Worldwide Candle Lighting - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

deedee · 12-11-2005, 02:09 PM

for childen who left too soon is tonight at 7 PM. Sponsored by Compassionate Friends

www.compassionatefriends.org

The worldwide Candle Lighting is held every year on the second Sunday in December at 7 PM in every time zone, in remembrance of our children. As candles burn down in one time zone, they are lighted in the next, creating a 24-hour wave of light that encircles the globe.

"Candle Lighting"

It's time again to light the candles
And while we view the burning flames
We think of all our beloved children
And hear the reading of their names.

All who are here have suffered heartbreak
We each have felt the crushing pain
Our children dead, forever gone
We can't forget them, so we came.

To grasp a hand, to lend a shoulder
With helping friends we all will gain
Immense support and understanding
And hope ... that we can live again.

The candle lighting and remembrance
Affirms for us this truth so plain;
Our children do live on in our hearts
And their love will always remain.

~ by Karen Story, TCF, Montgomery, AL ~

As part of a group or in your own home, if you've lost a child, light a candle tonight.

historyteach · 12-11-2005, 03:25 PM

(((deedee)))
Thank you for posting this... I'm in...

Shalom!

Gabe · 12-11-2005, 04:00 PM

My candle is for you deedee, and all the parents who have lost a child.

deedee · 12-11-2005, 04:02 PM

In loving memory of Jason ...

June 28, 1977 to February 2, 2005

Always on my mind, forever in my heart

**Ann** · 12-11-2005, 04:52 PM

In memory of Jason, with prayers for Deedee and all who loved him.

There is a light that shines beyond all things on earth, beyond us all, beyond the heavens.
This is the light that shines in our hearts.

Chandogya Upanishad

My the light of Jason's love remain in your hearts until you meet again.

Hugs and Love
Ann

**Ann** · 12-11-2005, 04:57 PM

Also, in memory of Mo's daughter, and all the other addicts who now rest with God. May they know they are remembered and loved by so many.

Hugs
Ann

deedee · 12-11-2005, 07:28 PM

Amen Ann

Mo has been very much in my thoughts lately.

For her dear Mariam

best · 12-11-2005, 07:35 PM

I can't even begin to understand what parents may feel.
I know it must be more then my thoughts can think it may be like.

Prayers for all parents and family members who have lost loved ones because of the disease of drugs and alcohol.

BONNIE JEAN · 12-11-2005, 07:43 PM

My family attended this tonight and it was so comforting. There was about 50 people there, you could feel the love and comfort in the room. It really made us feel like we were doing something special just for Keith. It was also amazing to think this was being done all over the world. It sure makes you feel like you really are not alone.

In loving memory of our son Keith, for all those who love him and miss him. For all of those who have hurting hearts over the loss of a loved one. May peace and comfort be with you all.
Bonnie Jean

Wolfstarr · 12-11-2005, 08:08 PM

For Jason, Mariam and Keith, and every soul consumed by addiction, my heart and prayers for you and your loved ones...Peace is yours....

deedee · 12-12-2005, 05:10 PM

Heart to heart hugs to all who lit a candle last night

Wolfstarr · 12-12-2005, 05:36 PM

Candles still burning for our loved ones....

Lights of Love

Can you see our candles
Burning in the night?
Lights of love we send you
Rays of purest white

Children we remember
Though missing from our sight
In honor and remembrance
We light candles in the night

All across the big blue marble
Spinning out in space
Can you see the candles burning
From this human place?

Oh, angels gone before us
Who taught us perfect love
This night the world lights candles
That you may see them from above

Tonight the globe is lit by love
Of those who know great sorrow,
But as we remember our yesterdays
Let's light one candle for tomorrow

We will not forget,
And every year in deep December
On Earth we will light candles
As....
............we remember

Jacqueline Brown

deedee · 12-13-2005, 06:18 PM

Absolutely beautiful (((Wolf)))

mo · 12-14-2005, 07:42 AM

Hello Everyone-DeeDee and Ann

Thank you for remembering my Mariam. Her death anniversary is on 12/19. I miss her so much and there will always be this big hole in my heart.

