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|08-02-2008, 09:38 AM||#1 (permalink)|
Join Date: Oct 2003
Location: Rhode Island
"How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again"
My mother is very ill.
My dad died suddenly and very unexpectedly six years ago in May. That June, my mom had back surgery. Right afterwards, she had a terrible flare up of her Rhumatoid arthritis. She's had arthritis her entire adult life, and has always had it under control. Indeed, she and my dad always went dancing; she gardened, walked, swam, etc... even though her hands and joints were knarled and bent. She believed that keeping active kept her from being crippled. One doctor didn't believe she had RA; he said she would be in a wheel chair if she had it that long. Well, she wasn't. She was too busy living her life. That is untill two of life's stressors hit her in a row. The loss of my dad and major surgery. Since then, she's gone right down hill. And it's been six years....She's in constant pain.
They took her to the hospital today. The priest gave her last rites. She wants to die. She asked my brother why she just can't go....
She's changed her living will. She no longer wants to be recessitated. No measures are to be taken. If her heart or anything else goes, she is to be allowed to die.
I was with her yesterday. I've never seen her so bad. She was in and out of it. And she couldn't even walk to the bathroom - a first. Even the nurse was surprised.
This is a reading that she wants me to read at her funeral. I thought I would share it with you. It's quite lovely.
But, with faith in G*D, we know that there is continuity; that it is as it should be. As hard as it is to accept sometimes.
Please say a prayer for my mom...
|08-02-2008, 09:44 AM||#3 (permalink)|
Leap of Faith Survivor
Join Date: Dec 2007
How beautiful and for me as well, how true...
prayers of strength , love and light for you and your mom.
You need to give up the life you have in order to have the life that is
waiting for you.
|08-02-2008, 09:47 AM||#5 (permalink)|
Join Date: Nov 2002
Location: Bristol TN/VA
Blog Entries: 5
I will hold both of you in my thoughts. What a special lady, I can tell!
The reading is one of the most beautiful I have ever seen and it tells so much about her.
We can know that she will no longer suffer pain, and her beauty and character remain.
She sounds very peaceful about it.
I will be holding your hand,
Each small candle lights a corner of the dark....Roger Waters
|08-02-2008, 10:34 AM||#6 (permalink)|
the girl can't help it
Join Date: Apr 2004
Blog Entries: 3
Darling I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. It's so difficult letting the ones we love go.
It sounds like her spirit is in fine shape. I love the poem really a fine way to say see ya later.
nice has a hisssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss
|08-03-2008, 09:58 AM||#8 (permalink)|
Join Date: Aug 2001
My heart and prayers are with you and your mom ... may you find peace and comfort at this difficult time.
with love ~
|08-14-2008, 10:43 AM||#11 (permalink)|
Join Date: Nov 2003
Location: Mid-Life Express
May your mom finally be reunited with her beloved and rest in peace.I will now be praying for the rest of the family, who will be grief stricken although they will be celebrating her life.
When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself." Namasté
|08-19-2008, 05:40 PM||#12 (permalink)|
Join Date: Oct 2003
Location: Rhode Island
My mom passed on 13 August 2008.
We had a lovely memorial ceremony which was a celebration of her life.
There were few tears; much music, laughter and prayer. The assistant at the funeral home told me today that it was "the best one they've ever had!"
A mass of Christian burial followed the next day.
We will scatter her ashes on 1 September 2008, at the same place we did my dad's.
It is all as she wanted.
Her obit is located at www.onhfh.com
Her name is Constance M. K. and it is located on the right hand side of the page according to the date of departure from this life. There's a lovely pic of her there; it's her favorite one.
I am grateful for all your loving support during this difficult time.
My mom is at peace; we carry on.
|08-19-2008, 06:44 PM||#13 (permalink)|
Join Date: Aug 2004
Location: Deeeep South
They that love beyond the world
cannot be separated by it.
Death cannot kill
what never dies.
— William Penn
What a beautiful woman...a lovely picture indeed... thoughts are with you and your family, teach, as well as prayers.
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