the slime is coming out

[Insulated]

my fiance' overdosed at thanksgiving. i'm really having a bad go of the whole male gender thing. both my exes cheated. my father, stepfather, grandfather, fiance'. all of them unfaithful.

first, new years day my deceased fiance's best friend (also a user) asked me if i got lucky. my response was excuse me? he said you know what I mean. did you get laid? my response was that i have a different philosophy of casual sex and my moral compass is set differently, not to mention it's only been 7 weeks and i'd feel guilty. Then i wrapped up the convo with i have at least one year of HIV and Hep C testing b/c fiance' was an iv user and promiscuous not using protection. (yeah, hindsight is 20/20!)

today, a man that knows i'm dealing with crap offers to fix ALL the physical damage to my car caused by deceased fiance' if I 1) keep it on the lowdown and not let his ol'lady know 2) if he calls, meet up with him 3) he'll make it worth my while, he can promise me that. All this with his "ol'lady" not 15 feet from me!

I'm going into a cave and not coming out until I need to be buried.

[Spiritual Seeker]

We can choose to be with people of integrity.

Those w/o it we need not take their comments personally or engage with them.
Sounds like you are doing a good job of keeping the riff-raff at arm's length these days.

Sorry for you loss. Good that you are taking all the time you need for grief and recovery.