Dreams ... nightmares... makes me think...

[Paulos]

Dreams too vivid... I sometimes think things that happened in dreams happened in real life... it's such garbage,I can't afford to have those foolish ideas in my life... gotta always be on guard.

[mike13]

me too. especially lately, i've been waking up thinking what just happened in my dreams was real. scares the sh*t outta me. usually dreams about relapsing or being around people who i used with. i've had quite a few mornings where all i could do was smoke a cigarette and think about what the hell just happened.

[JPat]

I'm on day 5 and for the past few days my dreams have been very vivid and WEIRD - not really nightmares...just disturbing.
This always happens when I stop though, and pretty soon the dreams will be about drinking again and I'll wake up feeling guilty and horrible until I realize it was a dream.

[hookemhorns]

Originally Posted by JPat

I'm on day 5 and for the past few days my dreams have been very vivid and WEIRD - not really nightmares...just disturbing.
This always happens when I stop though, and pretty soon the dreams will be about drinking again and I'll wake up feeling guilty and horrible until I realize it was a dream.

Me too! I'm only on day 11, but for the first 4-5 days, I had creepy dreams. I would start to drift off to sleep, then get startled awake by some vivid, disturbing image.

btw...I love your pic! That is my all time favorite movie.

[geekorunique]

The best thing to do is try and get as relaxed as you can and when you have really vivid dreams just remember that it's only a dream. I dreamt the other night that I had a drink and I woke up almost feeling guilty. Just don't let your head fool you because remember if there is a Higher Power I believe that there has to be a lower power

Stay strong

[Lilyflower]

Interesting issue Dreams.

Perhaps the dreaming about using, folks you used to hang out with etc etc is your minds way of communicating how it does not want that life again.

I often find that I dream about issues that I fear or have anxieties about. They manifest in my sleep. Perhaps by gaining trust in yourself, and in your sobriety will help alieviate any fears/anxieties you may have and make sleep more restful.

Blessings and serenity

Lily xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[geekorunique]

Thanks for that Lilly - you've made me think about something that I never have before. I don't think I have any faith in myself or my sobriety despite the fact that I have been sober over 200 days now. I've never lasted at anything but I really do want this. At the end of the day I'm the only one who can take my sobriety away from me.

Thanks for that my lovely!

Kirstie xxx

[Lilyflower]

Wow Kirstie, 200 days, that is fab! And you say you never last at anything!?
For me, when I feel tempted to give up on anything I am trying to do, it is because I have lost confidence in myself.

I try to work on my confidence and in acceptance. Then I know that no matter what happens to bring me down, I can choose to accept it with joy and serenity, not let it effect my peace and move on.

That is just my experience of life, I have never been addicted to a substance. My struggles were with codependancy and depression, which I battled for 15 years.

However one motto I heard once, that works for me and my issues is 'It works if you work it, its worth it', I truely believe that. So how's about..

If you want it and work it, you will never loose it

Love and serenity to you
Lily xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[geekorunique]

Well I've never lasted at anything before - I was very fickle and have failed at relationships and stuff. In sobriety though I am actually becoming effective and able to do things. People can rely on me now! It's amazing and I am so happy about it.

I think yes I need to work on my confidence. I also suffer from depression. have been on anti depressants for ten years now. I am getting assessed by a psychiatrist soon to check that they are actually working. Noone has ever done that for me so I'm very happy.

I do find that acceptance really does work - I can choose to be miserable about what I don't have - or happy about what I do have. I choose to be happy and content because I was miserable for so long. Depending on substances and alcohol. I have taken every drug except heroin and despite thinking that I would never touch it there was a time that I said I'd never take cocaine. I always took things to get some kind of happiness. All I actually had to do to be happy was stop drinking and taking drugs. I wish I'd figured it all out sooner!

Love to you too Lily - hope you have a good new year and that you are feeling good today. An excellent book I read about depression that actually got me to AA was Shoot The Damn Dog by Sally Brampton I would definitely recommend it.

