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deedee · 02-02-2009, 10:27 AM

Just for today I will try to live through the next 24 hours and not expect to get over my child’s death, but instead learn to live with it, just one day at a time.

Just for today I will remember my child’s life, not just his death, and bask in the comfort of all those treasured days and moments we shared.

Just for today I will forgive all the family and friends who didn’t help or comfort me the way I needed them to. They truly did not know how.

Just for today I will smile no matter how much I hurt on the inside, for maybe if I smile a little, my heart will soften and I will begin to heal.

Just for today I will reach out to comfort a relative or friend of my child, for they are hurting too, and perhaps we can help each other.

Just for today I will free myself from my self-inflicted burden of guilt, for deep in my heart I know if there was anything in this world I could have done to save my child from death, I would have done it.

Just for today I will honor my child’s memory by doing something with another child because I know that would make my own child proud.

Just for today I will offer my hand in friendship to another bereaved parent for I do know how they feel.

Just for today when my heart feels like breaking, I will stop and remember that grief is the price we pay for loving and the only reason I hurt is because I had the privilege of loving so much.

Just for today I will not compare myself with others. I am fortunate to be who I am and have had my child for as long as I did.

Just for today I will allow myself to be happy, for I know that I am not deserting him by living on.

Just for today I will accept that I did not die when my child did, my life did go on, and I am the only one who can make that life worthwhile once more.

~ written by Vicki Tushingham ~

In Memory of Jason - 6/28/77 ~ 2/2/05

lostwithin · 02-02-2009, 03:03 PM

Wow that is beautiful can I save it ? My daughter took the journey 2 1/2 years ago.

Thanks
Lostwithin

Maggiemac · 02-26-2009, 03:48 PM

Thanks so much that was so moving. I lost my son 11-19-08, That is how my heart feels grief is so heavy.

Thanks
Maggiemac

***Morning Glory*** · 02-28-2009, 04:11 PM

Thank you deedee.

Hugs and prayers for all.

Maggiemac · 03-13-2009, 05:35 PM

Dee Dee I come and read your post a couple of times a week I love it so. Thanks again for posting it.
A friend,
Maggiemac

deedee · 03-15-2009, 02:48 PM

I'm glad it brings you comfort (((maggie))) ... I think it describes so fittingly a mother's grief and journey through the pain. I posted it on the 4th anniversary of my son's death. For so long, the only way I could survive was a day at a time. Today I feel a peace I wouldn't have known without recovery and acceptance, even though I love and miss my child every single day.

Prayers of comfort and healing to you and all who know this pain.

~ deedee

IO Storm · 03-17-2009, 11:51 PM

Dee Dee and all..

Rusty Zipper · 03-19-2009, 05:10 AM

{{{miss deedee}}}

FreeBird09 · 05-03-2009, 05:17 PM

deedee, thank you for this. I lost my only daughter and my first grandson in a tragic car accident 2/1/08. My heart is bleeding every second of the day. I lean on my faith to get me through.

Angelic17 · 05-03-2009, 06:40 PM

This is so beautiful Deedee. It is important to let your self heal. The love you have for your child never dies. That will last into eternity. Thank You for posting this, and sharing it with all of us. I am so sorry about the loss of your son. My heart goes out to you.

Maggiemac · 05-05-2009, 12:38 PM

Just dropped in to read this again. I gives me some relief is my sorrow.

your friend,
Maggiemac

Gman5150 · 08-01-2009, 12:45 PM

Thank you i needed that today, i miss you joshua.12/31/88 - 6/12/2004

Believe808 · 08-01-2009, 01:11 PM

My heart hurts and cries for all of you who have lost a child.

abcdefg · 10-19-2009, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by deedee

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Just for today when my heart feels like breaking, I will stop and remember that grief is the price we pay for loving and the only reason I hurt is because I had the privilege of loving so much.

I said this often for years after my little girl died. I had to cry every single tear that I had for her -- still do, only mercifully not as frequently -- and there have been many because that well is deep.

Oh, how I wish I had seen this Just for Today back then. What a gift of a post. I appreciate reading it even six years after her death.

utopia · 01-27-2010, 06:51 PM

a close friend of mine just lost her son to suicide. we pray to remain thankful for life, to keep invested in faith and to be filled with loving kindness for ourselves and all that we do. we pray that just for today, our higher power will grant us peace and solace while we hurt. peace be with us all.

endzoner · 01-27-2010, 07:37 PM

Thank you Dee Dee , what a touching poem. I lost my daughter at the age of 4 days , this March she would be 6 . this time of yr is tuff on me . ~ huggles to all the moms ~

Maggiemac · 04-01-2010, 09:46 AM

Just needed to stop by and read this just one more time.
Thanks DEE

Maggiemac

recoveringfaith · 05-12-2010, 06:07 PM

{{{hugs}}}

Chenowth · 08-09-2010, 04:46 PM

DeeDee,

Thank you so much for this post! It is just what I needed today. We lost our daughter on June 19, 2010. Today, is my mom's birthday who left us 12 years ago, so I was feeling a little blue.

