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12-28-2008, 03:15 PM
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| Leap of Faith Survivor  Join Date: Dec 2007
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| Why don't we have a codependent forum?
I usually post on Friends and Family and there we share with one another our codie stuff as it relates to our addict, generally speaking  ....I had a codie relapse recently and found myself wanting....wanting and wishing there was a codie forum where I could just share about my codieness as it relates to me and not my addict, you know in a really in depth way...no reflection on F&F peeps, love you all... I would *love* to see a codie forum on this board and I am kinda curious as to why there isn't one... thoughts anyone?...some feedback on the desire to have a codependent forum here? oh , and Happy New year everyone 
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12-28-2008, 05:52 PM
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((Grateful)) I totally understand what you're saying. I've just posted stuff about my codie issues on F&F anyway, even when they don't pertain to an addict. I still get lots of ES&H, but you've got a good idea. Hugs and prayers! Amy
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12-28-2008, 05:55 PM
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12-28-2008, 06:20 PM
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Sorry if I am misunderstanding you, but there is really no reason why anyone cannot share about their codependency issues on these forums.
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12-28-2008, 06:31 PM
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CMC...I have been a codie for most of my life .... I do not consider adult children a codependent forum..and my understanding is the focus of F&F is around the families of A's my point is that I am a codie , THAT is my addiction...it dosen't have anything to do with an A in my life....and I would like to see a forum for codies who can support one another in that.... this is a board about recovery ...
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12-28-2008, 06:49 PM
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I think I understand what you are saying. My home fellowship is CoDA (Codependents Anonymous) and many members have issues of codependency that don't involve any substance at all. For me, I found that it didn't matter whether there was substance or not. My son is an addict but my codependency goes back way before he was ever in the picture. His addiction just triggered the worst in me and my codependency became raging and out of control. I have also attended Alanon meetings and really didn't find any difference in how the meetings were handled nor the codependency issues of the members. My point is that sharing on any of the F & F forums here is perfectly fine, regardless if you have a relationship with anyone with a substance problem. It hasn't been necessary to have a CoDA forum here, there are already so many forums dealing with issues of codependency and my thoughts are that you are welcome to post whatever you want on whatever forum you feel most comfortable on. Hugs
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12-28-2008, 06:52 PM
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oh Ann, thank you ..as you know , I usually do post with my friends on F&F...I would just like to be able to post in a space that is just about and for codies and not in relationship to the a's in their lives...
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12-28-2008, 07:32 PM
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When I first found SR, I was looking for a Codependency forum...I have been to AA and Alanon, but never to a Coda meeting. Codependency is my main issue right now. But I have found all the forums very helpful..I am an recovering alcoholic, I am married to a recovering alcoholic, both my parents were alcoholic and my son is an alcoholic and my daughter has emotional problems. So I can belong to most all the forums...I was planning on checking out an online coda meeting, but so far the SR has helped alot. But I wouldn't mind a codie forum either grateful....I have been a codie all my life too!!!
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12-29-2008, 12:51 PM
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| Just a suggestion, grateful...couldn't you start a Co-Dependency Anonymous thread within the F&F forum? We're on Part 17 of Whiners Anonymous in Newcomers Daily Support Threads since Rusty Zipper started it June 28, 2006...and, still going strong. As I said, just a suggestion...but, it could work.
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12-29-2008, 12:54 PM
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actually, Jerz, I was thinking about that but if I did I would put it in 'newcomers to recovery', 'daily support' or 'all about recovery', I think....
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12-29-2008, 01:16 PM
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Good Luck, whatever you decide.
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12-29-2008, 03:37 PM
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ok, its done .....thanks, Jerz I've started a Co-dependents Anonymous thread in Newcomers to Recovery Forum... See you there!
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12-29-2008, 04:44 PM
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| I think my co-dependency issues are a thing of the past.  But, thanks for the invitation.
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12-29-2008, 04:47 PM
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no worries , Jerz..lol that was an invitation to everyone reading the post and interested in coming on over! but you know...I put the thread in newcomers to Recovery, but I meant to put it in Newcomers daily support threads...could you move it over for me?
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