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Old 02-09-2006, 12:55 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Unhappy In memory of "Bo"

Bo just took his last breath while I laid next to him.
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Old 02-09-2006, 12:56 AM   #2 (permalink)
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"Bo" November 1991-Febuary 2006

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What a handsome boy.....My heart goes out to you

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Old 02-09-2006, 02:09 AM   #5 (permalink)
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Bo is laying on the floor in my bedroom. I finally managed to pull myself together at least for now. My sponsor rents a room from me and I woke him up. We picked Bo up and layed him on a blanket. Now Im sitting here crying and my GF is sitting next to me watching me type. She knows how much Bo meant to me and she also knows how much I love coming to SR. I'm supposed to meet a customer in 7 hours and collect a deposit to start my biggest job since I started my business. I cant postpone it either. They just purchased the house and are ready to move in. And the house is huge. I absoloutely have to show up. It's very doubtful I will do any work today. I'm going to drop off my apprentice and my GF and leave them in charge today. Then I guess I will take Bo to the Vet to be creamated. I dont think I will sleep tonight. I cant.
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Old 02-09-2006, 02:19 AM   #6 (permalink)
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I'm grateful for a few things. I have this site to let out my pain. Bo was 14 and getting old fast. I knew this day would come. I dreaded it. My biggest fear was having to take him to the vet and have him put to sleep. I didnt wanna have to do that. I also am glad I was there. And not asleep or even worse, at work. He went out very peacefully. I layed next to him, he took a couple of breaths and passed away. Bo watched me do a lotta dope. Bo knew very well what dope was. He knew when I was high. He hated seeing me like that. For the last 9 months he saw me clean.
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Old 02-09-2006, 02:36 AM   #7 (permalink)
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I got Bo on Valentines day in 1992 while I was still living in Georgia. He was approx.12 weeks old. Just a little black furry thing. Bo traved the United States with me. He has ran on both the Atlantic and Pacific Beaches and also the Gulf of Mexico. He has been to the Grand Canyon, seen most of the US, been to Mexico, Canada, and also two trips to Europe. He loved riding in the truck with me. For over 14 years, Bo was my best friend. A very dear and loyal friend. I loved him so much. I'm grateful God took my friend peacefully. He did not suffer.
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Old 02-09-2006, 02:45 AM   #8 (permalink)
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A Rainbow Bridge

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

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Old 02-09-2006, 02:50 AM   #9 (permalink)
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Thank you Carol. I miss my dog. I think I might go buy another Black Lab over the weekend. I'm gonna name him "Buddy".
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Old 02-09-2006, 02:53 AM   #10 (permalink)
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All I know right now, is I do not have to use and will not use over this. I will grieve clean.
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Old 02-09-2006, 03:01 AM   #11 (permalink)
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Im sorry for your loss...

Take a look at this site -

http://www.patsyann.com/gtds/dstar2.htm

Hope it helps, i have 2 there... Gone to dogstar.
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I printed Rainbow Bridge and also saved it on my PC. I'm gonna try and figure out how to put Bo's photo on it with the text so I can print it.
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Old 02-09-2006, 03:06 AM   #13 (permalink)
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Im sorry for your loss...

Take a look at this site -

http://www.patsyann.com/gtds/dstar2.htm

Hope it helps, i have 2 there... Gone to dogstar.
Thanks Aaron. I saw a star named Bo. I couldnt figure out how to post about my dog.
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Old 02-09-2006, 03:12 AM   #14 (permalink)
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I saw it too!

there is a link on that page - just under index... topish of the page, toward the left side.

Newton and bentley both have stars there.

God bless ya, Mike -

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Old 02-09-2006, 03:34 AM   #15 (permalink)
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I'm going to try and get a couple hours of sleep.
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Old 02-09-2006, 03:50 AM   #16 (permalink)
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Wow Mike, I'm really sorry. I imagine its tough, especially for the length of time you've had him, and all the history you have together. I'm very sorry man.
 
