Giving This A Try

[MKS]

A dear friend suggested this site, said go to it and give it a try. I'm not here about drugs and alcohol, I'm here because on Dec. 30th, 2005 I lost my oldest daughter, she was 26. I have raised my 5 children alone for the past 17 years and nothing in the parentbook prepares you for something like this....nothing!

I am as lost, hurt and confused as one can be. I've never known pain like this. My other children hurt so bad I can't stand it, I cannot fix nor help ease what they are going through. It's not like when they were little and daddy could kiss the boo-boo and make it all better. I miss her so badly, a parent isn't supposed to bury a child, it is just not right. I'll end here and see what happens when I come back, I am at such a loss.

[splendra]

(((((MKS))))

So sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine your pain. Please do keep posting and feel welcome here most of us here do know something about loss some know like you do...

[PATUCAWARRIOR]

Good to see you here mks....

[cwohio]

MKS - tho i've never lost a child and from what i have read there's nothing that can close to the grief a parent feels. i recently lost my husband to direct results of his alcoholism. read some of the posts on the grief and loss section and know you are not alone. big hugs to you and your surviving children!

[deedee]

(((MKS)))

I hear your pain and I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. I lost my 27 year old son almost a year ago. The early days are almost surreal, filled with shock and disbelief. And you're so right, no one should have to bury a child. Sometimes I have no words and sometimes the emotion spills out. Please come back and share more about your dear daughter. There are many good people here who care and who will embrace you.

Lean on those who love you at this time and encourage all of your children to share their feelings and their memories. It helps, when so little else does.

Heartfelt hugs and prayers from this mom to you.

deedee

[my brother]

MKS, My prayers and thoughts are with you.
I lost my brother on 6th Jan and i know the pain my mother is feeling.
Don't feel you always have to be strong for your children..give yourself time on your own to grieve.
I know my mother feels she has to be strong for me and my other siblings but we do understand.
Lot's of Love Lucie xx

[In memory of miracle]

(((( MKS ))))
I am so sorry....prayers to you.
Bless, Trish

[Wolfstarr]

(((((MKS)))))))

I am so sorry for your loss. My deepest prayers and healing thoughts are sent to you and your family in your time of profound grief.
Come back to the forum and talk about it. Oftentimes it does help to get out what is inside and let go of some of it...it is up to you. We all grieve in different ways and there is no time limit set for it.

Loss is an emotion that is very painful. It takes time for it to ease...the stages we go through help us learn how to deal and cope with the loss.

My earnest prayers and thoughts to you, MKS. Praying for your peace of mind as well as your family's.

Wolfstarr

[debmar]

Mks,

I feel your pain profoundly, it's been four months and two weeks, since my husband overdosed on cocaine. You are in my prayers. I just want to thank everybody for helping me through this griefing process all of you have held my hand as I cry every night in the dark. I want to suggest what my psychologist told me, he told me to read the book When Bad Things Happen To Good People and I must say I took alot away from that book, and it's baby steps every little thing helps, he says God helps us through friends and family who hold and hug us and are there for us and I have seen that be true. Thanks again to this family so dedicated to each other, for you I feel better today. Luv