Really sad today

[twitch]

I'm new here and glad I found the site. My girlfriend of 5 1/2 years passed away late Feb. 2012 and it's been really hard. The last 9 days I've been sober and it has been really good, but so sad today I miss her so much. She died of a heart attack at age 43.

[Opivotal]

I'm so sorry twitch. Losing someone you love is hard to go through. My sincere condolences.

I'm sure she's proud of you for 9 days sober. When I lost my Mom ...I drank even more. It didn't bring her back and made my grief worse. Being sober is what she would have wanted.

Have you considered grief counseling?




Best Wishes To You!

[Katyrose]

Twitch, I'm so sorry for your loss. It will take time for your grief to soften. Staying sober will help you heal. Alcohol or drugs only make things worse in the end.

Katy

[twitch]

I am in grief counselling which has helped. The alcohol just made me numb to everything and was just prolonging the grief process, not to mention would have put me in an early grave.

Originally Posted by opivotal

I'm so sorry twitch. Losing someone you love is hard to go through. My sincere condolences.

I'm sure she's proud of you for 9 days sober. When I lost my Mom ...I drank even more. It didn't bring her back and made my grief worse. Being sober is what she would have wanted.

Have you considered grief counseling?




Best Wishes To You!

[wellwisher]

I understand what you are saying, twitch. I lost family members when they were so young and I spent so much time asking why and drinking away the pain.

Kudos to you for recognizing that drinking will only prolong the pain, because what I experienced when I first got sober was that I had to go through all the grieving again (but this time in the right way). I know it is tough to get through, but the way out is to go through.

Sending good thoughts your way...all my best

[NTurn]

I am sorry to hear of your loss..stay strong & look after yourself. Time is a good healer so be gentle with yourself & give it time to allow yourself to grieve
Thoughts & prayers from me

[Impurrfect]

(((Twitch))) - I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm very glad you realize that drinking would only prolong the pain and that you are going to grief counseling.

Hugs and prayers,

Amy

[Mavis1]

dear twitch, I feel for you, I have gone thru the same thing and it does hurt but somehow I got thru it these past 10 months, not easy at times, I cry then I feel better, then I cry then I feel better and it's gradually getting better and I'm seeing that my poor sweet dear alcoholic didn't die in vane, I miss him as you miss your girlfriend, it does get better sweetie, you have to beleive it. I got counseling and support from friends and it helps. I write here and continue to carry on his memory - not as the falling down drunk but as the healthy happy active loving father/husband he once was. please always remember her in a good light, forget guilt and blame, forget all the negative times and just remember the good ones and take it a day at a time. grief is a funny thing, it creeps in and wants to stay there. it's only been a short time for you, take it a moment at at ime, stay busy, get your rest and exercise if you can. all this and any hobbies you enjoy, do it, just do the things you love until you are a happy person again, and beleive me, you will be a happy person again. this too shall pass. pray for her if you do pray, write her a letter and place it on her grave, i did these things and more and it helped me tremendously, she is not in any pain or suffering anymore, now you are, it's just not fair is it?

we are here for you, m

[Mavis1]

I'm so sorry for your loss, how tragic...'m glad you're taking care of yourself, dealing with the feelings sober is so much different then not dealing with them and being high. it only prolongs the inevitable, don' tstuff the feelings, get them out, cry when you need to. I went thru this last june, coming up on a year and all the feelings for me are coming back. it takes time but you'll be okay. we re all here for you . m

[MsPINKAcres]

adding my prayers of comfort for you in the loss of your loved one ~

PINK HUGS,
Rita

[Aarontg88]

Sorry to hear about your loss an its never easy to lose someone I lost my mother when I was 14 due to drug overdose and I found her on the couch it hurt me for many years... This was bak in 2001 but it's best to remember all the good times you all had and learn this this life we live and we die. You don't have to let go but you should understand ur gurl is watching over you and she wants to to keep living life don't stay down an out.