Hugs!
Candy

stefanie · 08-20-2010, 07:17 AM

Deedee,
Thank you so much for this post. I lost my 23 year old son to a heroin overdose in June. This post is very helpful.
hugs, Stef

02-02-2009, 10:27 AM	#1 (permalink)
deedee Member Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Faith~Hope~Love Posts: 935	Just for Today - Loss of Child Just for today I will try to live through the next 24 hours and not expect to get over my child’s death, but instead learn to live with it, just one day at a time. Just for today I will remember my child’s life, not just his death, and bask in the comfort of all those treasured days and moments we shared. Just for today I will forgive all the family and friends who didn’t help or comfort me the way I needed them to. They truly did not know how. Just for today I will smile no matter how much I hurt on the inside, for maybe if I smile a little, my heart will soften and I will begin to heal. Just for today I will reach out to comfort a relative or friend of my child, for they are hurting too, and perhaps we can help each other. Just for today I will free myself from my self-inflicted burden of guilt, for deep in my heart I know if there was anything in this world I could have done to save my child from death, I would have done it. Just for today I will honor my child’s memory by doing something with another child because I know that would make my own child proud. Just for today I will offer my hand in friendship to another bereaved parent for I do know how they feel. Just for today when my heart feels like breaking, I will stop and remember that grief is the price we pay for loving and the only reason I hurt is because I had the privilege of loving so much. Just for today I will not compare myself with others. I am fortunate to be who I am and have had my child for as long as I did. Just for today I will allow myself to be happy, for I know that I am not deserting him by living on. Just for today I will accept that I did not die when my child did, my life did go on, and I am the only one who can make that life worthwhile once more. ~ written by Vicki Tushingham ~ In Memory of Jason - 6/28/77 ~ 2/2/05 __________________ ~ While the light lasts I shall remember and in the darkness I shall not forget ~

03-15-2009, 02:48 PM	#6 (permalink)
deedee Member Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Faith~Hope~Love Posts: 935	I'm glad it brings you comfort (((maggie))) ... I think it describes so fittingly a mother's grief and journey through the pain. I posted it on the 4th anniversary of my son's death. For so long, the only way I could survive was a day at a time. Today I feel a peace I wouldn't have known without recovery and acceptance, even though I love and miss my child every single day. Prayers of comfort and healing to you and all who know this pain. ~ deedee __________________ ~ While the light lasts I shall remember and in the darkness I shall not forget ~

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FreeBird09 I grew my wings to fly... Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: STATE OF CONTENTMENT Posts: 289	deedee, thank you for this. I lost my only daughter and my first grandson in a tragic car accident 2/1/08. My heart is bleeding every second of the day. I lean on my faith to get me through. __________________ :praying

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lostwithin Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Helena MT Posts: 4	Wow that is beautiful can I save it ? My daughter took the journey 2 1/2 years ago. Thanks Lostwithin

02-26-2009, 03:48 PM	#3 (permalink)
Maggiemac Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Westland, Pennsylvania Posts: 247	Thanks so much that was so moving. I lost my son 11-19-08, That is how my heart feels grief is so heavy. Thanks Maggiemac

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*Morning Glory* Administrator Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: CA Posts: 10,122 Blog Entries: 2	Thank you deedee. Hugs and prayers for all.

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Maggiemac Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Westland, Pennsylvania Posts: 247	Dee Dee I come and read your post a couple of times a week I love it so. Thanks again for posting it. A friend, Maggiemac

05-03-2009, 06:40 PM	#10 (permalink)
Angelic17 Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Earth Posts: 1,258 Blog Entries: 12	This is so beautiful Deedee. It is important to let your self heal. The love you have for your child never dies. That will last into eternity. Thank You for posting this, and sharing it with all of us. I am so sorry about the loss of your son. My heart goes out to you. __________________ Love the addict Hate the disease If you think you can, Or if you think you can't Either way your right.

05-05-2009, 12:38 PM	#11 (permalink)
Maggiemac Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Westland, Pennsylvania Posts: 247	Just dropped in to read this again. I gives me some relief is my sorrow. your friend, Maggiemac

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Gman5150 Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 21	Thank you i needed that today, i miss you joshua.12/31/88 - 6/12/2004

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Believe808 Miracles Happen Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 9,977	My heart hurts and cries for all of you who have lost a child.

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utopia Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Australia Posts: 751	a close friend of mine just lost her son to suicide. we pray to remain thankful for life, to keep invested in faith and to be filled with loving kindness for ourselves and all that we do. we pray that just for today, our higher power will grant us peace and solace while we hurt. peace be with us all.

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endzoner Being Me for the first time Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Wishek, North Dakota Posts: 1,159 Blog Entries: 12	Thank you Dee Dee , what a touching poem. I lost my daughter at the age of 4 days , this March she would be 6 . this time of yr is tuff on me . ~ huggles to all the moms ~ __________________ Soberity is Flipping Fantastic!

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04-01-2010, 09:46 AM	#17 (permalink)
Maggiemac Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Westland, Pennsylvania Posts: 247	Just needed to stop by and read this just one more time. Thanks DEE Maggiemac

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Chenowth Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 49	DeeDee, Thank you so much for this post! It is just what I needed today. We lost our daughter on June 19, 2010. Today, is my mom's birthday who left us 12 years ago, so I was feeling a little blue. Hugs! Candy

08-20-2010, 07:17 AM	#20 (permalink)
stefanie Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Home Posts: 179	Deedee, Thank you so much for this post. I lost my 23 year old son to a heroin overdose in June. This post is very helpful. hugs, Stef

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