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wpasierb · 11-06-2011, 06:55 AM

My husband died from cirrhosis and kidney failure on Friday, November 4th at 5:00 am. I don't know what I am goint to do without him. I don't think I have ever felt a pain this bad and I feel like I can't breathe right now it hurts so bad. Is is ever going to get better or will I feel like this forever?

Katyrose · 11-06-2011, 07:21 AM

wpasierb, your grief will soften through the years. I lost my only son to addictions 3 years and 2 months ago...every day is a struggle, but I go on for my family. I will never be the same, but life goes on, and I am able to enjoy some things again. I don't know if you have any addictions, but I just have to say that it's important that you stay sober...drinking only makes it worse, and you will never even begin to heal if you drink or do drugs.

Sending prayers and healing energy your way. I am sorry for your loss.

xoxo,
Katy

**MsPINKAcres** · 11-08-2011, 11:13 AM

((wpasierb))

Please accept my heartfelt sympathy for the loss of your husband - sending out thoughts & prayers of comfort and peace for you and all who loved him.

Pink Hugs,
Rita

chicory · 11-13-2011, 04:42 PM

I am so very sorry. I hope that you have some family that you can be with , when you feel you want to. I can't find any words to be helpful, except I am so sorry that he lost his life this way, and that you lost someone you loved so much. That must have been so very hard.

you are in my thoughts and prayers,
chicory

Lenina · 11-13-2011, 04:57 PM

so sorry for your loss. My husband died over 25 years ago. It does get better in time. If you can, look into getting a bereavement couselor. That helped me so much. You might check your local hospital social services department for a referral. Also, this book might help you. I think the title was Widow to Widow, A Handbook.

Love,

Lenina

wellnowwhat · 11-13-2011, 06:07 PM

So very sorry to hear of your loss. Sending kind thoughts to you and yours.

***Hevyn*** · 11-13-2011, 06:54 PM

I'm glad you posted how you're feeling. I'm so sorry you lost your husband & that your life's been turned upside down.

The pain will ease up eventually, and you'll learn to live again in a new way. Nothing will be quite the same, but you'll be happy and have hope again. Prayers going up for you to be comforted.

Mavis1 · 11-18-2011, 10:44 AM

Hi I too lost my husband this past summer to causes related to alcoholism. He was 56 years old. I miss him every day and I some days still don't think I"ll ever get over this or thru this or whatever, it's the hardest thing I've ever gone thru and I just wanted to share with you that there is hope, always have hope for yourself, some days it's terrible but I just let myself cry and cry and then I feel a little better. I often times sleep with an old tshirt of his he was found in. I just can't seem to let go. I am sure none of what I am saying is of much help but I just needed to reach out to you to let you know you are not alone that there are others on here as well that have gone thru this and are still here. you are in the right place honey. go seek counseling, go to a grief support group, talk to people, friends/family, don't stop talking, feel your grief sweetie, it will get better one day at a time. you have to have hope and to believe that. please write me anytime you need to I'll be here...Bless you all and know I feel your pain. hang on, just hang on and breathe...m

FoundmySelf · 11-18-2011, 03:36 PM

((((hugs))) I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my first husband almost 16 years ago... my heart goes out to you... you will be in my thoughts and prayers

BigJim · 11-18-2011, 03:47 PM

My deepest condolences.

**Ann** · 11-18-2011, 04:03 PM

My condolences too, and my prayers for you and all who loved him.

milo88 · 11-18-2011, 10:50 PM

So sorry for your loss. We were separated when my ex died 2 1/2 years ago but i still loved him and it has been so hard since he died.
I bought myself a ring the other day and had "Courage" inscribed on the back of it to remind me. I need that!
I wish you healing and courage also. It's hard to keep going when the one you wanted to share the world with has gone. Many hugs xxxx

ronf · 11-19-2011, 04:54 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my wife last June, so I'm not that far ahead of you. I can tell you it does get better! Nothing will ever be the same for you,but like me you will find a "new normal".