I just keep plugging away at this life. I did change jobs so that I am not constantly working with addicts but now I don't have the daily contact with my dearest friends which is a bummer. I am still in school which is a distraction. .most of the time I just feel like I am going through the motions of living. There really is not much joy or hope except to know that one day we will all be together. My husband continues with his heart problems but is doing ok.. I am powerless.

We received the autopsy report etc which I scoured for clues about Mariam's death. Final analysis was septic shock. Please please friends if you ever have to have someone in the hospital make sure people are washing their hands and using antiseptic technique during procedures. ALthough I know Mariam's death was ultimately a result of her addiction we have a major problem in healthcare with staph resistant infections. .and because she was compromised she contracted MRSA.

Mariam's little girls are doing ok. We see them often. Their lives are not what I would have for them. Their Dad is loving but not the best provider. But we keep tabs on what is going on and help when we can.

And finally no one but a mother knows how painful the loss of a child is. My thoughts and prayers go to you DeeDee and BonnieJean. .and to you dear Ann who continue to wait. ANd thank you WOlfstar for your work on keeping this forum going.

Until next time. Love Mo

deedee · 12-14-2005, 06:43 PM

(((Mo)))

I'm so glad you stopped in ... have been wondering how you are. I know the first anniversary of Mariam's death is coming quickly and that it will be an emotional time for you. Please know that you and your family are still in my heart and prayers.

"Most of the time I just feel like I am going through the motions of living". This is how I feel too. Pushing myself to get up in the morning, take a shower, get dressed, go to work. *sigh* But there are little bright spots in my life - my grandson, my younger son, my family and friends - and I hold onto them.

Take care dear Mo - we are always here if you need us

hugs and love,

deedee

**Ann** · 12-14-2005, 08:27 PM

(((Mo)))

I think of you so often, Mo, and really miss you. I will think of you again, and Mariam, as the anniversary of her death arrives and light another candle and say a prayer for both of you.

I feel very close to your children, Mo and Deedee, just as I know you feel close to my son. We all have walked this road together for so long and I think become family of a sort, and your children will always remain in my heart and my prayers. Their spirits live, even today, in the hearts of moms like me who they never met, yet touched deeply.

I love you both.

Hugs and Love
Ann

deedee · 12-15-2005, 06:45 PM

(((Ann)))

We are family ... when one of us hurts, all of us hurt. Your son is also close to my heart and always in my prayers. I am willing him to pick up that phone and just call you ... what a gift that would be. Until then, may God keep him safe.

love you too

deedee

12-11-2005, 02:09 PM	#1 (permalink)
deedee Member Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Faith~Hope~Love Posts: 932	Worldwide Candle Lighting for childen who left too soon is tonight at 7 PM. Sponsored by Compassionate Friends www.compassionatefriends.org The worldwide Candle Lighting is held every year on the second Sunday in December at 7 PM in every time zone, in remembrance of our children. As candles burn down in one time zone, they are lighted in the next, creating a 24-hour wave of light that encircles the globe. "Candle Lighting" It's time again to light the candles And while we view the burning flames We think of all our beloved children And hear the reading of their names. All who are here have suffered heartbreak We each have felt the crushing pain Our children dead, forever gone We can't forget them, so we came. To grasp a hand, to lend a shoulder With helping friends we all will gain Immense support and understanding And hope ... that we can live again. The candle lighting and remembrance Affirms for us this truth so plain; Our children do live on in our hearts And their love will always remain. ~ by Karen Story, TCF, Montgomery, AL ~ As part of a group or in your own home, if you've lost a child, light a candle tonight. __________________ ~ While the light lasts I shall remember and in the darkness I shall not forget ~

