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|11-06-2011, 06:55 AM||#1 (permalink)|
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Tucson, AZ
My husband died
My husband died from cirrhosis and kidney failure on Friday, November 4th at 5:00 am. I don't know what I am goint to do without him. I don't think I have ever felt a pain this bad and I feel like I can't breathe right now it hurts so bad. Is is ever going to get better or will I feel like this forever?
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|11-06-2011, 07:21 AM||#2 (permalink)|
Join Date: Dec 2008
wpasierb, your grief will soften through the years. I lost my only son to addictions 3 years and 2 months ago...every day is a struggle, but I go on for my family. I will never be the same, but life goes on, and I am able to enjoy some things again. I don't know if you have any addictions, but I just have to say that it's important that you stay sober...drinking only makes it worse, and you will never even begin to heal if you drink or do drugs.
Sending prayers and healing energy your way. I am sorry for your loss.
|11-08-2011, 11:13 AM||#3 (permalink)|
Living in a Pinkful Place
Join Date: May 2006
Please accept my heartfelt sympathy for the loss of your husband - sending out thoughts & prayers of comfort and peace for you and all who loved him.
". . . let the understanding, love and peace of the program grow in you One Day at a Time." From the Al-Anon Suggested Closing
It is very difficult to have a pity party when celebrating all the gratitude I have in my life!
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|11-13-2011, 04:42 PM||#4 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: ohio usa
I am so very sorry. I hope that you have some family that you can be with , when you feel you want to. I can't find any words to be helpful, except I am so sorry that he lost his life this way, and that you lost someone you loved so much. That must have been so very hard.
you are in my thoughts and prayers,
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|11-13-2011, 04:57 PM||#5 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: Los Angeles, California
so sorry for your loss. My husband died over 25 years ago. It does get better in time. If you can, look into getting a bereavement couselor. That helped me so much. You might check your local hospital social services department for a referral. Also, this book might help you. I think the title was Widow to Widow, A Handbook.
|11-13-2011, 06:54 PM||#7 (permalink)|
Learning to live again
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Upstate New York
I'm glad you posted how you're feeling. I'm so sorry you lost your husband & that your life's been turned upside down.
The pain will ease up eventually, and you'll learn to live again in a new way. Nothing will be quite the same, but you'll be happy and have hope again. Prayers going up for you to be comforted.
You are so much more than the worst thing you've
ever done. - Fr. Gregory Boyle, Homeboy Industries
Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it well and serenely, and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense. - Emerson
|11-18-2011, 10:44 AM||#8 (permalink)|
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Leominster, Ma
Hi I too lost my husband this past summer to causes related to alcoholism. He was 56 years old. I miss him every day and I some days still don't think I"ll ever get over this or thru this or whatever, it's the hardest thing I've ever gone thru and I just wanted to share with you that there is hope, always have hope for yourself, some days it's terrible but I just let myself cry and cry and then I feel a little better. I often times sleep with an old tshirt of his he was found in. I just can't seem to let go. I am sure none of what I am saying is of much help but I just needed to reach out to you to let you know you are not alone that there are others on here as well that have gone thru this and are still here. you are in the right place honey. go seek counseling, go to a grief support group, talk to people, friends/family, don't stop talking, feel your grief sweetie, it will get better one day at a time. you have to have hope and to believe that. please write me anytime you need to I'll be here...Bless you all and know I feel your pain. hang on, just hang on and breathe...m
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|11-18-2011, 03:36 PM||#9 (permalink)|
Join Date: Aug 2011
((((hugs))) I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my first husband almost 16 years ago... my heart goes out to you... you will be in my thoughts and prayers
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Use to be Lost4Now... but FoundmySelf and shall never be Lost again!!
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|11-18-2011, 04:03 PM||#11 (permalink)|
Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: By The Lake
My condolences too, and my prayers for you and all who loved him.
Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sunset sky.
|11-18-2011, 10:50 PM||#12 (permalink)|
Join Date: Aug 2010
So sorry for your loss. We were separated when my ex died 2 1/2 years ago but i still loved him and it has been so hard since he died.
I bought myself a ring the other day and had "Courage" inscribed on the back of it to remind me. I need that!
I wish you healing and courage also. It's hard to keep going when the one you wanted to share the world with has gone. Many hugs xxxx
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|11-19-2011, 04:54 AM||#13 (permalink)|
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: des moines ia
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my wife last June, so I'm not that far ahead of you. I can tell you it does get better! Nothing will ever be the same for you,but like me you will find a "new normal".
Your friend, Ron
If Life made sense, men would ride sidesaddle
|11-20-2011, 11:16 AM||#14 (permalink)|
Join Date: Feb 2011
Condolences...He is just out of sight for a short while.
Someday we will all be in a place where the is no more Addictions,Pain,Sorrow,or death.
If we cannot say NO, then our YES is meaningless.
Fear knocked at the door,Faith answered,There was no one there.
God, if I canít have what I want, let me want what I have.
|11-21-2011, 05:18 PM||#16 (permalink)|
I AM CANADIAN
Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: a little city called THOROLD, ONTARIO
Blog Entries: 44
sorry for your loss....
this takes alot of patience...please feel what you feel, its all normal...i have been there, now going on 10 years...its lessen with pain...but the memories all still are all there
~~Just for today i will have a program. I may not follow it exactly, but i will have it~~JUST FOR TODAY
~~If nothing ever changed, there would be no BUTTERFLIES~~ANONYMOUS
|11-23-2011, 11:04 AM||#18 (permalink)|
Right Where I am Suppose to be
Join Date: Mar 2009
My sympathies for your loss, condolences to you & yours , youre in my thoughts & prayers .
if your standing with one leg in yesterday & one leg in tomorrow , you're peeing on today :p
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