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lovetoall · 06-17-2005, 05:25 PM

Everyday is such a struggle without my mom. She was my world.
Today marks eight months. It seems still not real. Picked out a father's day gift today and hardly could do it. I feel so lost and feel judged by others who have there mother's. Why do I feel this? Why do I care what other people think?
No one really cares- it's all just my perception.

This summer should be a happy time but all it is, is a nightmare that continues every minute, day and night. How do I get through this- there are no answers- just time. TIME to cope- COPE, cope and more days to COPE!

I'm angry
sad
depressed
alone
heart broken
ECT

In memory of miracle · 06-17-2005, 05:32 PM

I know exactly what you mean. When I lost my Mom, who was also my best friend,it was a sad and difficult time. The sadness and the grief are very hard to bear. Unlike you,I didn't reach out and the isolation made it worse.It's been 12 yrs since my Mom passed away,and I still miss her.Bless you and know time will heal. Prayers, Trish

Wolfstarr · 06-17-2005, 07:25 PM

(((lovetoall))))
Moms are so special in our lives...mine is still here and I dread the day when I won't have her anymore. She is elderly.
My heart goes out to you with prayers and good thoughts for you on Sunday, and always.
Peace,
Wolfstarr

Time2Surrender · 06-17-2005, 07:34 PM

(((Lovetoall) Welcome to SoberRecovery.I am so sorry for your loss.You are going through a grieving process and it will take time.I went through a lot of different feelings when my girlfriend was killed (3 weeks before our wedding day!) It takes time.There is really nothing anyone can say or do to make it better.Hang in there.

mendingheart · 06-19-2005, 04:36 AM

To all of you,
My heart goes out to you as I read your posts. My friends are losing their parents as I travel in that time in our life. I am fortunate in that I still have both of mine,(however my father is inactive in my life, he is still here) I know that all those annoying little mom things will someday be a passing emotion, when she is not here to be herself.
Remember, there is family of origin, and family of choice. There are so many good people out there who consider you family also. Not saying it can be replaced, just redirected, with what you have.
Hugs to you all.

aggie · 06-19-2005, 06:35 AM

hello everyone . . . just joined (for a different forum, but saw this one and couldn't believe my eyes) I just lost my mom in April - we buried her ON my birthday. I miss her too, I so understand your pain and emptiness. It's weird not to be able to pick the phone up and call and hear her voice. my dad has joined a couple grieving support groups and I am so glad as he was her constant caretaker the last 24 years and her life-long companion of 57-1/2 years. He is so lost without her. I think I will go with him to the support group. have you checked out local (real-time) groups that you may be able to join. It is wonderful to have a goup like this that you can talk to at any time . . . but a real time group might be a good partner with this one. a group where you can see people and touch, hug, etc.... just a thought. take care. God bless all of you who have lost a parent - it is one of the hardest most devestating experiences.

na4today · 06-20-2005, 08:11 AM

It's been almost 4 weeks since I lost my dad. This was a very hard Father's Day this year. Death really sucks.

Free to love · 06-23-2005, 01:03 PM

((lovetoall)) I lost my mom in Oct. 1, 2001. Right after the 9/11 disaster (someone I know escaped from the towers, thank God he didn't die) & I had a miscarrage the month before. I'm not a stranger to loss. Especially that year. My Mom's death was the hardest. Some days it's still hard, I miss her alot. I know this really doesn't help right now but, it does get better. Hang in. My prayers will be with you.

06-17-2005, 05:25 PM	#1 (permalink)
lovetoall Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Fort Mill, SC Posts: 32	miss my mom Everyday is such a struggle without my mom. She was my world. Today marks eight months. It seems still not real. Picked out a father's day gift today and hardly could do it. I feel so lost and feel judged by others who have there mother's. Why do I feel this? Why do I care what other people think? No one really cares- it's all just my perception. This summer should be a happy time but all it is, is a nightmare that continues every minute, day and night. How do I get through this- there are no answers- just time. TIME to cope- COPE, cope and more days to COPE! I'm angry sad depressed alone heart broken ECT

06-17-2005, 05:32 PM	#2 (permalink)
In memory of miracle In Memory Of Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Connecticut. Posts: 3,738	Oh,Lovetoall I know exactly what you mean. When I lost my Mom, who was also my best friend,it was a sad and difficult time. The sadness and the grief are very hard to bear. Unlike you,I didn't reach out and the isolation made it worse.It's been 12 yrs since my Mom passed away,and I still miss her.Bless you and know time will heal. Prayers, Trish __________________ In Memory Of Teach only love...

06-19-2005, 04:36 AM	#5 (permalink)
mendingheart Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: home sweet home Posts: 300	To all of you, My heart goes out to you as I read your posts. My friends are losing their parents as I travel in that time in our life. I am fortunate in that I still have both of mine,(however my father is inactive in my life, he is still here) I know that all those annoying little mom things will someday be a passing emotion, when she is not here to be herself. Remember, there is family of origin, and family of choice. There are so many good people out there who consider you family also. Not saying it can be replaced, just redirected, with what you have. Hugs to you all. __________________ Good things are about to happen.........

06-23-2005, 01:03 PM	#8 (permalink)
Free to love loved & blessed Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: southren, NJ Posts: 109	((lovetoall)) I lost my mom in Oct. 1, 2001. Right after the 9/11 disaster (someone I know escaped from the towers, thank God he didn't die) & I had a miscarrage the month before. I'm not a stranger to loss. Especially that year. My Mom's death was the hardest. Some days it's still hard, I miss her alot. I know this really doesn't help right now but, it does get better. Hang in. My prayers will be with you. __________________ God Bless, FTL

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06-17-2005, 07:25 PM	#3 (permalink)
Wolfstarr Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Deeeep South Posts: 767	(((lovetoall)))) Moms are so special in our lives...mine is still here and I dread the day when I won't have her anymore. She is elderly. My heart goes out to you with prayers and good thoughts for you on Sunday, and always. Peace, Wolfstarr

06-17-2005, 07:34 PM	#4 (permalink)
Time2Surrender Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Washington State Posts: 7,263 Blog Entries: 7	(((Lovetoall) Welcome to SoberRecovery.I am so sorry for your loss.You are going through a grieving process and it will take time.I went through a lot of different feelings when my girlfriend was killed (3 weeks before our wedding day!) It takes time.There is really nothing anyone can say or do to make it better.Hang in there.

06-19-2005, 06:35 AM	#6 (permalink)
aggie aggie Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Cincinnati, OH Posts: 1	hello everyone . . . just joined (for a different forum, but saw this one and couldn't believe my eyes) I just lost my mom in April - we buried her ON my birthday. I miss her too, I so understand your pain and emptiness. It's weird not to be able to pick the phone up and call and hear her voice. my dad has joined a couple grieving support groups and I am so glad as he was her constant caretaker the last 24 years and her life-long companion of 57-1/2 years. He is so lost without her. I think I will go with him to the support group. have you checked out local (real-time) groups that you may be able to join. It is wonderful to have a goup like this that you can talk to at any time . . . but a real time group might be a good partner with this one. a group where you can see people and touch, hug, etc.... just a thought. take care. God bless all of you who have lost a parent - it is one of the hardest most devestating experiences.

06-20-2005, 08:11 AM	#7 (permalink)
na4today Learning as I go Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 731	It's been almost 4 weeks since I lost my dad. This was a very hard Father's Day this year. Death really sucks.

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