We lost a classmate yesterday

[renee18]

It was really bad yesterday where I live and one of my classmates died in a car crash yesterday. I don't really know him that well but i know his brother. How can we lose someone so young. It was his Senior year he does not even get to graduate in MAy it seems such a big lose and shame. I have his family in my prayers what i christmas present. I can't believe this happened. I guess no matter how close or not close you are to someone when it happened at your school you are numb.
Love,
Shana

[Live]

OOOOO, big big hugs. So tragic, heartbreaking and just plain scary.
Please know we will lift up our prayers, or love thoughts, if you prefer, to send to you, your schoolmates, the family, the teachers.
Be gentle with yourself.
We care.

[jlo34]

Shana,

When I was in 10th grade, we lost a classmate, he was drunk and hit a small tree, instantly killed, his passenger, another classmate of mine had some injuries. I had known these guys for 3+ years. Why do people die? Why do little babies die? Why do young children die?

I believe we're all here for a reason Shana. We are suppose to learn lessons, we are suppose to teach lessons. We are to impact other's lives. How we do this is part of God's plan and I have to think part of our doing. Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to put blame on anyone or anything. I think we are pre-destined for whatever happens to us, that's just what I believe. You have a very important role in your friend's brother. Number one to lend support and help to your friend and his family (they're going to need it). Number two to reflect on your own life, where you are, how happy you are with where you are, what changes (if any) you want/should make, realize how fragile life is. Don't take this or any other day for granted. There are no guarantees when you go to bed you're going to wake up, no guarantees that if you wake up you'll get to go to sleep in your own bed. Enjoy this moment. That's a big lesson. Enjoy this moment, cause you don't know if it's going to be your last. Number three is prayer. Pray not only for the relief of yourself, but also for your classmates and the family, and the one who died. He's in a beautiful place, I have to believe. Don't forget to cry and share your feelings; crying cleanses the soul.
Love you Shana, your in my thoughts and prayers,
Love,
Jen

[renee18]

Thanks guys today for me was worse. I feel so much pain inside of me. I can help but think it could of been me because if I would of cont to go to work and not turn around like i did maybe I would not be here today. This thought is in my head so much right now. I almost went into a ditch yesterday it scared me and then to get the news that a classmate is died two days before Christmas. I just can't stop thinking it could of been me easly and it wasn't but it share scared the hell out of me. I think about it and i just want to cry but it will not come out.
LOve,
Shana

[Alice Wonder]

((((Shana)))) I am so sorry for your loss. It is so hard on those of us left behind. I hope you can start crying and keep crying till you feel better. It always helps to really let it all out. I lost one friend during highschool and another right after graduation. It was really rough on everyone that knew them. I still think about them everyday and put them in my daily chanting and meditation... and it is twenty years later. Thanks for sharing and honoring your friend's life here with all of us. love-alice

[renee18]

Thanks today is a really rough day for me and I have to make the best out of it. I can't even smile Because it hurts so bad. I know it is Christmas Eve but sometimes it is just not happy.
Love,
Shana

[jlo34]

(((((Shana)))))

Just wanted to stop in and let you know I'm thinking about you and still praying for you and your community. It is hard dealing with death and the "what ifs". Truth be known Shana, I should be dead a million times over. When I get in that phase, I think about the people who died (and survived) the WTC tragedy. Why were some of them running late, why did some turn around or go a different way.... Some answers we'll never know, Shana. You are alive, appreciate the day. Give your friend's life a purpose and meaning, you have the chance, choice, and opportunity today to make it a beautiful day and help others realize the beauty life can be. If you're feeling bad and having a hard time, my best antidote has always been to do something outside of myself; volunteering, helping, keeping my mind and my hands busy. Get a support group together for your classmates and you, to vent and heal together. Help pass out Christmas stuff from local charities. Lots of things you can do, and I know for me, the more I keep my mind busy, the less pain I feel. Doesn't take it away, but I feel good, knowing I have helped others feel better and I have done good. My AA sponsor tells me to "find your good". I'll be darned Shana, it works, get outside of yourself. Perfect season to get busy and help!!! Love you and am thinking and praying for you.

Hugs and lots of love,
Jen

[CAPTAINZING2000]

every 24 hours is a gift from god. when you lose someone you realize how importatn each day of life is. sorry for your pain. i look back at all the times it could have been me or, that i didn't kill any one i'm so grateful.


thanks for sharing

chris

[renee18]

Thanks guys. I am doing okay but still very sad but i am doing the best I can I had to work today an dit was hard to just get throught the day but i am still going. Thanks for keeping me and my community in your prayers I think we all need it right now.
LOve,
Shana Merry Christmas.

[jlo34]

Shana,

It will get easier. Time helps to heal the pain. Merry Christmas, sweetie!

Love,
Jen

[renee18]

thanks guys and Merry Christmas to you and your families too. It was a good Christmas but now that I am home I am getting sader because of the classmate and because this is my four Christmas without my grandpa. My heart is broke right now.
Love,
Shana

[ineedmydad]

Hello, I lost so many classmates it awful. I am 26 years old. It's hard to say goodbye I know. The worst was boy I went to school with and his mom was a silent drug taker and she stabbed him 25 times in the chest he was in 6th grade. Then she killed herself in front of her three other kids that went to school with me. Another one of my classmates killed my cousin drunk driving he was crossing the street to get to his mothers car and ended up landing on it dead. I lost my dad Fe. 28, 2004 and my brother is a Senior in High School who we almost lost at birth he had open heart surgery at 3 weeks old. It's tough when your young to understand death. I am still young but I am numb to death now too many people in my life are gone our family is so small now......and everyone of my family members have lost someone real close in the past 5 years and all of them cry all day......to me. I never know what to say because I am in the same position....God Bless you and everyone around you.

i know how it feels,
Thanks,
ineedmydad