pill popping, party girl,on this site.
We're swapping numbers tomorrow, this is gonna go somewhere (she only lives 10 mile away).

She's just the kind of bad girl that has always floated my boat. I've told her I don't drink and why. (not all the gory details of course). We've swapped drug stories and 'tipped winks' about them. I'm an alcohol addict, no other substance has been compulsive for me and I've taken a very large, varied amount.

Oh and now I'm getting interest from other girls I'd honestly consider outta my league. My ethics in this area are untried. I've never been a cheater by nature, I grew out of it after my teens.

WTF, I'm awash with testosterone. I know myself and I'm not gonna get talked out of this new exciting land of opportunity but has anyone been in a similar situation?. Any tips? Cautions? If I start believing I'm outta my depth I'll jinx myself

Cheers, Jig

[dgillz]

No advice but lotsa questions. What does Bollocks mean? (I am assuming that was the word you meant) Why did you asterisk one letter out? Is it a curse word?

[doorknob]

Hey Jig, have you listened to the song "Online," by Brad Paisley? If not, you should give it a listen. You'll get a good laugh. But on a serious note.. you lucky SOB!!

[sct]

Be careful. Complacency can be a b*tch, and it usually comes right on the heels of overconfidence.

That's all I got.

[JigOvLife]

Dgillz my good man, I'm still baffled that bollocks hasn't popped up on the radar of most Americans. Colloquial term for balls over here.
Though confusingly if you hear someone refer to something as 'The Dog's Bollocks' this means that the something in question is the best.

Well I'd better go and check my mailbox over there.

Great song, Doorknob LMAO.
William Shatner pops up in the weirdest places. He stars in an All Bran commercial on this side of the pond.

[stone]

not realising the numbers game that is at work on these sites.

Are those numbers in inches?

[dgillz]

Jig,

Sorry, I've never heard the word in my life. There are a lot of words that they use over there that are never to rarely used over here. "Rubbish" is one of my favorites. I have heard the term but I have never used it. The only time I ever hear it is when a Brit refers to what I would call "trash".

You could start a thread on words like this,it would be darn funny.

[JigOvLife]

Just had my first phone call with said girl.
It's bloody awkward talking to someone for 40 mins for the first time when you've never met and only fancy each other from blurry, pixelated photos and internet jabber.
We're meeting early next week for an evening drink. Which is gonna be f*cking challenging, my first ever sober date and I'm 35. Already said I don't drink so at least I know I'll look a right dick if I suddenly plonked myself down on a bar stool with a pint.

Well it might as well be now. I'm starting to rationalise the 1 year dating ban as a bad idea, 'cos I'd just hype it up so much by then that that analysis paralysis would've turned me into a social recluse. But really if I'm honest, It's because I'm feeling frisky and am already denying myself enough instant gratification, thank you.

Hmmph!

[wibble]

big question is... how did the date go?

[windysan]

Photos please.

thank you