Kirstie xxx

[fultang]

I had a dream once where I was selling weed to a guy who wrote me out hundreds of checks for 40 cents each.
When I left I realizd I only had 1 check for 40 cents.
So I went back and the dude and his wife insisted I stay for dinner.
I did in order to get the money.
But when I went into the kitchen the dude was pulling parts of his brain out and putting it in the food.

[yeahgr8]

since becoming sober i have started dreaming again, and let's say some of them are very strange and vivid, and like mike13 said light up a cig and think what the ****!

One this week i stabbed a women to death with a short edged screwdriver in order to save the rest of the people we were with from being found by people that were hunting us, she was making too much noise. Other one i locked people in a room and watched them burn and then convinced my mother to commit suicide. All gold lol

[fultang]

I think everyone fails at relationships.
You have to fail in order to recognize success.
How do you define success and failure as they pertain to relationships?
Because success and failure are the very tips of the spectrum.
It's what's in-between that's important.
Since relationships are by nature dynamic entities, and the concepts of success and failure are static, I don't think people ever come to a point where they feel they've succeeded.
So if you use those ideas as a way to measure a relationship, you're setting yourself up for failure.

Nothing builds confidence better than accomplishment.

[mywifeisatpeace]

i just had a dream where i went to a hospital to go visit my wife and her mother came also. we got separated so the mother went to see her first. it was a psychiatric type hospital. and there was all manner of security just to get to the area we wanted to get to.wven the elevator was more like a room that would move between floors witha ll these security and tech guys in it. well the mother returned like 2 mins after seeing greeneyes3902 and she was crying and would not say anything and left crying. they said i could still go see her if i wanted to so i said yes.i get on the elevator room and we get to the floor but something happened and we went back down. the floor is something like the 30th. anyway a couple of more tries i get to the floor. i walk into a community room where ther are alot of patients and then i see her. her hair is reddish and shorter and styled different. she does not see me. i step right in front of her and she is laughing all along.and she sees right thru me. i kneel down in front of her and then she sees my face and she smiles hugs me and says hey baby. i say to her do you remember me? she says yeah... but she is either on some heavy drugs or something because she is acting like 8 years old and keeps singing "all my dreams are made of steel...and my wounds just dissappear" then she laughs. god i miss her. to those that don't know she died 2 years ago.

[chickenVSturkey]

I am thinking and that is just happen!! this is something new.

[Hilltopper1972]

I woke up to a small spider about 10 inches in front of my face hanging on a web last night about 1am. I saw it and swung at it and then turned on the light looking for the little bugger. I've had these many, many times, but it is so real I have to assume that this could be the one. One of these times I'll wake up to a real spider and ignore it and the little arachnid will lay into me and I'll be sorry! Always spiders, some big, some little and I hate it man. Anybody have the creepy crawly thing happening?

[mywifeisatpeace]

youe spidey sense is tingling...lol, by creepy crawley do you mean hair standing on end? OK I need to say something that I am not quite sure what to think. This past wednesday my son was home when I got here and says dad I need to tell you something. I was like Yeah?? he said he saw something in his room. I waited to see what it was and he says he said he was laying down around 10:30 and had the urge to open his eyesand when he did he said he saw a man shaped figure with a hooked nose. he said he couldn't see his bottom half because the only light in the room was the light from the vcr and the light from his power cord. the figure was about 2 feet away from him. he said he could clearly see the shoulders as if wearing a suit and the hooked nose but he could not see the eyes. he said it was hunched over away from him and when he saw it it turned his head sharply to him and let out a hissing skreech...he jumped out of bed and turned on the light but there was nothing there. he spent half the night trying to rationalize what he saw. He does not do drugs or alcohol but he is a health nut. drinks milk and all that. could it have been a vivid dream? he claims he wasn't sleeping but just lying down and usually he goes to bed about midnight so 10:30 is pretty early. I told him not to mention it around my 7 year old daughter because she freaks out about everything even butterflies.any thoughts?