Your friend, Ron

micealc · 11-20-2011, 11:16 AM

Condolences...He is just out of sight for a short while.
Someday we will all be in a place where the is no more Addictions,Pain,Sorrow,or death.

aussieblue · 11-20-2011, 02:43 PM

So very sorry for your loss.

fourmaggie · 11-21-2011, 05:18 PM

sorry for your loss....

this takes alot of patience...please feel what you feel, its all normal...i have been there, now going on 10 years...its lessen with pain...but the memories all still are all there

**CatsPajamas** · 11-23-2011, 05:33 AM

I am so very sorry for your loss. Prayers for comfort and peace for you and all who loved him.

sampar · 11-23-2011, 11:04 AM

wpasierb
My sympathies for your loss, condolences to you & yours , youre in my thoughts & prayers .

11-06-2011, 06:55 AM	#1 (permalink)
wpasierb Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Tucson, AZ Posts: 40	My husband died My husband died from cirrhosis and kidney failure on Friday, November 4th at 5:00 am. I don't know what I am goint to do without him. I don't think I have ever felt a pain this bad and I feel like I can't breathe right now it hurts so bad. Is is ever going to get better or will I feel like this forever?

11-08-2011, 11:13 AM	#3 (permalink)
MsPINKAcres Living in a Pinkful Place Join Date: May 2006 Location: Louisiana Posts: 7,002	((wpasierb)) Please accept my heartfelt sympathy for the loss of your husband - sending out thoughts & prayers of comfort and peace for you and all who loved him. Pink Hugs, Rita __________________ ". . . let the understanding, love and peace of the program grow in you One Day at a Time." From the Al-Anon Suggested Closing It is very difficult to have a pity party when celebrating all the gratitude I have in my life!

11-13-2011, 06:54 PM	#7 (permalink)
*Hevyn* Learning to live again Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Upstate New York Posts: 11,103	I'm glad you posted how you're feeling. I'm so sorry you lost your husband & that your life's been turned upside down. The pain will ease up eventually, and you'll learn to live again in a new way. Nothing will be quite the same, but you'll be happy and have hope again. Prayers going up for you to be comforted. __________________ You are so much more than the worst thing you've ever done. - Fr. Gregory Boyle, Homeboy Industries Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it well and serenely, and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense. - Emerson

11-18-2011, 03:36 PM	#9 (permalink)
FoundmySelf Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 113	((((hugs))) I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my first husband almost 16 years ago... my heart goes out to you... you will be in my thoughts and prayers __________________ God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Use to be Lost4Now... but FoundmySelf and shall never be Lost again!!

11-18-2011, 04:03 PM	#11 (permalink)
Ann Forum Leader Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: By The Lake Posts: 29,838	My condolences too, and my prayers for you and all who loved him. __________________ Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sunset sky. ~Tagore

11-06-2011, 07:21 AM	#2 (permalink)
Katyrose Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: MA Posts: 121	wpasierb, your grief will soften through the years. I lost my only son to addictions 3 years and 2 months ago...every day is a struggle, but I go on for my family. I will never be the same, but life goes on, and I am able to enjoy some things again. I don't know if you have any addictions, but I just have to say that it's important that you stay sober...drinking only makes it worse, and you will never even begin to heal if you drink or do drugs. Sending prayers and healing energy your way. I am sorry for your loss. xoxo, Katy

11-13-2011, 04:42 PM	#4 (permalink)
chicory Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: ohio usa Posts: 4,208	I am so very sorry. I hope that you have some family that you can be with , when you feel you want to. I can't find any words to be helpful, except I am so sorry that he lost his life this way, and that you lost someone you loved so much. That must have been so very hard. you are in my thoughts and prayers, chicory

11-13-2011, 04:57 PM	#5 (permalink)
Lenina Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Los Angeles, California Posts: 4,350	so sorry for your loss. My husband died over 25 years ago. It does get better in time. If you can, look into getting a bereavement couselor. That helped me so much. You might check your local hospital social services department for a referral. Also, this book might help you. I think the title was Widow to Widow, A Handbook. Love, Lenina

11-13-2011, 06:07 PM	#6 (permalink)
wellnowwhat Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 544	So very sorry to hear of your loss. Sending kind thoughts to you and yours.