12-11-2005, 03:25 PM	#2 (permalink)
historyteach To Life! Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Rhode Island Posts: 9,177	(((deedee))) Thank you for posting this... I'm in... Shalom! __________________ IMAGINE

12-11-2005, 04:02 PM	#4 (permalink)
deedee Member Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Faith~Hope~Love Posts: 932	In loving memory of Jason ... June 28, 1977 to February 2, 2005 Always on my mind, forever in my heart __________________ ~ While the light lasts I shall remember and in the darkness I shall not forget ~

12-11-2005, 04:52 PM	#5 (permalink)
Ann Forum Leader Glop 2:Glops Revenge Champion! Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: By The Lake Posts: 20,366	In memory of Jason, with prayers for Deedee and all who loved him. There is a light that shines beyond all things on earth, beyond us all, beyond the heavens. This is the light that shines in our hearts. Chandogya Upanishad My the light of Jason's love remain in your hearts until you meet again. Hugs and Love Ann __________________ You've got to get up every morning with a smile on your face And show the world all the love in your heart Then people gonna treat you better You're gonna find, yes, you will That you're beautiful as you feel ~Carole King~

12-11-2005, 04:57 PM	#6 (permalink)
Ann Forum Leader Glop 2:Glops Revenge Champion! Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: By The Lake Posts: 20,366	Also, in memory of Mo's daughter, and all the other addicts who now rest with God. May they know they are remembered and loved by so many. Hugs Ann __________________ You've got to get up every morning with a smile on your face And show the world all the love in your heart Then people gonna treat you better You're gonna find, yes, you will That you're beautiful as you feel ~Carole King~

12-11-2005, 04:00 PM	#3 (permalink)
Gabe Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 4,955	My candle is for you deedee, and all the parents who have lost a child.

12-11-2005, 07:28 PM	#7 (permalink)
deedee Member Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Faith~Hope~Love Posts: 932	Amen Ann Mo has been very much in my thoughts lately. For her dear Mariam __________________ ~ While the light lasts I shall remember and in the darkness I shall not forget ~

12-11-2005, 07:35 PM	#8 (permalink)
best Don't get undies in a bunch Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: South Shore MA Posts: 7,170	I can't even begin to understand what parents may feel. I know it must be more then my thoughts can think it may be like. Prayers for all parents and family members who have lost loved ones because of the disease of drugs and alcohol. __________________ * I asked God to spare me pain. God said "No", Suffering draws you apart from worldly cares and brings you closer to me. Recovery Related Acronym B. E. S. T. = Been Enjoying Sobriety Today?

12-11-2005, 07:43 PM	#9 (permalink)
BONNIE JEAN Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: MONTICELLO, MINNESOTA Posts: 11	Candle Lighting Ceromny My family attended this tonight and it was so comforting. There was about 50 people there, you could feel the love and comfort in the room. It really made us feel like we were doing something special just for Keith. It was also amazing to think this was being done all over the world. It sure makes you feel like you really are not alone. *In loving memory of our son Keith, for all those who love him and miss him. For all of those who have hurting hearts over the loss of a loved one. May peace and comfort be with you all.* Bonnie Jean

12-11-2005, 08:08 PM	#10 (permalink)
Wolfstarr Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Deeeep South Posts: 757	For Jason, Mariam and Keith, and every soul consumed by addiction, my heart and prayers for you and your loved ones...Peace is yours....

12-12-2005, 05:10 PM	#11 (permalink)
deedee Member Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Faith~Hope~Love Posts: 932	Heart to heart hugs to all who lit a candle last night __________________ ~ While the light lasts I shall remember and in the darkness I shall not forget ~

12-12-2005, 05:36 PM	#12 (permalink)
Wolfstarr Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Deeeep South Posts: 757	Candles still burning for our loved ones.... Lights of Love Can you see our candles Burning in the night? Lights of love we send you Rays of purest white Children we remember Though missing from our sight In honor and remembrance We light candles in the night All across the big blue marble Spinning out in space Can you see the candles burning From this human place? Oh, angels gone before us Who taught us perfect love This night the world lights candles That you may see them from above Tonight the globe is lit by love Of those who know great sorrow, But as we remember our yesterdays Let's light one candle for tomorrow We will not forget, And every year in deep December On Earth we will light candles As.... ............we remember Jacqueline Brown

