The Awakening

[Debbie]

I found this to be very powerful.

The Awakening

Author: Sonny Carroll

A time comes in your life when you finally get it ... when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out ENOUGH!!!

Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes.

This is your awakening.

You realize it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change...or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon.

You come to terms with the fact that you are neither Prince Charming or Cinderella and that in the real world there aren't always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you...and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are...and that's OK. They are entitled to their own views and opinions.

And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself...and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval. You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn't do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.

You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that it's not always about you.

So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself...and in the process a sense of safety and security
is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties...and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.

You realize that much of the way you view yourself, and the world around you, is as a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche.

And you begin to sift through all the junk you've been fed about how you should behave, how you should look, how much you should weigh, what you should wear, what you should do for a living, how much money you should make, what you should drive, how and where you should live, who you should marry, the importance of having and raising children, and what you owe your parents, family, and friends.

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. And you begin reassessing and redefining who you
are and what you really stand for.

You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with...and in the process you learn to go with your instincts.

You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive. And that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a "consumer" looking for your next fix.

You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.

You learn that you don't know everything, it's not your job to save the world and that you can't teach a pig to sing.

You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.

You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.

Then you learn about love. How to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away.

You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be.

You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes.

And you learn that alone does not mean lonely.

You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.

You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK...and that it is your right to want things and to ask for the things you want...and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands.

You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity and respect and you won't settle for less.

And you learn that your body really is your temple. And you begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin to eat a balanced diet, drink more water, and take more time to exercise.

You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty and so you take more time to rest.

And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So you take more time to laugh and to play.

You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you believe you deserve...and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different from working toward making it happen.

More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance.

You also learn that no one can do it all alone...and that it's OK to risk asking for help.

You learn the only thing you must truly fear is the greatest robber baron of all: FEAR itself.

You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms. And you learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.

You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people. On these occasions you learn not to personalize things.

You learn that God isn't punishing you or failing to answer your prayers. It's just life happening.

And you learn to deal with evil in its most primal state - the ego.

You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.

You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.

You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.

Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than your heart's desire.

And you hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind. And you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.

Finally, with courage in your heart and God by your side you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best you can.


I just found out this was actually written by some one else so I have changed the author.....I can't believe some one was trying to take credit for this that didn't write it. Well, perhaps I can.....it is truly inspiring....

[Ann]

Barbiedeb

This is beautiful - Thank you.

Wow Debbie,

That just about says it all. I'm printing this one and giving it away. And yes, I'll keep a copy for myself. And hang one in my office and hang one on my refrigerator and on everyone elses refrigerator. I really like this.

THANK YOU,

Hugs,

MG

[Josie]

Wow, Did I ever need this today, and
yesterday, and tomorrow, these are
just beautiful. Now, it is time for
me to break down, and go get that printer!
Thanks, BarbieDeb <img border="0" alt="[angel]" title="" src="graemlins/../graemlins/angel2.gif" />

[Rose56]

Thank you so much for giving us this. It is so right-on. I am printing it and making many copies. thanks

[JT]

Thank you so much for that...so very true!

AS a newcomer, I have a long road ahead. This will be something that I will read everyday to keep me focused. Thank you for sharing.

Just for Today...Kristen

[justabouttolooseit]

Wow.....now that really hit home!

Thanks for sharing!

[Paulie]

WOW - I hate to just repeat everyone - but Ditto!!!
That is wonderful and I to will share it with everyone I love.
Thank you.

[lolly112166]

Barbiedeb,

{{{{{{{{{{barbiedeb}}}}}}}}}}}

God bless you
Lolly <img border="0" alt="[Kissy]" title="" src="graemlins/../graemlins/Kissy.gif" />

[Kitty]

That was wonderful!!!! I needed that today!
Much Love, <img border="0" alt="[Hey Kitty]" title="" src="graemlins/../graemlins/heykitty.gif" /> Kitty

[Debbie]

Hey Everyone,

I am so glad you liked this. When I read it I knew I had to share it with everyone. It was just so powerful.

Many hugs to everyone.
Love,
Debbie

[Debbie]

I think deserves to be at the top for a while

Oh, I'm so glad you made this a sticky post. Please leave it here.


Thanks Debbie,


Hugs,


MG

[Debbie]

Hey MG

Not a problem, I asked Smoke to send it down from the al-anon board because I thought it was so special and didn't want to see it get "buried". I read it every day.

Many hugs.
Love,
Debbie

[sandi]

Awesome

[SkyIsFalling42]

Barbiedeb

Thank you for being here for us and for this "knock my socks off" post. These insightful posts are such wonderful gifts to us women in recovery!!

I just bought a new ink cartridge yesterday..ran home and printed this post first!!! I have a folder of printed posts from these boards..it is now almost an inch think..will keep me busy for a long time!!


Love in spirit

Sky

[Debbie]

{{{{{{Sky}}}}}}

Thanks for your kind words. It is great to come here and read such inspiring things

Take care.
Many hugs,
Debbie

[trappedinside]

Wow... like it sais above, that really hit home :cube:

[ladyofdreams]

How beautiful and this one made my morning

Thank you so much!
Nice to meet you and read you

Blessed Be,

{Lady}

[Debbie]

{{{{Lady}}}}}

Welcome!! I am glad you found us!!

Many hugs,
Debbie

[ladyofdreams]

{{{{{{{Debby}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Thank you ..................What beautiful talent you have

Thanks for the welcome
Ellen
{{{{{{{{{{{Lady}}}}}}}}}}}}}

[Debbie]

Your welcome!! Although I didn't write it, I do find it quite powerful!!

[journeygal]

I had my awakening this past weekend.

I've read this post many many times, and while I thought it was a very nice and powerful read, it just didn't apply to me.

Well, something happened this weekend that opened my eyes. I won't go into the gory details, but that voice finally cried enough. And I can't tell you what a powerful feeling it was and how my thinking and feelings have changed since.

I'm done seeking approval from my family and friends. I'm no longer interested in putting other people's needs before my own. I'm ready to start loving and accepting ME. And I'm going to stop letting fear rule me.

I can't even describe the feeling. It's similar to the way I felt when I hit my codie bottom. For me, things are always like that. Nothing ever happens gradually. I tend to go along in life, doing things one way, constantly banging my head against a wall, until one day I finally get it. Enough.

BD, thanks for making this a sticky post. It's taken me a long, long time, but the light bulb finally went on.

Thanks for listening.

[Debbie]

{{{{{{{JG}}}}}}}}