Can't seem to write her off. - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

eddie z. · 06-12-2005, 09:43 PM

My best girlfriend of ten years "dumped" me. And that was almost ten years ago! They say it's worse to lose someone if they DON'T die than if they do and I think that must be true because I can't get over the pain. I keep hoping she'll get in touch with me someday. I have dreams about her.

I think her choice to not see me anymore had more to do with her issues than anything I actually did, but I'm on my Ninth Step and I wonder if there's something I need to make amends to her for. Or is that just an excuse to contact her? Did you ever have to ask somebody if you owed them an amends?

I need some kind of resolution here, 'cause I know I've got a big resentment against her. I just don't know how to handle it...Yes, I've talked to my sponsor and I'm sure we'll talk more about it. I wanted to get some feedback here though, too. Thanks!

Love and hugs,
Eddie

splendra · 06-13-2005, 03:04 AM

(((Eddie)))

I had a good friend once that dumped me when I got together with my H. Our kids are still good friends...

I do not know if your ex-friend turned away from you because she changed or you changed. Did ya'll do dope together? Why don't you just call her and ask her what happened you might be surprized to find out what happened from her point of view...good friends aren't real easy to come by and I am sure you know that by now...

eddie z. · 06-13-2005, 07:04 AM

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Originally Posted by splendra

I do not know if your ex-friend turned away from you because she changed or you changed.

Thanks, splendra!! She just crazy, that's all. One mest up chick. We didn't do dope together 'cause I hadn't discovered my DOC by that time, but we did plenty of drinkin'. I think she's the one that changed and she thought that I had not and would not based on a conversation we had in about 1985!! The thing is, if I had known how important it was to her that I did things differently, I WOULD have changed, too. But she decided that it was better if she just moved on.

I have to go for now. Thanks again, splen!
Love and hugs,
Eddie

eddie z. · 06-13-2005, 10:44 PM

Thanks!
-ez

06-12-2005, 09:43 PM	#1 (permalink)
eddie z. No expectations! Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 7,916	Can't seem to write her off. My best girlfriend of ten years "dumped" me. And that was almost ten years ago! They say it's worse to lose someone if they DON'T die than if they do and I think that must be true because I can't get over the pain. I keep hoping she'll get in touch with me someday. I have dreams about her. I think her choice to not see me anymore had more to do with her issues than anything I actually did, but I'm on my Ninth Step and I wonder if there's something I need to make amends to her for. Or is that just an excuse to contact her? Did you ever have to ask somebody if you owed them an amends? I need some kind of resolution here, 'cause I know I've got a big resentment against her. I just don't know how to handle it...Yes, I've talked to my sponsor and I'm sure we'll talk more about it. I wanted to get some feedback here though, too. Thanks! Love and hugs, Eddie __________________

06-13-2005, 03:04 AM	#2 (permalink)
splendra the girl can't help it Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: splendraville Posts: 5,495 Blog Entries: 3	(((Eddie))) I had a good friend once that dumped me when I got together with my H. Our kids are still good friends... I do not know if your ex-friend turned away from you because she changed or you changed. Did ya'll do dope together? Why don't you just call her and ask her what happened you might be surprized to find out what happened from her point of view...good friends aren't real easy to come by and I am sure you know that by now... __________________ nice has a hisssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

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eddie z. No expectations! Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 7,916	Thanks! -ez

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