11-18-2011, 10:44 AM	#8 (permalink)
Mavis1 Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Leominster, Ma Posts: 119	Hi I too lost my husband this past summer to causes related to alcoholism. He was 56 years old. I miss him every day and I some days still don't think I"ll ever get over this or thru this or whatever, it's the hardest thing I've ever gone thru and I just wanted to share with you that there is hope, always have hope for yourself, some days it's terrible but I just let myself cry and cry and then I feel a little better. I often times sleep with an old tshirt of his he was found in. I just can't seem to let go. I am sure none of what I am saying is of much help but I just needed to reach out to you to let you know you are not alone that there are others on here as well that have gone thru this and are still here. you are in the right place honey. go seek counseling, go to a grief support group, talk to people, friends/family, don't stop talking, feel your grief sweetie, it will get better one day at a time. you have to have hope and to believe that. please write me anytime you need to I'll be here...Bless you all and know I feel your pain. hang on, just hang on and breathe...m

11-18-2011, 03:47 PM	#10 (permalink)
BigJim Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 46	My deepest condolences.

11-18-2011, 10:50 PM	#12 (permalink)
milo88 Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 157	So sorry for your loss. We were separated when my ex died 2 1/2 years ago but i still loved him and it has been so hard since he died. I bought myself a ring the other day and had "Courage" inscribed on the back of it to remind me. I need that! I wish you healing and courage also. It's hard to keep going when the one you wanted to share the world with has gone. Many hugs xxxx

11-19-2011, 04:54 AM	#13 (permalink)
ronf Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: des moines ia Posts: 267	I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my wife last June, so I'm not that far ahead of you. I can tell you it does get better! Nothing will ever be the same for you,but like me you will find a "new normal". Your friend, Ron __________________ If Life made sense, men would ride sidesaddle

11-20-2011, 11:16 AM	#14 (permalink)
micealc Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Irish Posts: 486	Condolences...He is just out of sight for a short while. Someday we will all be in a place where the is no more Addictions,Pain,Sorrow,or death. __________________ If we cannot say NO, then our YES is meaningless. Fear knocked at the door,Faith answered,There was no one there. God, if I can’t have what I want, let me want what I have.

11-20-2011, 02:43 PM	#15 (permalink)
aussieblue Member 7up Pinball Champion! Pepsi Max Pinball Champion! Crazy PinBall Champion! Jurassic Pinball Champion! Pinball Champion! Snow Pinball 2 Champion! Glops:Bombomb Champion! Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 1,532	So very sorry for your loss. __________________ "There is a crack in everything thats how the light gets in " Leonard Cohen.

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11-21-2011, 05:18 PM	#16 (permalink)
fourmaggie I AM CANADIAN Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: a little city called THOROLD, ONTARIO Posts: 2,270 Blog Entries: 44	sorry for your loss.... this takes alot of patience...please feel what you feel, its all normal...i have been there, now going on 10 years...its lessen with pain...but the memories all still are all there __________________ ~~Just for today i will have a program. I may not follow it exactly, but i will have it~~JUST FOR TODAY ~~If nothing ever changed, there would be no BUTTERFLIES~~ANONYMOUS

11-23-2011, 05:33 AM	#17 (permalink)
CatsPajamas Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: In my little piece of heaven Posts: 3,064	I am so very sorry for your loss. Prayers for comfort and peace for you and all who loved him. __________________ What other people think of me is really none of my business!

11-23-2011, 11:04 AM	#18 (permalink)
sampar Right Where I am Suppose to be Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: ireland Posts: 384	wpasierb My sympathies for your loss, condolences to you & yours , youre in my thoughts & prayers . __________________ if your standing with one leg in yesterday & one leg in tomorrow , you're peeing on today :p