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I cant stop crying. He is just laying on the floor in my room wrapped up in a blanket. There is nothing I can do. My dog is gone. I miss him so much.
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Old 02-09-2006, 04:24 AM   #18 (permalink)
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Aw Mike, I'm so sorry.
I'm glad you can find comfort in your memories.
A from me to you.
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Old 02-09-2006, 04:43 AM   #19 (permalink)
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You might like this by the actor James Stuart - his dog was called Bo too.

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My Dog, Named Bo.
He came to me when I would call, unless I had a tennis ball -or he felt like it.

But mostly--he didn't come at all.
When he was young, he never learned, to heel, or sit or stay, he did things his way.

Discipline was not his bag, but when you were with him, things sure didn't drag.

He'd dig up a rose bush just to spite me, and when I'd grab 'im he'd turn and bite me.

He bit lots of folks from day to day, the deliv'ry boy was his favorite prey.

The gas man wouldn't read our meter, he said we owned a real man-eater.

He set he house on fire, but the story's long to tell. Suffice to say that he survived, and, the house survived as well.

And on evening walks (and Gloria took him), he was always first out the door. The old one and I, brought up the rear because our bones were sore.

And he'd charge up the street with Mom hangin' on, what a beautiful pair they were.

And if it was still light, and the tourists were out, they created a bit of a stir!

But every once in awhile he'd stop in his tracks and with a frown on his face, look around.

It was just t'make sure, that the old one was there, to follow him where he was bound.

We're early-to-bedders in our house I guess I'm the first to retire, and as I'd leave the room, he'd look at me and get up from his place by the fire.

He knew where the tennis balls were, upstairs and I'd give 'im one for awhile and he'd push it under the bed with his nose and I'd dig it out with a smile.

But before very long, he'd tire of the ball and he'd be asleep in his corner in no time at all, and there where nights when I'd feel him climb up on our bed and lie between us, and I'd pat his head;

and there were nights when I'd feel this stare, and I'd wake up and he'd be sitting there and I'd reach out to stroke his hair;

and sometimes I'd feel him sigh, and I think I know the reason why.

He'd wake up at night, and he would have his fear of the dark, of life, of lot's of things, and he'd be glad to have me near.

And now he's dead.

And there are nights when I think I feel him climb up on our bed, and lie between us, and I pat his head;

and there are nights when I think I feel that stare, and I reach out my hand to stroke his hair, and he's not there.

Oh, how I wish that wasn't so, I'll always love a dog named Bo.
We never lose the memories and I find it's the good ones that stay long after the grief has passed.
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So sorry for the loss of your beloved companion...
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Thank you, Gabe, Eguss, and Wolfstarr.
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What a gift he was. What a joy he had you clean and sober these past months.

I have long thought that it was entirely unfair that dogs lives are so short, but I can hardly believe how much Bo packed into his. What an adventure he had!

It is so obvious you gave him a big part of yourself... your love, your trust. There are times when my dog was the only one who understood me... but without her, I would have had no one.

Friends come into our lives - for a reason.... a season... or a lifetime. Bo sounds like a good friend.

I am sorry you are grieving. What I know today is the pain does not go on forever. Sending prayers for peace and comfort.

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((((Mike))))

I'm so sorry ... I understand the place Bo had in your heart.

He had a good life with you, at your side in life and in passing.

You know he's running free up there.



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Time2Surrender...I'm sooo sorry about your loss. Gosh I know how hard it is. I lost my basset hound last year...and his name was "Bo" well actually "Mr. Bojangles" lol...just know that my thoughts are with you and Bo today....he's at peace....in doggy heaven Not to try to tell you what to do or anything...but you may want to wait just a little bit before you go get a puppy...so you can grieve Bo, which you'll have to do anyways...and that way you'll have some time to think about preparing for a puppy! lol...lotsa work! But lots of fun too. Just a suggestion. Hang in there!
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mike - i am so sorry for your loss. I have lost 2 pets in the course of a year and a half that lived to be 19 & 17 years old respectively. they become part of our souls - they see us at our best AND worst and still they are loyal and love us unconditionally. the grief we feel for the loss of our pets is just as valid as the grief for a human friend.

cry for bo's passing but smile for bo's presence in your life!

here's a link i found helpful - they do a ceremony weekly for lost pets.
http://www.petloss.com/

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