12-13-2005, 06:18 PM	#13 (permalink)
deedee Member Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Faith~Hope~Love Posts: 932	Absolutely beautiful (((Wolf))) __________________ ~ While the light lasts I shall remember and in the darkness I shall not forget ~

12-14-2005, 07:42 AM	#14 (permalink)
mo Member Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Butler Pa Posts: 75	Thank you for remembering Hello Everyone-DeeDee and Ann Thank you for remembering my Mariam. Her death anniversary is on 12/19. I miss her so much and there will always be this big hole in my heart. I just keep plugging away at this life. I did change jobs so that I am not constantly working with addicts but now I don't have the daily contact with my dearest friends which is a bummer. I am still in school which is a distraction. .most of the time I just feel like I am going through the motions of living. There really is not much joy or hope except to know that one day we will all be together. My husband continues with his heart problems but is doing ok.. I am powerless. We received the autopsy report etc which I scoured for clues about Mariam's death. Final analysis was septic shock. Please please friends if you ever have to have someone in the hospital make sure people are washing their hands and using antiseptic technique during procedures. ALthough I know Mariam's death was ultimately a result of her addiction we have a major problem in healthcare with staph resistant infections. .and because she was compromised she contracted MRSA. Mariam's little girls are doing ok. We see them often. Their lives are not what I would have for them. Their Dad is loving but not the best provider. But we keep tabs on what is going on and help when we can. And finally no one but a mother knows how painful the loss of a child is. My thoughts and prayers go to you DeeDee and BonnieJean. .and to you dear Ann who continue to wait. ANd thank you WOlfstar for your work on keeping this forum going. Until next time. Love Mo __________________ "We help the most when we help the least" (Fla Mom) :nono:

12-14-2005, 06:43 PM	#15 (permalink)
deedee Member Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Faith~Hope~Love Posts: 932	(((Mo))) I'm so glad you stopped in ... have been wondering how you are. I know the first anniversary of Mariam's death is coming quickly and that it will be an emotional time for you. Please know that you and your family are still in my heart and prayers. "Most of the time I just feel like I am going through the motions of living". This is how I feel too. Pushing myself to get up in the morning, take a shower, get dressed, go to work. sigh But there are little bright spots in my life - my grandson, my younger son, my family and friends - and I hold onto them. Take care dear Mo - we are always here if you need us hugs and love, deedee __________________ ~ While the light lasts I shall remember and in the darkness I shall not forget ~

12-14-2005, 08:27 PM	#16 (permalink)
Ann Forum Leader Glop 2:Glops Revenge Champion! Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: By The Lake Posts: 20,366	(((Mo))) I think of you so often, Mo, and really miss you. I will think of you again, and Mariam, as the anniversary of her death arrives and light another candle and say a prayer for both of you. I feel very close to your children, Mo and Deedee, just as I know you feel close to my son. We all have walked this road together for so long and I think become family of a sort, and your children will always remain in my heart and my prayers. Their spirits live, even today, in the hearts of moms like me who they never met, yet touched deeply. I love you both. Hugs and Love Ann __________________ You've got to get up every morning with a smile on your face And show the world all the love in your heart Then people gonna treat you better You're gonna find, yes, you will That you're beautiful as you feel ~Carole King~

12-15-2005, 06:45 PM	#17 (permalink)
deedee Member Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Faith~Hope~Love Posts: 932	(((Ann))) We are family ... when one of us hurts, all of us hurt. Your son is also close to my heart and always in my prayers. I am willing him to pick up that phone and just call you ... what a gift that would be. Until then, may God keep him safe. love you too deedee __________________ ~ While the light lasts I shall remember and in the darkness I shall not forget ~

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