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|02-02-2009, 10:27 AM||#1 (permalink)|
Join Date: Aug 2001
Just for Today - Loss of Child
Just for today I will try to live through the next 24 hours and not expect to get over my childís death, but instead learn to live with it, just one day at a time.
Just for today I will remember my childís life, not just his death, and bask in the comfort of all those treasured days and moments we shared.
Just for today I will forgive all the family and friends who didnít help or comfort me the way I needed them to. They truly did not know how.
Just for today I will smile no matter how much I hurt on the inside, for maybe if I smile a little, my heart will soften and I will begin to heal.
Just for today I will reach out to comfort a relative or friend of my child, for they are hurting too, and perhaps we can help each other.
Just for today I will free myself from my self-inflicted burden of guilt, for deep in my heart I know if there was anything in this world I could have done to save my child from death, I would have done it.
Just for today I will honor my childís memory by doing something with another child because I know that would make my own child proud.
Just for today I will offer my hand in friendship to another bereaved parent for I do know how they feel.
Just for today when my heart feels like breaking, I will stop and remember that grief is the price we pay for loving and the only reason I hurt is because I had the privilege of loving so much.
Just for today I will not compare myself with others. I am fortunate to be who I am and have had my child for as long as I did.
Just for today I will allow myself to be happy, for I know that I am not deserting him by living on.
Just for today I will accept that I did not die when my child did, my life did go on, and I am the only one who can make that life worthwhile once more.
~ written by Vicki Tushingham ~
In Memory of Jason - 6/28/77 ~ 2/2/05
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|03-15-2009, 02:48 PM||#6 (permalink)|
Join Date: Aug 2001
I'm glad it brings you comfort (((maggie))) ... I think it describes so fittingly a mother's grief and journey through the pain. I posted it on the 4th anniversary of my son's death. For so long, the only way I could survive was a day at a time. Today I feel a peace I wouldn't have known without recovery and acceptance, even though I love and miss my child every single day.
Prayers of comfort and healing to you and all who know this pain.
|05-03-2009, 05:17 PM||#9 (permalink)|
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Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: STATE OF CONTENTMENT
deedee, thank you for this. I lost my only daughter and my first grandson in a tragic car accident 2/1/08. My heart is bleeding every second of the day. I lean on my faith to get me through.
|05-03-2009, 06:40 PM||#10 (permalink)|
Join Date: Feb 2009
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This is so beautiful Deedee. It is important to let your self heal. The love you have for your child never dies. That will last into eternity. Thank You for posting this, and sharing it with all of us. I am so sorry about the loss of your son. My heart goes out to you.
Love the addict
Hate the disease
If you think you can, Or if you think you can't
Either way your right.
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|10-19-2009, 08:48 PM||#14 (permalink)|
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Los Angeles CA
Oh, how I wish I had seen this Just for Today back then. What a gift of a post. I appreciate reading it even six years after her death.
Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.
|01-27-2010, 06:51 PM||#15 (permalink)|
Join Date: Sep 2004
a close friend of mine just lost her son to suicide. we pray to remain thankful for life, to keep invested in faith and to be filled with loving kindness for ourselves and all that we do. we pray that just for today, our higher power will grant us peace and solace while we hurt. peace be with us all.
|01-27-2010, 07:37 PM||#16 (permalink)|
Being Me for the first time
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: Wishek, North Dakota
Blog Entries: 12
Thank you Dee Dee , what a touching poem. I lost my daughter at the age of 4 days , this March she would be 6 . this time of yr is tuff on me . ~ huggles to all the moms ~
Soberity is Flipping Fantastic!
|08-09-2010, 04:46 PM||#19 (permalink)|
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: San Diego, CA
Thank you so much for this post! It is just what I needed today. We lost our daughter on June 19, 2010. Today, is my mom's birthday who left us 12 years ago, so I was feeling a little blue.
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