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JaySee · 03-05-2005, 01:56 AM

I went to the funeral of a University friend yesterday. He was only thirty (9 years younger than me) but still a good pal. He was first diagnosed with cancer at the age of 19 - so for 11 years he put a good fight against his disease. But the week before last he developed pnemonia and died.

I went to University later in life than most (age 29) and this guy was one of the crowd that were so pivotal in changing my life around at that time. As I'm alcoholic, I've been desperately trying not to turn all this around and focus on ME - but I do feel like some of those precious memories of that time have been plucked away. Is this usual.??

I didn't go to the wake, there were a lot of old buddies there, already making plans for drinking (eg leaving cars, arranging rides and taxis) which is fine, but not for me, as I felt that all that grief and booze would put me in a difficult - but not impossible - situation.

much love
JC

Time2Surrender · 03-05-2005, 02:52 AM

JaySee,Im sorry to hear this.My condolances.There is really nothing Me or anyone else can say.Keep his memory in your heart and be grateful for getting to know your friend.Also,it sounds like skipping the wake was a good idea.Hang in there.

indigo · 03-05-2005, 05:37 AM

Sorry for your loss Jaysee.
hugs indigo

Dan · 03-05-2005, 08:36 AM

Condolences James.
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KelKel · 03-05-2005, 08:49 AM

Oh my Friend

I hurt when you are hurting....
So sorry to hear about your friend...
And yes it is normal to feel "those precious memories of that time have been plucked away."
When my mum and step-dad were killed, they were in between ranches so life as I knew it was suddenly gone, poof up in smoke... sometimes even now, almost 17 yrs later, I feel such a loss that such a big part of my life simply rode off in to the sunset...

Wolfstarr · 03-05-2005, 07:23 PM

I am so sorry for your loss...

I, too lost a good friend several years ago...I find myself thinking of him and then realize he is no longer with me in this life. It is such a loss, I want to talk to him again.

Peace and prayers to you,
Wolfstarr

2dayzmuse · 03-06-2005, 09:38 PM

(((JaySee)))

I'm very sorry for the loss of your friend.

03-05-2005, 01:56 AM	#1 (permalink)
JaySee Choosing Life Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: London Posts: 888	Uni Pal at rest I went to the funeral of a University friend yesterday. He was only thirty (9 years younger than me) but still a good pal. He was first diagnosed with cancer at the age of 19 - so for 11 years he put a good fight against his disease. But the week before last he developed pnemonia and died. I went to University later in life than most (age 29) and this guy was one of the crowd that were so pivotal in changing my life around at that time. As I'm alcoholic, I've been desperately trying not to turn all this around and focus on ME - but I do feel like some of those precious memories of that time have been plucked away. Is this usual.?? I didn't go to the wake, there were a lot of old buddies there, already making plans for drinking (eg leaving cars, arranging rides and taxis) which is fine, but not for me, as I felt that all that grief and booze would put me in a difficult - but not impossible - situation. much love JC __________________ I told these guys I could now drink socially →

03-05-2005, 05:37 AM	#3 (permalink)
indigo Community Greeter Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Mid-Life Express Posts: 9,928	Sorry for your loss Jaysee. hugs indigo __________________ When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself." Namasté

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03-05-2005, 02:52 AM	#2 (permalink)
Time2Surrender Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Washington State Posts: 7,263 Blog Entries: 7	JaySee,Im sorry to hear this.My condolances.There is really nothing Me or anyone else can say.Keep his memory in your heart and be grateful for getting to know your friend.Also,it sounds like skipping the wake was a good idea.Hang in there.

03-05-2005, 08:36 AM	#4 (permalink)
Dan Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 8,710	Condolences James. (...)

03-05-2005, 08:49 AM	#5 (permalink)
KelKel Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: The Mohave Desert Posts: 2,307	Oh my Friend I hurt when you are hurting.... So sorry to hear about your friend... And yes it is normal to feel "those precious memories of that time have been plucked away." When my mum and step-dad were killed, they were in between ranches so life as I knew it was suddenly gone, poof up in smoke... sometimes even now, almost 17 yrs later, I feel such a loss that such a big part of my life simply rode off in to the sunset...

03-05-2005, 07:23 PM	#6 (permalink)
Wolfstarr Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Deeeep South Posts: 767	I am so sorry for your loss... I, too lost a good friend several years ago...I find myself thinking of him and then realize he is no longer with me in this life. It is such a loss, I want to talk to him again. Peace and prayers to you, Wolfstarr

03-06-2005, 09:38 PM	#7 (permalink)
2dayzmuse Paused Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Washington Posts: 5,094	(((JaySee))) I'm very sorry for the loss of your friend.

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