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Fishy226 · 10-25-2007, 01:43 AM

I haven't posted 5 postings yet so I cannot send a private message to either of you.

PaulMH - thank you for writing what you wrote below back in December. It's amazing how that one sentence (the second part) just calms me. One would think I am smart enough to figure it out on my own....but after I read that sentence I felt like I had something to hold onto...it literally puts my mind at ease.

You wrote this to GettinSober back in December:
So - my response to your question is two-fold. I "overcame" the problem of boredom firstly by learning to do lots of things I couldn't previously do. And secondly, I learned (or am learning) how to just be in a moment and enjoy it for what it is - whatever it presents as. So now, I'm less likely to get bored, and when I do, I just accept that that's my state. And it's not a good reason to drink.

GettinSober - My story reads almost exactly as yours and we're also the same age...2 to 3 bottles of wine every night for the past 5 years. I also read another post in response to yours that hit me as I was driving home tonight...the cost of the wine! I don't drink Two Buck Chuck..wish I could have now that the numbers have been crunched. If it really is 10k per year on wine then between the two of us we've spent over 100k in the past 6 years...wow...eye opener. I could have 50k more in my bank acct. But what I have is a fatty liver and 5 years of wasted time.

I'm on day 5...again...

Blessings...
Fishy226

stone · 10-25-2007, 01:52 AM

Hi and welcome Fishy! :ghug Wise words indeed from Paul there.

Fishy226 · 10-25-2007, 02:39 AM

Thank you, Stone.

2-3 bottles of wine a night is a lot of just sitting and drinking and making the time pass...I think I did it mostly because of boredome, anxiety and then out of habit. It's hard to think about coming home and just being and accepting it for what it is. It's a nice thought though to let go and do that. It all started when I moved from another state by myself....stressful job, knew nobody, etc....

So I really have no choice now but to take this seriously...I have a fatty liver and I absolutely cannot handle the hangovers anyore. How I've done it and kept at the top of my game for 5 years is beyond me...I really dislike it and I get no satisfaction from drinking the wine - I have to force myself sometimes. I would rather be spending time with my dogs, reading, learning, exercising and doing things that feed my soul. If I think about every night that I've passed out and the hangovers everday...gosh it is just awful. I feel like I've robbed myself of 5 years. What do you do with that? I guess you just live in the moment and accept it for what it is and don't lose anymore time...

Anyway...so day 5

fishy

10-25-2007, 01:43 AM	#1 (permalink)
Fishy226 Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Chicago, Illinois Posts: 22	paulmh and gettinsober I haven't posted 5 postings yet so I cannot send a private message to either of you. PaulMH - thank you for writing what you wrote below back in December. It's amazing how that one sentence (the second part) just calms me. One would think I am smart enough to figure it out on my own....but after I read that sentence I felt like I had something to hold onto...it literally puts my mind at ease. You wrote this to GettinSober back in December: So - my response to your question is two-fold. I "overcame" the problem of boredom firstly by learning to do lots of things I couldn't previously do. And secondly, I learned (or am learning) how to just be in a moment and enjoy it for what it is - whatever it presents as. So now, I'm less likely to get bored, and when I do, I just accept that that's my state. And it's not a good reason to drink. GettinSober - My story reads almost exactly as yours and we're also the same age...2 to 3 bottles of wine every night for the past 5 years. I also read another post in response to yours that hit me as I was driving home tonight...the cost of the wine! I don't drink Two Buck Chuck..wish I could have now that the numbers have been crunched. If it really is 10k per year on wine then between the two of us we've spent over 100k in the past 6 years...wow...eye opener. I could have 50k more in my bank acct. But what I have is a fatty liver and 5 years of wasted time. I'm on day 5...again... Blessings... Fishy226

10-25-2007, 01:52 AM	#2 (permalink)
stone Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: UK Posts: 18,303	Hi and welcome Fishy! :ghug Wise words indeed from Paul there. __________________ . As from a fire aflame thousands of sparks come forth, even so from the Creator an infinity of beings have life and to him return again. -- Maitri Upanishads

10-25-2007, 02:39 AM	#3 (permalink)
Fishy226 Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Chicago, Illinois Posts: 22	Thank you, Stone. 2-3 bottles of wine a night is a lot of just sitting and drinking and making the time pass...I think I did it mostly because of boredome, anxiety and then out of habit. It's hard to think about coming home and just being and accepting it for what it is. It's a nice thought though to let go and do that. It all started when I moved from another state by myself....stressful job, knew nobody, etc.... So I really have no choice now but to take this seriously...I have a fatty liver and I absolutely cannot handle the hangovers anyore. How I've done it and kept at the top of my game for 5 years is beyond me...I really dislike it and I get no satisfaction from drinking the wine - I have to force myself sometimes. I would rather be spending time with my dogs, reading, learning, exercising and doing things that feed my soul. If I think about every night that I've passed out and the hangovers everday...gosh it is just awful. I feel like I've robbed myself of 5 years. What do you do with that? I guess you just live in the moment and accept it for what it is and don't lose anymore time... Anyway...so day 5 fishy __________________ If I advance, follow me. If I stop, push me. If I fall, inspire me.

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