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HarryH · 08-18-2003, 01:55 PM

FROM THE HEART

Columnist Erma Bombeck once said, "It seems rather incongruous that in
a society of super sophisticated communication, we often suffer from a
shortage of listeners." Perhaps that is because many of us suffer from
what communicator Nido Qubein terms "agenda anxiety" -- the feeling
that what we want to say to others is more important than what they
might want to say to us. Sometimes we try to impress rather than
express, not realizing that two monologues do not make a dialogue.

Relationships work when communication works. And communication works
when we listen as well as speak; when we relate from the heart as well
as the head.

In their book Managing From The Heart (Delacorte Press, 1990), the
authors discuss what it means to communicate from the heart. Here are
five principles of "H-E-A-R-T" communication:

H - Hear and understand me.

E - Even if you disagree, please don't make me wrong.

A - Acknowledge the greatness within me.

R - Remember to look for my loving intentions.

T - Tell me the truth with compassion.

The quality of your life will be largely determined by the quality of
your relationships. And it is only with your heart that you will
communicate in ways that matter.

2stop · 08-18-2003, 02:13 PM

What a beautiful post Harry, it hit the nail on the head!!~

ladyofdreams · 08-20-2003, 08:52 AM

Wow Harry
That is truly beautiful
Thank you so much!

Hugs to you on that one,
~Lady~

08-18-2003, 01:55 PM	#1 (permalink)
HarryH JUST FOR TODAY Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Lowell, MA Posts: 104	From the Heart FROM THE HEART Columnist Erma Bombeck once said, "It seems rather incongruous that in a society of super sophisticated communication, we often suffer from a shortage of listeners." Perhaps that is because many of us suffer from what communicator Nido Qubein terms "agenda anxiety" -- the feeling that what we want to say to others is more important than what they might want to say to us. Sometimes we try to impress rather than express, not realizing that two monologues do not make a dialogue. Relationships work when communication works. And communication works when we listen as well as speak; when we relate from the heart as well as the head. In their book Managing From The Heart (Delacorte Press, 1990), the authors discuss what it means to communicate from the heart. Here are five principles of "H-E-A-R-T" communication: H - Hear and understand me. E - Even if you disagree, please don't make me wrong. A - Acknowledge the greatness within me. R - Remember to look for my loving intentions. T - Tell me the truth with compassion. The quality of your life will be largely determined by the quality of your relationships. And it is only with your heart that you will communicate in ways that matter. __________________ What I am is God's gift to me, What I make of myself, is my gift to Him.

08-18-2003, 02:13 PM	#2 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,794	What a beautiful post Harry, it hit the nail on the head!!~ __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

08-20-2003, 08:52 AM	#3 (permalink)
ladyofdreams Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Casting Circles to the Wind Posts: 174	Wow Harry That is truly beautiful Thank you so much! Hugs to you on that one, ~Lady~ __________________ Approach without Fear, You who know me in your Heart ____________________________ Blessed Be and {{Many Hugs}} ~Lady~

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