Sometimes We Need to Fall Apart - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

Debbie · 03-04-2003, 04:40 AM

We don't always have to be strong. Sometimes our strength is expressed in being vulnerable. Sometimes we need to fall apart to regroup and stay on track. We all have days when we cannot push any harder, cannot hold back self-doubt, cannot stop focusing on fear, cannot be strong.

There are days when we cannot focus on being responsible. Sometimes we cry in front of people. We expose our tiredness, irritability, or anger. Those days are okay.

Part of taking care of ourselves means we give ourselves permission to "fall apart" when we need to. We do not need to be perpetual towers of strength. We ARE strong. We have proven that our strength will continue if we allow ourselves the courage to feel scared, weak, and vulnerable when we need to experience those feelings.

Today, help me to know that it is okay to allow myself to be human. Help me not to feel guilty or punish myself when I need to "fall apart."

--- Author Unknown

jmcuster2002 · 03-08-2003, 03:01 AM

thanks for the words of inspiration sometimes I forget that it's ok to feel today, it's okay to hurt, to cry, to be angry, and to be loved. The one thing I know is no matter what I'm feeling with my feet on the steps I'll get up there.

Faithful · 03-10-2003, 02:10 PM

Thanks Barbiedeb, It's very comforting to know that sometimes we can just let our emotions take over. Since living with my husband's drug addiction, I seem to cry less and less on the outside, but am often sobbing on the inside. I don't think this means I am any stronger, but maybe in a way afraid to lose control. The other day I was really upset, and I couldn't hold in the tears. I started crying in front of my husband and seven year old daughter. I know it can be very cathartic to cry, and remember the days when the tears seemed to flow much more easily. Thanks for the inspiration and encouragement. God Bless.

CAPTAINZING2000 · 02-13-2008, 04:48 PM

Hate to be so hard hearted as to not have emotions to suffering around me

03-04-2003, 04:40 AM	#1 (permalink)
Debbie I used to work here ;) Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: I live in Trevose, PA & collect Barbies :) Posts: 2,016	Sometimes We Need to Fall Apart We don't always have to be strong. Sometimes our strength is expressed in being vulnerable. Sometimes we need to fall apart to regroup and stay on track. We all have days when we cannot push any harder, cannot hold back self-doubt, cannot stop focusing on fear, cannot be strong. There are days when we cannot focus on being responsible. Sometimes we cry in front of people. We expose our tiredness, irritability, or anger. Those days are okay. Part of taking care of ourselves means we give ourselves permission to "fall apart" when we need to. We do not need to be perpetual towers of strength. We ARE strong. We have proven that our strength will continue if we allow ourselves the courage to feel scared, weak, and vulnerable when we need to experience those feelings. Today, help me to know that it is okay to allow myself to be human. Help me not to feel guilty or punish myself when I need to "fall apart." --- Author Unknown

02-13-2008, 04:48 PM	#4 (permalink)
CAPTAINZING2000 Psalm 118:24 Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: ILLINOIS Posts: 9,445 Blog Entries: 1	Hate to be so hard hearted as to not have emotions to suffering around me __________________ LIFE IS GOD'S GIFT TO YOU WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE IS YOUR GIFT TO GOD J - Jesus first O - Others next Y - Yourself last John 14:6

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03-08-2003, 03:01 AM	#2 (permalink)
jmcuster2002 Paused Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Portland, OR Posts: 7	thanks for the words of inspiration sometimes I forget that it's ok to feel today, it's okay to hurt, to cry, to be angry, and to be loved. The one thing I know is no matter what I'm feeling with my feet on the steps I'll get up there.

03-10-2003, 02:10 PM	#3 (permalink)
Faithful Paused Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Queens, NY Posts: 6	Thanks Barbiedeb, It's very comforting to know that sometimes we can just let our emotions take over. Since living with my husband's drug addiction, I seem to cry less and less on the outside, but am often sobbing on the inside. I don't think this means I am any stronger, but maybe in a way afraid to lose control. The other day I was really upset, and I couldn't hold in the tears. I started crying in front of my husband and seven year old daughter. I know it can be very cathartic to cry, and remember the days when the tears seemed to flow much more easily. Thanks for the inspiration and encouragement. God Bless.

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