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windysan · 03-31-2009, 06:30 PM

to the cemetery yet. it's been many years for my pop and a couple for my little bro. damn.

mywifeisatpeace · 04-01-2009, 06:37 AM

the time when you can go to the cemetary will be a great healing also. you haven't come to terms with it yet fully. you will probably feel sad at first but you will feel better after. it gets easier.

splendra · 04-01-2009, 07:03 AM

I did not go to my dad's grave for 26 years. My son wanted to go a see it so I took him. It was good it bought back many memories. I am constantly amazed at how much courage my son has given me.

least · 04-01-2009, 10:57 AM

Would it help if you went with a good friend or other family member? Is there a particular reason why you havent' gone yet? Could you write a letter to your dad and brother about how you feel? Maybe write them a letter and leave it at the cemetery. I'm sorry you're feeling badly but I understand how you could feel that way.

Rebecca4 · 04-03-2009, 02:56 PM

What is the worst thing that could happen?

mikefreak · 04-05-2009, 02:59 PM

I pay my friends a visit when the seasons change. I bring my flowers, give my respects, then GET OUT OF THERE. I'm at the age where I can't go to the cemetary without stumbling over someone's tombstone that I knew. It's going on 12 years for my bro, 6 for my sis, & it's like talking to a rock at this point in time. Talk about drinking triggers! WS, when your'e ready to go back ,YOU'LL KNOW.

03-31-2009, 06:30 PM	#1 (permalink)
windysan Big Idiot Man Child Join Date: May 2004 Location: La Posts: 4,943	I still haven't got the guts to go to the cemetery yet. it's been many years for my pop and a couple for my little bro. damn. __________________ ZigZaggin through Weirdland

04-01-2009, 06:37 AM	#2 (permalink)
mywifeisatpeace Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: southbridge Posts: 151	the time when you can go to the cemetary will be a great healing also. you haven't come to terms with it yet fully. you will probably feel sad at first but you will feel better after. it gets easier. __________________ I always liked superman... his reaction is the way I feel.

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splendra the girl can't help it Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: splendraville Posts: 5,400 Blog Entries: 3	I did not go to my dad's grave for 26 years. My son wanted to go a see it so I took him. It was good it bought back many memories. I am constantly amazed at how much courage my son has given me. __________________ nice has a hisssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

04-01-2009, 10:57 AM	#4 (permalink)
least recovering Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: eastern USA Posts: 9,946 Blog Entries: 14	Would it help if you went with a good friend or other family member? Is there a particular reason why you havent' gone yet? Could you write a letter to your dad and brother about how you feel? Maybe write them a letter and leave it at the cemetery. I'm sorry you're feeling badly but I understand how you could feel that way. __________________ I'd rather live in my van with my dogs than live in a mansion without them. Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole. Plus que je connais les hommes, plus j'aime mon chien. (The more I know mankind, the more I love my dog)

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04-03-2009, 02:56 PM	#5 (permalink)
Rebecca4 Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 111	What is the worst thing that could happen?

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mikefreak Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: New Mexico Posts: 334 Blog Entries: 5	I pay my friends a visit when the seasons change. I bring my flowers, give my respects, then GET OUT OF THERE. I'm at the age where I can't go to the cemetary without stumbling over someone's tombstone that I knew. It's going on 12 years for my bro, 6 for my sis, & it's like talking to a rock at this point in time. Talk about drinking triggers! WS, when your'e ready to go back ,YOU'LL KNOW.

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