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NickA090609 · 10-24-2009, 10:32 PM

Hey everyone! I'm glad to be sober and a new member. I would like to share somethings that has been driving me crazy. I was with this girl for three years. She never used or drank and was a Christian. I took her virginity and we lived together with a dog and the whole nine yards. I always lied to her about drugs because she hated them. I really really loved this girl I even Asked her to marry me twice and she said no becuase I needed to get clean for 6 months first.. Well finally I came home to a dear John letter and everything gone. So I went to rehab to get her back. The whole time in rehab she was calling texting and saying we loved each other before bed even though we were technically friends, I honestly thought things were getting better.. When I get back from rehab she leaves me for good not only two weeks later.. I never relapsed or ajything and she was really proud of me.. What's driving me crazy is that she said that we grew apart a long time ago and that we are not meant for each other and that I don't need her anymore, to make things worse she already has a new boy friend and is living with him and stuff not even 3 months after.. I'm crushed and I can never get passed my step 4. I always stop at it. I bet she has a lot to do with it.. I need help my sponsor just isn't doing it. Any support would he appreciated. Thanks and god bless!

**CatsPajamas** · 10-25-2009, 08:36 AM

Hi Nick, and welcome to SR. I'm sure you will find a lot of support from others who have gone thru this. Although, this particular forum might not be the right one for you as it deals primarily with grief/death.

You might want to post your thread in one of our other forums, perhaps in the NA forum. You'll find a lot of people who have had similar situations with the loss of a relationship while in treatment.

Good luck to you. I'm sure you'll find the help you're looking for to get past this. Congrats on dealing with it without relapsing!

Cats
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NickA090609 · 10-25-2009, 08:52 AM

Thank you.. I'll do that

10-24-2009, 10:32 PM	#1 (permalink)
NickA090609 Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Indianapolis IN Posts: 7	She's gone now Hey everyone! I'm glad to be sober and a new member. I would like to share somethings that has been driving me crazy. I was with this girl for three years. She never used or drank and was a Christian. I took her virginity and we lived together with a dog and the whole nine yards. I always lied to her about drugs because she hated them. I really really loved this girl I even Asked her to marry me twice and she said no becuase I needed to get clean for 6 months first.. Well finally I came home to a dear John letter and everything gone. So I went to rehab to get her back. The whole time in rehab she was calling texting and saying we loved each other before bed even though we were technically friends, I honestly thought things were getting better.. When I get back from rehab she leaves me for good not only two weeks later.. I never relapsed or ajything and she was really proud of me.. What's driving me crazy is that she said that we grew apart a long time ago and that we are not meant for each other and that I don't need her anymore, to make things worse she already has a new boy friend and is living with him and stuff not even 3 months after.. I'm crushed and I can never get passed my step 4. I always stop at it. I bet she has a lot to do with it.. I need help my sponsor just isn't doing it. Any support would he appreciated. Thanks and god bless!

10-25-2009, 08:36 AM	#2 (permalink)
CatsPajamas Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Trudging Posts: 2,448	Hi Nick, and welcome to SR. I'm sure you will find a lot of support from others who have gone thru this. Although, this particular forum might not be the right one for you as it deals primarily with grief/death. You might want to post your thread in one of our other forums, perhaps in the NA forum. You'll find a lot of people who have had similar situations with the loss of a relationship while in treatment. Good luck to you. I'm sure you'll find the help you're looking for to get past this. Congrats on dealing with it without relapsing! Cats Forum Mod __________________ *"Recovery is about learning to live life on life's terms....and still being tickled pink to be alive each day." ~~ Ann*

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10-25-2009, 08:52 AM	#3 (permalink)
NickA090609 Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Indianapolis IN Posts: 7	Thank you.. I'll do that

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