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[penny74]

Tomorrow ( the 9th) my son Jordi would have turned 28.
He died 4 weeks before his 6th birthday.
After a while l went to a support group.
There was a lady who told me that it was 25 years ago that her child had died.
l remember thinking "how odd.. after 25 years still grieving and still needing help..l won't let this destry me like it is this lady " .
Now.. after 22 years l still need help.
Almost drank myself to death.
Not a day, go's by without feeling what l have lost. It hurts.
It will never go away, even if l live to 100.

[Katyrose]

Dear Penny,

Hugs and prayers to you. I lost my only son a year ago to a drug OD. I can't imagine that I will ever get over it either. My heart is broken in a million pieces...shattered.

How does a mother get over losing her child? Impossible to do.

Love and peace,
Joey's mum
Katy

[Wolfstarr]

Loss is something we never "get over"
We can accept
We can become accustomed
We can feel less "numb"
We can go on without
We live on.
The loved one is and always will be a part of us. We do not have to let them go. We need a healthy relationship with them, as we are alive and they are in another plane.
How do we do that? Here is a poem that sums it up:

“Death is nothing at all. It does not count. I have only slipped away into the next room. Nothing has happened. Everything remains exactly as it was. I am I, and you are you, and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged. Whatever we were to each other, that we are still. Call me by the old familiar name. Speak of me in the easy way which you always used. Put no difference into your tone. Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be ever the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was. There is absolute and unbroken continuity. What is this death but a negligible accident? Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight? I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just round the corner. All is well."

Henry Scott Holland


My hearfelt blessings to you both and any dear person that has lost a child or loved one....Peace to you all.

[TakingCharge999]

penny I find solace knowing the ones that I have loved and lost by death, or alcohol, are just somewhere else temporarily..and I will see them again one day and we will be together just as we were before.

Meanwhile I need to be strong so they are proud of me when I see them again...
I hope you find peace and know your dear child is watching over your shoulder every moment and wants to see you ok.

HUGS from Mexico.