My Dad

[KELS1961]

My father passed away 7 years ago fromliver cancer,
He was a herion user formany years. He had quit and was puton methdone.
It finally got him.It was horrible to see he went pretty quick.
My momhad divorced him many many years ago bacause of his drug habit. but us kids always saw him he was a good man and he told meit was the hardest thing getting off herion. So the doc put him on methdone to stay off the herion which I think was just as bad. Back then I do not think they had rehabs and things like that.
When he was dying he said to me and my brother see what drugs do to you look at me and it was true. My brother and I never did drugs Thank the Lord.
But how Imiss my dad he was so funny he fed eery stray animal he saw. I wouldgo visit him and there would be a new shaggy dog and Iwouldsay dad where did you getthis dog he said well he followedmehome what could I do!!!
Yes when we werelittle he put my mom through hell she worked very hard to raise 3 kids but when he dying my mom came to the hospital and sat and held his hand and talked to him it was private between them.
I hate drugs my dad had a choice and he took the wrong way and he paid in the end. It caught up with him many years after he stopped using,
I feel he is at peace now but all the years we could have still had with him.
So dad I love you and miss you.
Please preach and tell your kids all you can about drugs because the end is not pretty.
Kelli...

[kelsh]

but he was sober & had been sober 23 years when he died in 2000. It has been 8 years since he died & 12 years since my Mom died. My Dad had complications with his heart & eventually died when he was 86 when his heart had adnormal rythmns that needed to have his heart stopped & shocked back to normal rythmn. This procedure would only last a month & then he needed it again so I finally said no when they asked me if I wanted it done again.

My Mom died four years before Dad & had to be put in a specilty nursing home for people on respirators. She had COPD with complications of not being strong enough to eat because it took too much of her energy for the breathing and she also had congestive heart failure.

My Dad took care of Mom at home as long as he could with my brother's help. But when my Brother walked in the house & found Mom & Dad on the floor by the bathroom door...he called the ambulance for my Mom. Dad had been trying to get Mom to the bathroom. I lived an eight hour drive away and was still working then but got over as much as I could to see both of them. They hadn't been separated but for two times...when Dad was in the Navy during World War II & when Dad went to alcohol treatment.

I miss my Mom & Dad very much and have my Brother to be concerned about but know I cannot help him until he is ready to be helped with his alcohol problem. He sobered up for 14 years & started drinking again after his second divorce.

Now he just had a heart attack & I haven't been able to get in touch with him or his son yet because I was in the hospital for a manic attack for 10 days & my daughter waited to tell me until I got home from the hospital. I was there for 10 days.

My hard times for missing my parents are on their birthdays & Mother's & Father's Day. I talk to them as if they are up over-looking me & my family. I was sober before they died and am so thankful for that.

I just say a little prayer for my parents often...usually the Serenity Prayer & also for my Brother. :ghug

kelsh

[indigo]

Love and light coming across the ocean.:praying

[historyteach]

Kels,
Thank you for sharing your positive thoughts and memories about your dad...
My thoughts and prayers are with you. :praying
Shalom!