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04-14-2005, 05:19 AM
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| Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Sydney, NSW, Australia
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| My mate died
I have had such a bad time lately. My best friend & workmate died on 1/2 April. He was an alcoholic & was suppose to go onto combination therapy. I thought he had already started the treatment & read up on Hep C & Cirrohosis of the Liver etc… I was one of his support people. I find out he never started the therapy but he was being treated for substance abuse first, so he was detoxing from painkillers. I believed he was sober for at least 6 months, but I think the withdrawlal treatment & substances he was using contributed to his death. I understand that he most likely overdosed. “He travelled the world & had such a quality of life, he died in his sleep.” That is what ‘they’ at work are to believe & will probably make up gossip. They thought he was a hopeless drunk & struggled to stay sober. Those who truly understand the addict/alcoholic’s life it was more likely an overdose. I am so grateful I have 2 great friends came over who I could talk to & they both understand from a 12 Step point of view. They helped me understand that it is not my responsiblility & that my friend has his own life & choices. No matter how close I felt to this person he still had only one connection & that was with the God of his understanding. I was feeling resentful when I found out he lied about the therapy. But It is also not my business, it was his recovery. I rang my A (whom I’d only told less than a week ago that he could find me when he finds recovery) as he had met this friend & also has Hep C & continues to drink & use. He is still in denial & I found myself getting very straight with him told him I will not agrue with him & that he will not convince me that there is another way. From the words of both these addicts “You don’t abuse yourself for so many years drugging & boozing & come out clean on the otherside of 40 ! Your body just can’t take it & as a result have Hep C, liver damage, mental problems etc…..” also said to me was the belief in the 12 Step programes that saved their life many a time, the program, the people, when they couldn’t find hope a God & others were there time & time again. The best he gave me materially to hold onto is 3 AA Reviver Newsletters. He did give me faith & hope when he introduced me to AA (I have also been a grateful NarAnon member for over 5 years). I dreamt of my friend who gave me a hug to say goodbye. I will miss him & am finding it very hard, I have to take care of myself - I love the support so many people have given me. thanks Love & prayers to all T(focusontoday) |
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04-14-2005, 05:32 AM
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Faith and Hope are a wonderful legacy to be left. May his memories and spirit remain in your heart forever. Hugs Ann
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